| From my experience with my daughter, you should seriously check into if a bully may be the culprit. I had a terrible time at home with her, until her bully nearly broke her arm. When the bullying stopped, I got a much calmer kid. These kids cannot express themselves well when overwhelmed. You must be a determined detective: talk to other kids, have teachers talk to other kids. Someone knows something. As to the threats, take them seriously. Talk to your doctor, or the school counselor at the very least. Don't demand answers if your son can't tell you, but you can reaffirm that you love him, are there for him. I have a policy with my kid, daring but necessary. I reaffirm my love and support and desire to keep her safe, and tell her that if something is truly wrong she can tell me anything and won't get in trouble for it. This paid off when the next year she acted up again. With this approach, she told me of another bully. My kid couldn't believe she wouldn't get in trouble for talking, until I flat out said that I wanted to keep her safe without a repeat of her prior injury, that I had no use for punishment for simple broken rules when she was in danger of injury. These kids are so used to being the center of negative attention that they actually assume telling will get them more negative attention. A tool must be in place to say otherwise, and they CAN understand. At 9 years old with severe ADHD she understood my concern with this approach and she talked. A simple note to the bus driver, no theatrics on my part, a second affirmation of my support, and my child was SO much happier, so relieved. "That's it?" She was amazed. These kids are so hard to parent, yes. But having the extra challenges to seeing them succeed in small things has made my kid so dear to me even as I pull out my hair. They have problems, but have such gifts in other areas. They are so vulnerable in some ways. My heart goes out to you. Don't hesitate to talk to your doctor about your son's behavior. ↑ |
| Hello. I am a teacher entering my 8th year and my son is in the process of being diagnosed with ADHD. From my experience if he is threatening to hurt himself then he is crying out for help. Talk to the teacher and the counselor or principal. By doing this you are holding the teacher accountable and have another point of view. I would ask for a meeting with both at the same time and plead your case. I am type A so I would even have documentation of what is happening at home. This will help them see what is going on and might help out. Praying for you! ↑ |
