I can sympathize with your situation. I am married and have my own 11y/o daughter and my husband has a 9y/o and 6y/o girls who he has joint custody of. We have the girls every other week for a week at a time. My husband is wonderful and the girls are too. We are very close and they love me as much as I love them. They are though always seeking attention from my husband/their dad which I understand but it leaves very little for he and I as a couple. Every night after dinner we all sit together in the living room and his two girls sit on his lap the whole time. while I am squished in the corner of the love seat. I know it sounds a bit selfish and then again maybe not. The girls definitely need his attention, I understand, but if he and I cannot keep the connection as a couple then where does that leave us? Also, his ex-wife, the bio-mom, has always tried to get at me in various underhanded ways and I am so tired of it but I feel she is not going to change and I have another 10+ years of this to look forward to. ↑ |