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Hello my name is Leigh, and I am mother to my beautiful son Jayden a 4yr old who was diagnosed with ASD 2 months ago after a lengthily assessment process, we finally have a diagnosis which is such a relief but at the same time I feel so lost and alone. I'm 7 months pregnant with our second child and really struggling with teaching my son wright from wrong? And my fears are heightened as I'm not sure how he will react to the new arrival? Its like he doesn't understand that hitting people (mainly girls) is wrong and he is constantly hitting my friends children, I Just don't know how to discipline him as I was told the time out method I was using was no good as he cannot understand cause and effect, consequences etc. I'm so worried for him as he starts his new school in September, sorry to ramble on but I could literally write a book! Any advice and suggestions welcome, many thanks. ↓
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| Name: feliciag | Date: Nov 9th, 2012 3:24 AM |
| Hi leigh, my 4 year old daughter is the same however she is non verbal. i am really struggling to discipline her she does things like climb furniture and will never accept no as an answer. she will scream and carry on if she is told no. Its so frustrating somedays i can't cope. ↑ |
| Name: HopeForAutism | Date: Nov 11th, 2012 2:58 AM |
I am experienced in managing behaviors of autistic individuals. I am Orange County if you would like to contact me for further assistance!
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| Name: HopeForAutism | Date: Nov 11th, 2012 3:13 AM |
To Leigh Mcleod:
Behaviors are a form of communication. Since ASD individuals lack the verbal and communication skills, their aggressive behavior is all they have to get your attention. Your son hitting has a purpose to it. Was there something he was trying to get? whether it's an item from them or their attention to play with him? Did he not like something they did? i.e. took away his toy? not sharing? Once you observe carefully at the situation, you will find that there is something that is triggering his hitting behavior. If you would like to learn more, you can contact me here at: [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: jase | Date: Nov 13th, 2012 7:14 AM |
| hi there i have come looking for the exact same answer, and by the sounds of it you have been through the same run around by the medical profession my wife and i have gone through, our son has just been diagnosed with autism at 3 1/2. he can not talk although does have a couple words, ouch, up, mum, dadda, bubbles but we went and did a sign language course and have been teaching him sign for the last 6 months and has now got over 50 signs in his vocabulary which the speciallists could not believe. but he has this aggression problem, i dont see it as aggression as i dont believe he is doing it to be nasty but it seems to be mainly focused at his 2 sisters and his little girlfriend up the road, it is sending us insane, the hitting and pulling hair, pushing his 11 month old sister over, biting his 6 year old sister, and as you say you cant punish him as he doesnt understand what he has done is wrong, he understands every other emotion,happy, scared, cry's when he is hurt but doesnt understand what he does hurts the other kids........ ↑ |
| Name: navynoodle | Date: Dec 4th, 2012 1:39 PM |
| Hey there Leigh, I have a 4yr old son with autism and my wife just had our second baby in september. If your worried about his interactions with the new baby one thing we've found that helps him is, ask him to help. Keep him involved and go slow. My wife just attended a workshop for parents with autistic kids and we learned that it may take him longer to process what you say. so stay calm and DON"T repeat what you've said to quickly. Let his wheals turn for a second and respond. I'm not saying it will work for you every ASD kid is differant and you have to modify your technique to their personal needs. ↑ |
| Name: MomofHrick | Date: Dec 6th, 2012 1:10 AM |
| My advice is to look at the behavior to see why it is occuring. Successfully structuring a response is soooo much easier once you understand the whys of it. Is he hitting them because he wants the toy or because they are encroaching on his personal space? My first inclination is to check for sensory defensiveness, but that is because my son has sensory dysfunction. Was his first hair cut a nightmare, does he dislike being crowded or hugged? If any of this sounds familiar you might want to check out the book the Out of Sync Child. ↑ |
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