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Name: staceykelley

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I have a 4 year old autistic son. soon after my sons doctor told us our son was special needs my husband of 4 yrs left me to deal with the emotions of a 5 yr old little girl and an autistic son. my son gets programming. and my daughter doesnt understand why some women comes into our house every day and works with my son. all she sees is play time between him and his worker. she once asked me why and i said because levi is special and she started to cry and say im not special that was the wrong thing to say what do i say when my daughter asks why ↓

Name: dianna | Date: Aug 23rd, 2006 11:51 AM

Hi, I had the same problem with my twin son who is not autistic. I told him "your brother can't talk and he needs help, so these ladies are going to help him". In the meantime, try to do something fun with her, like "mommy and me" time. Maybe then she won't be as jealous. Hope that helps. ↑

Name: nicksmom | Date: Aug 23rd, 2006 4:10 PM

Wow
Believe it or not I was in your shoes. I was married for 9 yrs. When my son was dgn. at the age of 4. The boys father wasn't able to deal and he also left.
What I would advice you is this, have them work together, your son and daughter can both benfit for the therapy. your daughter can learn to take turns and your son needs the social skills of working with others. I know that its hard at first, but as time goes by I know that it will get better.
"what doesn't kill you makes you stronger".
My autistic son is now 13. and the younger one is 10.

Let me know how things are going

Nicksmom
greeting from the valley ↑

Name: rain | Date: Aug 26th, 2006 6:00 PM

There are many books on the market for sibling of children who have autism. You can Google it, or look in on line book stores. ↑

Name: Dria | Date: Aug 28th, 2006 9:46 PM

Oh how sadly I feel for you as I read your "what to say to your daughter" situation. I have an autistic daughter and two younger typically developing sons. Particularly my oldest son (4 1/2 yrs) sees the revolving door with women who come into our home to work with our daughter and not with them. He has not asked the question your daughter has posed of you, but pehaps he will one day. I can see how you got caught in your response. Does it or does it not tire you to have to always be mentally one step ahead of yourself in thinking what you are about to say to your daughter?! I know my brain is tired of ALWAYS having to think! I can only suggest what I might do, which is try to find small moments in your day when you can wisk your daughter up into your arms and do something with her --- just you and her. Give her that extra time with you. In explaining, ... we repeatedly tell our boys that your sister's brain does not work the same way and as a result she needs extra help. They are both too young for us to know what they make of that. Take care! ↑

Name: staceykelley | Date: Oct 2nd, 2006 5:12 AM

hi every one my daughter has been pretty good its been very hard for all of us but shes getting the swing of things. she has found a new little friend so that really helps thanx to everyone who wrote me back ↑