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Name: margot
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please can you help me.My daughter has very poor social skills,yesterday her friend called with an older girl my daughter pulled her into the house locked the door and told the friend she had to play.when the friend got out my daughter chased her pulling her back the girl left.my daughtercame in very upset that friend did not want to be friends anymore she came into the garden started hitting the family with a bat when i took the bat she ran into house locked the door with the keys and would not open it on request.luckily my husband had finished work early so had his keys.When i tried to explain that you cannot kidnap friends or lock doors or hit she just said yeah mum but am i grounded,or but i wanted friend to stay.she did not grasp the effect of what she had done was more concerned about her.I feel totally lost and alone my husband thought it was funny and i suppose it was but her differances seem to be becoming more apparent and i have no idea how to be a mum to my daughter,everthing i did with my 10 yr old is wasted on youngest and iam scared.
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Name: lisa | Date: Oct 20th, 2005 5:46 PM
i totally understand how you feel. others seem to think these situations are funny. they aren't . children and adults can both be cruel and judgemental. it's hard enoug to raise a normal child, much less one with disabilites. i go through similar situations with my 6 yr old daughter. she just doesn't understand how to communicate properly with others. she tries so hard to "fit in" if that's what you can call it. i don't believe she has the capacity to understand what's going on, especially when it comes to dealing with other children. they call her names and though she doesn't like it, she really can't understand. i wish there was something i could do. i try talking with her daily about relationships with others. i feel that no matter how much i try , she will never grasp it. as a mother it is painful and scary. i worry about my daughters future. will she ever be able to be independant? we have been through so many things in her 6 young yrs. this is the most frustrating for me. i want so desperately to reach her, but it seems impossible sometimes. 

Name: Allsion | Date: Oct 25th, 2005 12:28 AM
I really understand how you feel with the daughter and the social skills, my daughter is now 11years old, I have learned that it is best to keep a close eye on them at 5years old almost not turning your back or stuff like that will happen however you will never change there social skill just maybe help the better them by take lots of time to the point of tiring yourself out. take the time to play with her and her friend I know it is not easy trust me i fully understand. if you would ever like to chat reach me at [email protected] 

Name: fran | Date: Nov 13th, 2005 12:23 AM
hey, what shall i do for my daughters 5th birthday 

Name: y | Date: Dec 18th, 2005 12:09 AM
hy i love this game 

Name: lananh | Date: Jan 10th, 2006 12:22 PM
Hello ,
I dont know how to say , but in fact , you are even more lucky than me . My daughter never say a word. 

Name: michelle | Date: Jul 12th, 2006 5:28 PM
my five year autistic son isnt deaf or mute he just dousnt talk he might accidently say a word now and again but he speaks in sign.he has friends at therapy but the neighbour kids pretend he isnt even there.he is o.k. with it but hes my only son i would do anything to hear him speak outside my dreams,have a conversation about anything or nothing at all.to just talk is a dream. 


Name: Onlinedizzy | Date: Jul 13th, 2006 7:25 AM
Hi Margot, my kids are aged 4 and 6 and both on the spectrum. Playing with other kids and understaning how to treat them is very hard. have you thought of an organised play date for your daughter? First you need to practice games she can play with her friend with her. Games with rules are a good idea. When the friend comes over they need some "free time" where they just play alongside each other , it could be drawing, pasting, colouring in, play doh... Then they sit and have a snack together or lunch. Then they can play some games together , perhaps something with turn taking and rules that you have been practicing. You need to supervise all this, prompt and help with the turn taking. Its a great chance for your daughter to practice saying hello and inviting her friend in to play and put social skills into practice. Good luck and don't give up. 

Name: charlotte | Date: Jul 27th, 2006 2:57 PM
hi 

Name: jacksmom | Date: Jan 28th, 2007 5:04 AM
Jack's story....

After the 12 mos. vaccines my son gradually slipped into autism. He was head-banging, hand-flapping, twirling, lost speech, lost eye contact and he just withdrew.

Now two years later.... no head-banging, no twirling, no flapping, has eye contact and is starting to verbalize again. And... he has Down Syndrome to boot. :) Yes... even kids with DS get autism. Actually they get it at a higher rate.

What helped him? First I give God praise.... our son wouldn't be here without Him and we prayed and I believe He guided us. Second... supplements. Especially cod liver oil. I recommend Green Pastures CLO with the X factor. Check out Dr. Mary Megson's work on the web. http://www.diet-studies.com/megson.html Our Jack healed gradually... but he is healing. I actually had to make myself GET USED TO him not twirling everything any more!

Also check out Dr. Amy Yasko's work. www.holistichealth.com

We give Jack alot of supps - cod liver oil, probiotic, magnesium citrate, tart cherry and recently we added cilantro. He takes some other things too but each child is unique. It helps to find a good naturopathic MD or chiropractor. Don't use supps until you research things for yourself. Cilantro for example...should possibly not be used until some other detox has been done.

Don't give up. There is hope! And... I will be frank here.... many mainstream doctors know squat about how to heal autism. Don't let that throw you. There are people who do know how to help. God bless you! Love, Jack's Mom :) [email protected] 

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