hi kathyk, my son who has adhd and ? odd was the exact same, he always wanted to sleep in my bed. when i started to encourage him to sleep in his own bed, i would find him in either his brothers or his sister's room sleeping on their floor! he is 12 now and still wants to sleep in my bed but i am more successful to encourage him to sleep in his own bed but like u mentioned when ur so tired u do giv in and i am guilty of that. this past few months he maybe sleeps in my bed once or twice a week, this is a vast improvement. it take time i'm afraid and alot of patients. i recently bought my son a double bed and i found it has gav him more space to wriggle about which he seems to be liking and lots of pillows as he likes to wrap himself around them! my son responded well to praise in the morning. maybe start off with getting ur son to sleep once a week in his own bed, then two nites, etc. the change must be slow for it to work. take care wendy ↑ |
it very difficult i too have gone through thid but hsve found a happy medium with lots of consistancy, with odd children it very important not to give in it takes 6 months to 9 months to change a behaviour so dont give up it will work just stick to it and have supports like family to spent the night in your room to help if you get tired it will work just hang in their. odd children love to make haveck and try to get you to bend and if they scream loud and know you will cave they will always keep trying that old behaviour but if you hold strong and not cave in once and it becomes successful the child will then realize you mean what you say and will less likely to use that behaviour in other things as long. it will get less and less time to change other things. i know its hard i did the same thing and gave in after a month it wasnt till a worker came to my home and encouraged me and now that i see the results im glad i stuck it out. know my son knows only on weekends he can sleep in my bed and some weekends he actually forgets to ask now so i dont remind him unless hes asking during the week. hes weaning himself now that there is no power and cotrol issues. i showed him whos boss didnt let him win now less hassles. ill be praying for you and wish you peace and joy for the future. hang in there you can do it. ↑ |