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Name: amarbuyan

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I have 5 year old autistic boy. We are from Mongolia, the country where even professionals do not know much about autism. From early childhood my son had health problems /was diagnosed with hydrocephalus at 7 months/ and now he has autism. I spend almost all days with my son, because my husband is very busy. Our son is cute one, but sometimes he gets me very nervous and angry by his tantrums. How should I cope with my anger and stress? And most sad thing is that I feel that I make my son nervous and unhappy by my stress. I feel that the problem is not in autism but in my attitude. Please suggest me ways to calm down and relax. ↓

Name: queen_vee2 | Date: Feb 13th, 2008 1:49 PM

Hello..
How are you feeling now?
Although I dont have an autistic kid I know that everyone get stress with our everyday life. I can understand your situation. I finished a nursing degree and I know that its a very challenging life that you have.
The best way is for you to accept your boy's condition with all your heart. Take everything one day at a time. Dont take it as a burden but as a challenge for you as a loving mother on how to support your son by giving him lots & lots of love & understanding. I know that he's a handful but you have to take it easy for you to be able to look after yourself & specially your son.
Or maybe find someone to talk to like parents of other kids like your baby so can you can share some ideas.
I dont know about your religious side, but for me if I felt that I cant control myself, I keep praying to give me peace of mind & that God will guide me always.
Just remember that God loves us & He wont give us problem that we cant handle.
So next time you feel stress, pause for a moment & take a deep breath, do it few times. Dont take it as a problem rather think of positive ways & always remember, that your son is the best thing that ever happen to you.
"Consider it pure joy my brother/ sister whenever you face trials of many kinds because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature & complete, not lacking anything."
Good luck & take care. ↑

Name: amarbuyan | Date: Feb 14th, 2008 3:15 AM

Dear queen_vee2
thank you for your very kind words and for your trust in my strength and love for my son. I liked that you used the word "challenge" instead of "burden". I will try to pause before getting nervous and think about my son, not about the problem. :) ↑