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Name: melanineva

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This is a complicated story.

I have an inconventional marriage. I have a part-time boyfriend and a full-time husband. My bf and I see eachother the first week of every month for one night and we practice very safe sex. My husband is the only man I will sleep with...without protection. I discovered I was pregnant last night. My conception date would be the 9th of November. My bf and I had sex, I think, the 6th. My husband and I had sex the 9th and 12th. I know how silly it is to worry about becoming pregnant by a man when they used a condom (the right way!) but I am afraid. My husband only wants to have children with me and same feelings for me. I only want children with my husband. Should I worry that the child would be my bf's? Sex once, reliable condoms for two years, one day...I dont know. I am so scared of this.

I would probably stress myself out the entire 9 months over this stuff.

Any similar stories? ↓

Name: melanineva | Date: Dec 2nd, 2008 2:12 AM

"Unconventional** sorry mis typing ↑

Name: Anon Ymus | Date: Dec 11th, 2008 6:29 AM

Sorry to sound judgmental, but you knew the risks you were taking by having a boyfriend that you didn't want a child with. If you felt that strongly about not carrying someone else's child, then you shouldn't have slept with him. Of course the chance is very low since you used a condom, but still, there is a very small chance it could be his.

Now that you are pregnant, you can take this opportunity to focus on your marriage. No matter which way the paternity test goes, you and the baby will be much better off if you put your husband as the first priority. The sperm donor is not the same as a dad. A "dad" is the person who is there, day in, day out, to change diapers, wipe noses, read bedtime stories, etc. So who will be the everyday dad when the baby comes? ↑