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Name: jersey

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i live with my partner of 2 years and her 7 year old son that is with us during the week, at his father's on the weekends. I'm more concerned that I have no discipline with the child, he doesn't listen or respect me. He is spoiled by his father and thinks our house is boring becuase he has to go to sleep early and behave in school. He also doesn't mind in school and back talks his mom, doesn't know anything about respect, yes maam or no maam, - basically runs the house that leads to my partner and i argueing alot. it gets to a point that i look forward to his absense more than him being at home with us. Is this normal behavior? should a child be getting away with behavioral problems instead of fixing them wtih grounding him, taking away "fun time" or what not. I'm more concerned i will eventually resent him and this will ruin our relationship.. i just need to hear it's okay to have boundaries and rules in my own house just not that he should be aloud to act crazy becuase his parents are divorced.. does that make any sense] ↓

Name: Daddy2be | Date: Jun 26th, 2008 6:36 PM

maybe is the fact thta your guys are lesbians that is th eproblem...the father could be resentful and tellt he boy to bhave htis certainw ya just to give you guy ome hell. Instead of being mad and disliking the hcild..rtKe him out find a common ground. maybe a trip as the whioole fmily would be nice. if uc are for him and your partner that much you will try your hadest to fix the sit. ↑

Name: betty1057 | Date: Aug 13th, 2008 1:13 AM

STEP PARENTS SHOULD NOT BE THE DISIPLINARY IN THE HOME AND YOU ARE NOT A STEP PARENT A PARENT IS A MOM AND DAD AND THIS LITTLE BOY HAS A MOMK AND DAD YOU WILL HAVE TO SETTLE FOR MAYBE SOMEDAY A FRIEND ↑

Name: betty1057 | Date: Aug 13th, 2008 1:14 AM

P.S. GROW UP A LITTLE...YOU ARE THE ADULT HE IS A CHILD. GET A GRIP ↑

Name: Chef | Date: Nov 6th, 2008 3:03 PM

I disagree with betty!! Children should always respect adults just as adults should respect children. What I see happening here is disrespect for you from your partner. Boundries are very important for children. Unfortunatly when a couple splits and children are involved they sometimes over compensate by giving into the child. Your relationship will not last if your needs are not also met. ↑

Name: SeptemberRain | Date: Dec 2nd, 2008 5:55 PM

As the step-parent, try giving the child more attention and affection (specifically between you, the step-parent, and your step-son). Always remember to praise the child. Create a bond with him based on trust and then ease yourself into a parenting role. It is important to make the child feel he is wanted in your home even if he is not, and remember you play an important role in his emotional and psychological development. You cannot control his dad or your partner, the mother. Gently expect respect from him and remember to give respect in return. And remember, he is only 7. ↑

Name: chef | Date: Dec 9th, 2008 9:35 PM

Great advice from September rain! ↑