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I have a 4yr old daughter with autism. Can we expect our autistic children to keep the same rules as our other children, sitting at the table at meal time, not throw things, no hitting etc. How do you discipline? Time out? I feel like I am upset at her all the time. anyone else feel the same? ↓
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| Name: jennmom1 | Date: Dec 6th, 2006 5:51 PM |
| Hi Jadynsmom. Frustrated i see? I understand! My son used to be so hard to take places...he would throw fits. Is your daughter in ABA? It really helps. Now about your question. Every parent is going to feel differently about this and thats okay, but, since you asked for opinions...I think you can expect a lot of the same things from your autistic daughter as we would expect from typically developing children; as far as certain behaivor goes. Your daughter will do what you allow her to do. Please don't take this as me implying that you are doing something wrong, i'm not. We had to make our son sit at the table, use a spoon, sleep in a big boy bed, learn not to throw things..ect. Don't think about all of those things at once...just one at a time as they occur. You know what proper behaivor is like. If your daughter refuses to sit at the table and eat my suggestion to you is to tell her in simple words, "sit at table and eat or no eat" If she refuses then leave her food at the table and don't let her eat, everytime she wants food sit her at the table and praise her for sitting there. Tell her what a good girl she is for sitting at the table. Treat those parts of it like she is a normal child. Of course there are things that are going to be difficult for her that you have to try and understand such as texture issues with foods (she can't help that), or being overwhelmed at family gatherings (especially now that it's the holidays), she may need an escape there and thats okay. My son used to do the things you describe and gradually those behaivors disappeared as we enforced things. If you are unsure about this or need somewhere to start you can get online and go the www.lovaas.com they have lots of info. for parents to start ABA on their own. Trust me ABA works wonders! Anyhow, I hope that helps and please don't take anything I said as you not doing right by your daughter...I think the fact that you are asking questions shows how much you care and i'm sure you only want what is in her best interest. Good luck to you!! If I can help you in any please email me at [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: yosamity | Date: Dec 10th, 2006 2:23 AM |
| I definetly understand what your saying I have a 3 and a half year old autistic boy and a 1 and a half year old boy.My autistic child is very easily upsetted and can become agressive and I know it is caused by his disability but he needs to have a concequence after every time he hits or throws things etc. He will still do these things no matter what the disipline is but he will do it less and less the more he has a concequence. ↑ |
| Name: niffer66 | Date: Dec 11th, 2006 12:29 PM |
| My son screams (moreless shrieks) all of the time. I connot discipline him because he is so loud that he cannot even hear what I am saying. Especially out in public. ↑ |
| Name: jennmom1 | Date: Dec 12th, 2006 8:58 PM |
| Niffer: Have you tried to contact an ABA institute for some information? ABA has wonderful techniques to help you discipline your autistic child and to help get them under control. My husband and I used to have a very hard time with our son; he would scream all of the time. We could hardly take him anywhere without him causing a huge scene. I would suggest that you contact ABC located in sacramento or BEST in Stockton (both in California) you don't have to live there to get information. They can offer you help and some reading literature. Also, try the Lovaas Institute. They have ways for parents to work on ABA at home even if services aren't offered in their area. If you try anything with your child to help them...trust me, please, this works! Good Luck to you family. If you need any help please don't hesitate to email me at [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: robinjoud | Date: Dec 13th, 2006 2:08 AM |
ABA (positive reinforcement)works great for us! My son is 6 years old and Dx c autism at age 18
months. We started ABA at 3 years old and it has done wonders for us. ABA also works great with our other kids. To be honest, my autistic son is better behaved than my other 2 kids. ↑ |
| Name: dana6 | Date: Dec 15th, 2006 12:12 PM |
| yes i feel the same way, he WILL not sit at the table, we had to buy this chair that has straps like a car seat because he was climbing on top of the table and was falling off and hurting himself, and when he is in it all he does is rock back anfd forth so hard it looks like he is going to tip over, so we just let him walk around when eating because he is very underweight and he needs all the food we can get in him going out to a restaurent is a laugh unless we take his chair because he tries to climb out and get on the table the whole time we are there, he throws thins all the time to, and even though he is not talking yet boy can he scream!!!!! he calls MAAAAAA for everything and everyone, even in public, he calls it out. he also says no to everything even if he wants it so it makes it really hard to know what he wants, well so far we found that brushing his arms and legs and hands and feet and then giving him a deep pressure massage every 2 hours really seems to calm him down, another thing that works for him is he like to be up on my shoulder and then i thump his back, over and over you can feel his whole body relax............they have not given us a answer to what he has really...they said he has a gross motor delay, mixed expressive/perceptive language dissorder, sensory issues, and he has sxcessive sleeppiness, and the neurologist said he saw allot of early signs of aspergers...he is 2 today yiiiiipppiiieee ↑ |
| Name: lindacaperna | Date: Dec 20th, 2006 11:29 AM |
Do you use visual supports with your daughter, eg. charts. So that she knows what's expected of her. A positive behavior system with stickers, tokens might help also. Reinforcing good behaviors always is a good way to begin. Autistic children need visuals to help them figure out what adults expect out of them. Even Social Stories are a good way of teaching them discipline.
Linda ↑ |
| Name: lindacaperna | Date: Dec 21st, 2006 11:07 AM |
Do you use visual supports, eg. charts, activity schedules, reinforcement charts, to help with discipline, routines, etc... Have you ever gone on Elija.org Its a great web site for parents with autistic kids. They are based on Long Island. Give that a look.
Linda ↑ |
| Name: jacksmom | Date: Jan 28th, 2007 3:54 AM |
Sharing this just in case you haven't heard of some natural ways to try and help heal a child with autism.....
After the 12 mos. vaccines my son gradually slipped into autism. He was head-banging, hand-flapping, twirling, lost speech, lost eye contact and he just withdrew.
Now two years later.... no head-banging, no twirling, no flapping, has eye contact and is starting to verbalize again. And... he has Down Syndrome to boot. :) Yes... even kids with DS get autism. Actually they get it at a higher rate.
What helped him? First I give God praise.... our son wouldn't be here without Him and we prayed and I believe He guided us. Second... supplements. Especially cod liver oil. I recommend Green Pastures CLO with the X factor. Check out Dr. Mary Megson's work on the web. http://www.diet-studies.com/megson.html Our Jack healed gradually... but he is healing. I actually had to make myself GET USED TO him not twirling everything any more!
Also check out Dr. Amy Yasko's work. www.holistichealth.com
We give Jack alot of supps - cod liver oil, probiotic, magnesium citrate, tart cherry and recently we added cilantro. He takes some other things too but each child is unique. It helps to find a good naturopathic MD or chiropractor.
Don't give up. There is hope! And... I will be frank here.... many mainstream doctors know squat about how to heal autism. Don't let that throw you. There are people who do know how to help. God bless you! Love, Jack's Mom :) ↑ |
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