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Name: Anna Banana

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Hello all. I have a 3 year old son who is diagnosed with mild autism. We recently moved back home and are lucky enough to be around friends and family again. My son has done wonderfully with everyone (even strangers), but he keeps rejecting his grandmother. A lot of the time, even just when she enters a room, he will yell and try to push her away or look for his father or me. Needless to say this is very upsetting to us, especially my mother since she is the only one that he seems to have a problem with. Sometimes I know she doesn't really understand what is going on in his head, but I don't want her to give up on him. We try to get them to spend more time together during the week so that he can get used to her. The behavior mostly seems to happen in our home and not as much in hers. We are contemplating making him do time outs when he acts this way so that he knows that this kind of behavior is unacceptable. Has anyone else had this kind of problem, and if so, what did you do about it? I don't know any other parents who have autistic children so any advice I get now are from people who don't really understand. Please help if possible. I want my mother to be able to enjoy her one and only grandchild. Thanks! ↓

Name: Edwardliu | Date: Jan 13th, 2012 9:35 PM

Your attitude is the most important. Show him how you love your mother and how your mother love you. When he screams and yells, grandma still comes in. Just ignore him. Let grandma hug his father and you clap hand for that. Let grandma hug you and he claps hand for you. Let the little one watch. He would change his mind. It just need time and more practices. ↑

Name: Jacobis_mom1102 | Date: Jan 25th, 2012 10:54 PM

My son is 3yrs old as well and he doesn't seem to like his god mother when we went to her house he'd cry every time he saw her but with repitiveness he noticed she wasn't going anywhere and he got use to it! Hang in there it'll get better ↑

Name: tangerine75 | Date: Feb 28th, 2012 1:25 AM

You are not alone. My son is also three, mild autism and freaks out when he even sees his grandma. He does not act like that with anyone else. She is not even aloud to speak sometimes in his presence as he will start yelling as soon as he hears her voice. ↑

Name: Redvelvetcake58 | Date: Jul 24th, 2012 5:11 PM

This is so strange, but my autistic granddaughter would do this to my sister. I just could not understand it and my sister seemed so hurt, but the child would scream, have a meltdown, try to push her out the door when she arrived, cry and ask her to leave and picking up her coat and giving it to her while she stood guard at the door. That was a few years ago, but because my sister is a nurse, she worked with the child, took her for walks, talked to her, helped with homework, and I am happy to announce that the child looks forward to her visits now. Hope that was helpful. ↑