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Name: tangerine75

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My son is 3 1/2 with asd. He is the only child with a disability in our group of friends and family. Most days i am strong but i do have a niece that is a year younger. She is typical, striving, excelling, talking, ect. Since she is younger and my son is lagging behind its very difficult for me to be around her sometimes especially when the family is going on and on about how smart she is and comparing her to my son. I find this quite insulting. The other day we met at a restaurant and while we were waiting outside my sister in law pulled out flashcards and did then with my neice. Of course she naioed all of them. I was not having a good day and started crying to myself. My sister in law saw me and asked what was wrong. I explained to her that somedays its difficult to watch. She rolled her eyes. Is it me? Maybe I'm just not dealing with my sons diagnosis well. ↓

Name: Edwardliu | Date: Mar 23rd, 2012 8:36 AM

It is very good for you to have a neice. If it is possible, let she plays with your son. If she becomes your son's teacher, that is very good. When your son is behind, you feel sad. That is normal. But you need to think how to improve your son's skill. Not compare him with the other children. Let him play more with the children. It is good for you to have family around you. Maybe you can get some help from them. Also never give up, try to teach your son all the time.
My son just lost his diagnosis recently. He was far behind the normal kids a lot before. Now he did very well in the mainstream school kindergarten without any aid. My daughter taught my son all the time. Fight with him all the time. It is very lucky for him to have a sister to help him.
Don't feel sad all the time. It was hard to see the other children be smarter than your son. But it is life. Accept it. ↑

Name: sammic | Date: Apr 12th, 2012 3:02 PM

My little girl is also the same age as your son and i too have and sometimes feel the same ,it is ok and understanderble to feel this way and as for family comparing the too just shows that the do not understand your sons condition. The only bit of advise i can give and too should listen to my own advise would be to have your breif moments of sadness and dispare But not for too long . ( i have come to the conclusion that people may say thry understand but unless it effects them they dont care . Oh and sister in laws do tend to rub you up the wrong way at times !! Please contact me anytime i do understand xx sammi ↑