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Name: Pam
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Just wondering if anyone would know. I am a stepmom of a 3 year old and 17 weeks pregnant. We have him every week for 3 days. But i am just worried that he will not really be excepting of the baby. Am i wrong?
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Name: vonda | Date: Sep 21st, 2005 4:10 AM
I'm a stepmom, as well as a mother of 3beautiful children.Your thoughts are normal. As long as you treat the both of them fair and with lots of love. He will accept the baby with open arms. Also, make him feel important and get him involved. Go shopping for the baby and let him choose an outfit or two. Ask for his opinion. In other words, include him in the pregnancy. It worked for us. Our 2 older kids girl 10 & boy 5yrs old (stepson 13 years old) love their lil sister 2 months. It started when she was in the womb. They went to the doctor appointments, picked out clothes, throw away pampers...you name it they have done it. As long as you make them feel a part of the family! 

Name: Tricia | Date: Oct 26th, 2005 2:13 PM
I think you have to help them to be excited. My husband has two kids and we are trying for our frist. My stepson who is four ahs an amazing ability to pick up on everything. He realized shorthly after we started trying what was going on, and he had a lot of questions. At first I was nervous, I wasn't sure how everyone would handle the news. So in turn Michael became nervous about the prospect of having a new baby. But his mom( she and i are close) chose to trying and get him excited so she bought a book of baby names and another on baby care so he will be ready to help when the time comes. So I think kids do a lot of feeding off your emotions, and what your are feeling will affect how they feel. 

Name: chelsie | Date: Nov 9th, 2005 6:32 PM
im preagnat and i have a 2 year old stepson...im worried about how he will except it...hes very smart for his age but im worried about him hitting or throwing stuff at the baby...his mother dosnt disapline him so he throws things and hits people and when we yell at him he dosnt listen. 

Name: Pam to Chelsie | Date: Dec 8th, 2005 4:39 AM
Hi, just read what u wrote. I understand what ur saying. I am in the same situation. My step son listens to me at times, but then he doesn't. He pretty much runs over his mom remember hes only 3. I'm sure he will be ok with the baby, just cause he's excited and when he sees ultrasounds hes like theres my sister. You just need to let you step child know that you love him and that nothing will change when the baby comes. 

Name: neon | Date: Dec 12th, 2005 10:22 AM
Hi
I'm on the other end here, my son is 3 and his fathers girlfriend is about to give birth and my son is so excited!
I agree with the others, try to include him in the pregnancy and share the excitement with him.
Good Luck! 

Name: bianca | Date: Jan 4th, 2006 2:44 AM
I have a five month and am a stepmother of a 13 yearold boy and a four year old boy. the four year old does not live with us but he also visits us on the weekend. he loves coming over cause he has that family environment and my biggest concern was him being jealous of the child. I started feeling better when i was pregnant and he would talk about how hes going to be a big brother and protect his baby brother. It made me feel better. he is a big help but i see how he acts sometimes when my husband is playing with baby. he'll come and run over for a hug or a kiss because he may be feeling left out. i have told my husband that we need to sit down and talk to him now. so yes and no to your question. talk to the little one about the child. try and find books about big siblings helping their little siblings. hope i was some help to you 


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Name: Raquel | Date: Mar 21st, 2006 2:59 PM
I have the same situation, (by now you must've had your baby--congrats if so) and mostly I think my 6 year old stepson will react jealously....but I have been reading about it and most children, step or no, feel jealous of the new baby even if they love the baby. 

Name: kelly | Date: Mar 22nd, 2006 10:53 PM
I'm a teen who was in a situation where my dad remarried this lady with a son my age when I was 5 and then they had another baby. The problem was that they said that the baby would live in my room if it was a girl or his room if it was a boy, therefore I had to sleep with a crying infant whenever I went over. Plus. the stepmother believed that if the baby cries you shouldn't go to it right away, just let it cry and then it will learn not to cry after a while. It was awful!! Plus, because my father had his new perfect family, free from divorce, I thought the new baby girl was replacing me in his family. Needless to say I was very bitter and angry towards her for many years. I even continued to say that I was an only child and didn't count my half sister because I didn'tlive with her and only saw her approx. once a month after my father and stepmother divorced. I am feeling a bit better towards her now but I still can't help feeling jealous sometimes, I don't want to, it just happens. 

Name: charmaine | Date: Mar 23rd, 2006 10:38 AM
I'm the stepmum of a 4 yr old who we have residency of, mother of a 3 yr old from a previous relationship and with my partner we have an 8 month old daughter and I'm 6 months pregnant.. my stepson was great when my daughter was born, he didnt really understand that she was coming but knew very well when she was born and is a great big brother. he knows there is another baby on the way but isnt as interested in it as my son is but when this bubs is born im sure he will be just as great. just make sure you talk to your stepson about it all and have him involved. hes bound to be a great big brother you just have to let him :) 

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Name: sqtepmom | Date: Oct 1st, 2007 12:25 PM
what do you mean that he would not be a expecting a baby 

Name: quintepmom | Date: Oct 1st, 2007 12:31 PM
i have a step daughter who thinks it is boring to come over she is 11yrs old she has 2 other brothers who are 10 and 8 and a sister who is 7 frm my husband and i have a 10 yr old boy she rather be around her moms family than for her to spent time with her dads family us and her does mom not does not care if she wants to come over she lets her make her own decision as if she was a grown woman all she cares about is receving her money any suggestion on what we should do 

Name: kasey | Date: Oct 29th, 2007 9:11 PM
i'm scared i'm 8 months preg. i don't think my boyfriend want 2 have thiis baby wit me.please help 

Name: blendedfamily6 | Date: Oct 31st, 2007 10:00 PM
like any 3 year old there will be times when he will accept the baby and other times when he will feel frustrated this happens with all 3 year olds!! 

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Name: t_bear_smith | Date: Jun 21st, 2008 2:32 AM
Hi, I am a stepmom to a 6 year-old, who I have raised since he was 1.5 years. My husband and I were high school sweet hearts, broke up, along came Braxton unexpectedly, then we got back together. Next thing you know, we're married and then planning our son, who is now 3 years-old. They get along great, and love each other so much. But I am the stepmom, and the BM is more like MY third child than the BM. All the stories here are about stepmoms who take the backseat, for whatever reason or another, and the BM's who are controlling, manipulating, etc. Well I feel for all of you, because I know it hasn't been easy for me either. But I am the main "mother-figure" in B's (stepson) life than she does. She's been in-and-out of jail, not to mention other things...my husband and I have full custody of him. She has visitation, and more summer time. But I make the apt.s, get haircuts, joined PTA, and keep track of his teacher, homework, and everything else! She complains that I am "taking her position," yet she does nothing herself, or takes no initiative. Since my husband and I have a son-B's brother- I have to include him and do things for him that I would normally do for my own son. I can't stand the BM, but it works out cuz I am in charge of everything....and she finally accepted that. If you think I'm harsh, just google "Jada Yablonski" and see what she went to jail for in Bedford County, PA! Anyway, B is a very happy and active, thriving 6 year-old. Getting ready to celebrate his 7th B-day with a huge pool party. His Dad and I always go all out for him, just like we do our son, and he loves it. He loves going to him mom's too...which we support and encourage fully, bc we wish she would do the same. Unfortanately, she bad-mouths us, even though she is the one bouncing around from bf to bf. my husband and I have lived in our house (we own) for B's whole life since he was one, (the past 5 yrs.). Anyway, I love my stepson...it's not always easy, but he needs me, since his BM is such a nut. 

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Name: maria | Date: Jan 11th, 2009 6:57 AM
im 8month pregnant and my husband is always fighting with me when i go once a week to my mothers house ,but not only that he is always putting my self sesteem down saying that he is better than me that i will never be as goo as help in this world .i really want to know if i can leave my house with out any problems for when i get divorce 

Name: Billie | Date: Feb 24th, 2009 7:20 PM
I am a stepmother of two children. One in-particular that I can't seem to understand right from wrong. She is 8. She seems to manipulate me and her father alot. Her mother is not in her life. Because she chooses not to be. My stepdaughter doesn't seem to respect me. I do all the things that are expected as a mom for her, but never get that rewarding feeling that a mom should get. She gets me and her father to not know that she went to one asking something and they say no, and then comes to the other and they say yes..then it starts a ugly arguement between me and her father. I feel like we are constantly repeating ourselves telling her to do this or that. Things that we told her 2-3 minutes ago..and she is smart enought to know these things..she just throws fits those. She has to find someone to let her get her way or she cries or acts out until you feel so bad that you give in. I don't kow what to do. I've been told to be her friend, then I've been told to be authoritive. Which do I do? And how the heck do I do anything? I have a most wonderful relationship with the 7 almost 8 year old boy. but she is completely different. I'm worried that something such as this could tear up my relationship with my husband. 

Name: kendall | Date: Apr 8th, 2009 4:34 AM
I have two step kdis one boy and one girl . the boy is 6 and the girl is ten now. But when my daughter who is 19months was born he was 4years old. he wanted to help and love her 

Name: raquel | Date: Jul 25th, 2009 12:40 AM
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Name: kelly | Date: Sep 5th, 2009 5:03 PM
Im going to be a stepmom to my boyfriend new born baby and a wife to him. 

Name: sarah | Date: Jan 31st, 2010 4:59 PM
Hi I am a stepmom and I need some advise. My husband and I have a 13mths old and my stepson that is 6yrs. I have had him since he was 3. HIs father and I have full custody of him. He has always excepted me and came to me for everything. I have always been the one that takes care of him school activites, sports. buy clothes, hair cutts, you name it I do it. Even after the baby was born everything one fine i treated them both the same and never put one before the other. His BM is remarried also and has another child, she does nothing when it comes to my stepson. I use to think that he realized how much i loved him and that i was always the one that did everything for him. Here recently evertime i go to do something for him he says well my mom does it better or makes a comment of some sort, and now he has been telling me that he has a mom that loves him and he doesnt need me anymore. I havent changed the way i treat him or anything so what should I do. I dont want to seem like a cry baby but it doesnt hurt when he makes comments of that sort 

Name: sarah | Date: Jan 31st, 2010 5:02 PM
on my post i meant to say it does hurt when he makes those comments 

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