I was with a woman that at the time I thought was having my child, she found out she was expecting soon after we started dating. A year and a half later we have split and I find out that the child isn't mine afterall. My ex had started with holding certain request I had made to continue stregthening my bond with the child and had started to use the child to get certain things from me including money.
I decided after I found out that with everything going on that it would be in the best interest to the child and for myself that I no longer be involved and walked away.
I love the child as my own and miss her dearly and the mother wants me to be involved again, but I fear that coming back into her life after my absence would be confusing as the mother doesn't want me to re-take my role as "Dad" but as something similar to that role.
There is a lot I can offer the child but it is right for me to come back into her life and if my ex starts using her child again what should I do?
The childs grandmother is against me becoming involved again and would undoubtably make comments to the child about my leaving and my lack of love for her....Is this a fair thing to do for the child?
Should I be involved as her something?
What is the best thing for the child now? ↓
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