hey, my name's katie and i've recently found out I'm 5 weeks pregnant. I have no idea what to do and cannot decide whether I am comfortable with having a child. I am living with my partner, who is a full time chef and does well, but I am still at university. We have been living together for 7 months and been going out for 2 years. I was pregnant before over a year ago, however we decided to have an abortion, as I was still at school and just 18. I am so disasappointed in myself for letting this happen again, how could I be so stupid? We are both also very afraid about telling my parents, who I am very close with, and my dad has already expressed his opinions on what he would do to my partner if he got me pregnant and messed up my education. i dont think he actually would do anything apart from be very dissappointed in me, but i am sure that i will continue university if I do decide to keep this baby. The thought of having another abortion is heart breaking.
Thanx to anyone who reads, any advice would really help. ↓
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| Name: katie | Date: Sep 11th, 2009 3:06 PM |
| I should probably say that my partner already has a child living in england. according to my dad "hes been around the bend" and knows what would happen, so I know he would put all the blame on my partner ↑ |
| Name: mc1128 | Date: Sep 30th, 2009 12:34 AM |
| Katie have you ever considered adoption?? If so let me know!! I have alot of information to offer you!! ↑ |
| Name: ladybird | Date: Dec 16th, 2009 11:01 AM |
If you are very close with your parents, you should definitely tell them. A pregnancy is a huge thing to have to keep to yourself. They can also give you the support you need and help you make a good decision. My parents were stunned and angry at first, but they have also been forgiving and incredibly supportive.
I'm 23 and nearly 5 months pregnant now. I'm single, I've had trouble with school and have no idea where my future lies--no sort of stability or security to provide for a baby. I found an adoption program in my area and am now working with them to find a good home for my child.
What I've found is that adoption is very heartbreaking in it's own way. You can't help but love the child that's growing inside of you (you even have hormones conspiring against you to fall in love with it!), and at some point (a point I've recently hit) you will want to keep it. Nevertheless, I'm very very determined to put the baby's best interests before my own and give it a stable home--one with both a father and a mother who will always be there for it.
On top of that, I'm looking for a couple who are willing to cooperate in an open adoption. They'll send me pictures and updates, and I'll get to come visit the child and be a small part of its life. This is an option if you consider adoption.
I have not personally experienced the sacrifices that come with raising a child. I can only imagine. From what I gather it's the most expensive, labor-intensive, sleep depriving, self-sacrificing thing you can do. And you're stuck with parenthood for the rest of your life. I would not have wanted to give my future away at 19. Heck, I'm certainly not ready for it now. But someday, when I have both a steady relationship with a good man and a steady household, I'll want to start building a family.
If you'd like to talk to me more--either to hear more about my experiences or just to have a shoulder to cry on--I wouldn't mind if you looked me up on myspace. My page is myspace(dot)com(slash)saucyaddax ↑ |
| Name: KC1420 | Date: Dec 16th, 2009 1:52 PM |
ladybird,
are you located in Tulsa? I would like to talk to you if you are still doing adoption for your child.
KC
[email protected] ↑ |
| Name: Mrs.Robards | Date: Dec 20th, 2009 3:52 AM |
Parents never really know how they will react to the situation until they are faced with it at that time and state in their life. Ultimately, Katie, this is your decision. It is a big one and a really tough one, but it is your body and your life and you have the power to make a decision that will be best suited for you and where you are in your life. Regardless of what you choose, everything is going to be okay. This is the most important thing for you to keep in mind. You have options, although people act as though there are many, adoption, abortion, and parenting are your only realistic options. It is up to you to decide which is best for you. Do not let anyone else make this decision or force a decision upon you. Katie, this is your life, I have been there, at eighteen, and I chose what was best for me at that time in my life, abortion. I do not and have never regretted my choice. I made it because regardless of what others around me THOUGHT they knew what was best for me, I knew I was the only one who could truly know. I wish you the very best, please listen to your mind and your heart and choose for you and no one else Katie.
Love, Paige ↑ |
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