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Hi, I am new to this forum and I just wanted to get some input on some things from like minded travelers. I am currently engaged to a great woman whom has a five-year-old boy (without autism) and a eight-year-old boy with severe autism and possible mental retardation. We have been together for two years now, for the first year and a half, it was challenging, but tolerable. But for some reason lately, I have been having a real hard time dealing with all that goes with caring for a special needs child. His mom always wants me to watch him, cuz the only other person that will is his grandmother. That's just one of the stressors I'm having a hard time with right now. Can someone with a similar exp. chim in, I could really use the support. Any help or advice would be great. Thank you. ↓
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| Name: Edwardliu | Date: Nov 19th, 2011 9:46 PM |
| Sorry, I don't have any experience to help you. I suggest you google to autism parents forum. There are a lot of parents talk and reponse questions very quickly. I thought you can find the answer from there easily. ↑ |
| Name: US101 | Date: Dec 23rd, 2011 8:29 AM |
| Hi there, I have been in your boat and work in the field of childhood developmental disabilities. Really the key to the relationship is reinforcement and rapport. Find a reinforcer (tickles, snacks, games) and reward him for doing things (and just freebies) that he is capable of, even if it is as simple as "wave" or "clap hands." Don't expect him to behave like an 8-year-old, and if you want him to engage in a behavior you need to reinforce it. Let him associate you with things that he likes then you will be able to develop behaviors that you think he is capable of. ↑ |
| Name: kdavis619 | Date: Apr 9th, 2012 2:16 PM |
| I need your help...I am in the process of doing some research for my graduate class.. I need at least ten parents of children with autism or maybe someone you know. OTs and PTs are also needed for this questionnaire. I would love to hear from you too!! I have a simple questionnaire for you. Please send me email addresses and I will send you a questionnaire along with a consent form! ***Autism Awareness** Thank you!! The data needs to be turned in by Friday, 4/13/2012. My email address is [email protected] ↓ ↑ |
| Name: Redvelvetcake58 | Date: Jul 24th, 2012 5:18 PM |
I am not sure if you are still a part of this website, but perhaps others viewing this information can use the advice. There are so many women who are grateful when they find a soul mate who is willing to go "all in" when it comes to a relationship with a single mom who has a child with disabilities. Having said that, I also want to address the issue of those men who although sincere in their wanting to have a relationship, may not have done their homework(and yes you need to research what all is involved in the raising of a special needs child) and therefore now find that there is so much to learn. Each experience with special needs children especially those with autism is different.
Just when you think you have one issue licked, here comes another. Take it from a grandmother who is living and helping her daughter raise twin autistic children, its a very difficult and hard job. You are right, my granddaughter who is severely autistic will only listen to me. She disobeys her mom, my sister, other relatives but when it comes to me, smooth sailing all the way. Why this happens is a mystery and this disorder is a mystery, but I can get her to behave a lot better than other people and all I do is be grandma.
You might want to consider being honest and letting your soul mate know how you feel. Its nothing worst than realizing that someone is unhappy in a relationship but never said anything. Pretense is never a good look on anybody. ↑ |
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