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Is there anyone out there who is having to deal with their child stealing from them? My son is 12 and was diagnosed with ASD and Aspergers last year. He has sensory problems to. I have to deal with angry outbursts about anything on a daily basis. He has no friends. He goes round insulting people that confront his behaviour. i am really finding it hard to cope. i am still coming to terms with what i have been told. That my son does not care for no one but him self and can not show any empathy. Everyday is a battle he is horrid to all that are around him. also have a big problem with his volume he shouts when he talks. i have asked him over and over not to. Is lying and stealing anything to do with being austisic. He has no need to steal its not like he goes without. Anyone out there got any advice. I feel like giving up on him. Help. ↓
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| Name: mamakeene | Date: Sep 10th, 2008 7:06 PM |
| I have a son with an ASD but he is only 3. I don't have much knowledge on this but I just wanted to offer support because I do know what it's like to feel like defeated and just worn down by these sometimes overwhelming circumstances. I want to say don't give up, hang in there. I feel like that at times, but then we get these little victories that can seem so far and in between but it's always worth all the struggle. It's always an uphill battle just to make a small amount of progress but when it comes and it will, you will be proud of him and yourself for hanging tough. On days like these make a list of the positive things in your life that you are grateful for, try to focus on the good. At times it's easy to be overwhelmed by the struggle. Hang in there, there is always a light, it will come. You are a good mom! ↑ |
| Name: Sonia75 | Date: Sep 15th, 2008 9:29 AM |
Thanks mamakeene for your support. i know some days are darker and then you see a bit of light on other days. your right about thinking about the positive things in my life that i am grateful for and i am. it just makes me cry everytime i talk about my son or think that he will never understand how other people feel and how his behaviour is effecting everyone. i know the more stressed out i get about it does no good has it effects my health where even my hair fell out a few years back and that taught me to chill a little and focus on something else in my life rather then my son who makes mine and his 14 year old brothers life hell everyday. what also hurts is i can never believe anything my 12 year old says cos he tells lies and it has been going on for a long time now. the stealing
to which is very hard to deal with. I feel angry at him being dianosed so late. surely the teachers at his junior school should have seen how differrent this child was. ↑ |
| Name: Vangie | Date: Jan 27th, 2009 3:44 PM |
I don't have advice, but I understand about the lying and stealing. I think my daughter has aspergers, or something similar but she's going through the neurological testing to find out for sure.
She is very sweet most of the time, and very loving, but then she'll steal and lie....for no obvious reason! She'll steal from me, her siblings, the store, her teachers. Sometimes things she doesn't even want, often things she doesn't need. Often if she would have just asked, the item would have been given to her.
There could be a link between the Aspergers and stealing and lying, but I'll let you know if I find out anything else. My doctor says no, it's not related, btw. But doctors don't know everything. Especially when it comes to Autism! ↑ |
| Name: violetpato | Date: Feb 12th, 2009 5:10 PM |
| Hi, I have just joined and have never been to any sort of chat or otherwise online and came straight to your question?? I am a parent of 3 children with autism related problems, I have had this problem with my second child and can but feel for you, lying steeling aggression, he too started these problems at age 12, by the way he is diagnosed aspergers, my children hav no want for anything material and am loved with all my heart but he is now 16 and i feel i have just got back from hell, i am not going to go too much into detail but am speaking from a lot of experience where autism is concerned and plead with you to take a long hard look at his peers, our children are so vunerable at this age into seeking friendships and learning independance like other children that they will do anything that is asked of them from other children or copy behaviour which they are seeing other children do at there homes, i strongly suggest that you take this matter firmly to psychologist and nip it in the bud now as i would not wish my worst enemy the nightmare i have just come through, it is not your fault and dont let anyone tell you otherwise, it is his age and development stage which is being influenced from negative influences, i hope this helps . I never give up on my son and i never will,trust me change his influences aspergers children only learn what they live. ↑ |
| Name: Sunshine007 | Date: Feb 13th, 2009 11:14 PM |
| Thank you violetpato for you reply. This is really helpful to me, with my son who is 9. ↑ |
| Name: txaussie | Date: Apr 24th, 2009 12:28 AM |
| I can really understand where you are right now. our son is 14 and half and has had risky behavior for many years. In the last year he has stolen money from my wallet for thing that we would have given him if he had just asked. Now this week he took money again because he said he needed to buy lunch even though we provide that he packs every day himself. so he like what is in it. We are mistyfied by him and his actions most of the time he is a sweet perfect boy. He does have outburst of loud voice when it comes to his brothers. We also have three boys two have asd for sure. Keep your chin up ↑ |
| Name: flaminjo | Date: May 14th, 2009 3:08 AM |
It is highly advised that your son is given proper behavioral therapies to some what sort out his angry outbursts.
He is very near his teens there would be peer pressure.you have deal with him in a calm and matured way. ↑ |
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