| my neibors and freinds find it hard to deal with my son. but billy wants to know why he can't visit anyone and noone comes to the house. i find it very hard to not take it personal when this happens help ↑ |
Don't be too upset. That is a life. Most of people scare autism.
When my son is two years and four month, he got his autism title. I was very upset and told all my friends. Then people will say the word very polite and tell me "if you need a help, please call us" then nobody come to my house. Usually everyday my house has a lot of little children come to play, then it had none. When my son goes to the playgroup like before, nobody wants to play with him. We usually have dinner with our old friends at weekend. Suddenly all gone. People talk about your son. They think that he will hit the other children or break their furniture even he doesn't have that behavior. Our neighbor usually say hello and talk to us. Suddenly they disappear. You learn from that. Only one young friend help me make me very surprise. Then I meet a lot of autism parents in the early intervention and we make friends. I usually very trust the friendship and become not trust it any more.
Then My son goes to the pre school, his teacher is very good. She helps a lot. She is very nice to him because her son is delay before. She mentions that she is very scared that time.
After we see the DAN doctor, he changes a lot. He speaks a lot. He is very lucky his sister always teach him, fight him. I wonder how difficult for the autism who don't have sister or brother.
When my son is four year old, he becomes high function. He talks more. Nobody can easily to see his autism straight way. I learn from the bad lesson. I only tell my is delay when I meet new friends. My daughter is only one years older than my son. So she bring some friends home. I try to train my son to play with them. It is very hard. I don't want my daughter to lose her friends. So from the beginning, I play with my son, my daughter plays with her friends. We did a lot of social training from ABI. Then when he goes to the playgroup, he changes a lot. Some of my friends ask that "Is he just delay?" I just say yes. Lie is lie, better than no one to play with your son. Currently my son is in the pre school and my speech pathology goes to pre school to do the "talk ability" social skill with him.
We have some autism music therapy and art therapy at the weekends. So all the parents can meet and talk. I suggest you just make some friends like that. So you are not too much worry.
Even you go to the church, you find if you say your son is autism, nobody can helps you. Sometimes I just wonder why they can help the orphan child oversea, but nobody spend some time with your autism local son.
I am not sure how old is your son. Do you have any autism supports group in your local area? Try to find it.
Don't be too upset. We need to take care of ourselves. ↑ |
| cause they dont know what you have to deal with so they try to make it harder on you ↑ |
