My daughter is about to be 2 months old and im breastfeeding her as well as formula feeding. I'd say i do a little less formula than breast. Hubby and i are planning to go out maybe next month, and i KNOW im gonna want to drink and i KNOW i wont stop til im completely wasted. I REALLY want to just relax and take advantage of the opporunity my mom is offereing to keep my son and daughter overnight.
My question is, would it be ok to drink a whole lot? I've been told to pump and dump if ur gonna drink, but how much exactly should i dump? The only way i pump is manually and i dont want to stop breastfeeding her just to go out and have fun. And if i stop breastfeeding for just one day, i know my milk supply will decrease. Hubby tells me to stop, but i think im more attached to it than my daughter is, lol. I cry when i think of not breastfeeding her, especially now when she looks up at me with those beautiful eyes. Ughhh...am i a bad mother for asking this? It almost seems like im choosing b/ breastfeeding or alcohol, but it's not like that. I just want to party for one whole night and make sure i can breastfeed my little girl asap after that. Sorry so long, i dont think i even make sense!!! ↓
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| Name: vane20 | Date: Nov 29th, 2007 10:11 PM |
| Ok i think i want to vent for the first time on here...i so stressed with breastfeeding, it seems like veryone wants me to stop!! Shouldnt people ENCOURAGE breastfeeding? First hubby says that if we're gonna go out i cant breastfeed her anymore. Worse is that my own mother is always saying bad things about it!!! i stay with her about 2 weeks out of the month because hubby works out of town and im ALWAYS hearing it and im so tired of it!!!! She always is just looking at my little girl when im breastfeeding her, saying "i dont think she's getting anything out, just give her formula" or "breastfeeding takes too long, just give her a bottle so she can finish quicker then you can do what u gotta do around the house" or "you dont even pay any more attention to your son because you always have her stuck to you" the list goes on and on. Im tired of it. Then about 2 weeks ago i got a throat infection and was given antiobiotics. i read in the little paper the pharmacy gives you that it passes on to breastmilk, so i stopped taking the pills. My mom got all mad saying "ur gonna sacrifice ur health just because of the fucking breastfeeding!" HELLO!!!!! i'd rather be sick for longer than stop breastfeeding my daughter!!! Cant she understand that! The infection will go away then what? I wont be able to breastfeed anymore! UGHHG, im such a whiner....i need a drink!!! lol ↑ |
| Name: vane20 | Date: Nov 29th, 2007 10:15 PM |
| also my friend had a baby 2 days before me and breastfed her for only 2 weeks. She had big boobs and now complains that they're all saggy. She's like, u should stop already cause yours are gonna be worse than mine. Im like...that's MY problem! Plus, im a size A even while breastfeeding, so no matter how soft my boobs will be when i do stop, they will NEVER hang because they're little!!! i just want everyone to stay out of it...no one in my family ever breasfed for longer than 3 days, shouldnt they be proud of me instead of the opposite???? ok i think im done. ↑ |
| Name: mamal | Date: Nov 30th, 2007 8:23 AM |
| YOU ARE DOING AMAZING!!!! HANG IN THERE!!! I am so sorry that everyone is spewing misinformation at you. Is there any info that may help. Maybe you can tell your mom that not only is breastmilk the best possible thing for baby it actually helps you as well. Your chances of having cancer later in life decrease more the longer you breastfeed. Just for one example. Also you may want to tell hubby that formula costs approx. $5000 a year. So not only are you doing the best for baby .. you ... but also the family! On another note there are plenty of antibiotics approved for breastfeeding, just check them out and tell the pharm. AND finally you can tell your friend to STFU because sagging has absolutely nothing to do with breastfeeding. Sorry such strong words but that excuse kills me. It sounds like she is jealous of the wonderful bond breastfeeding has created. They actually just had a huge study come out in July stating that breastfeeding has NOTHING to do with sagging. I will do my best to find the study and pass on the link. I am so sorry the world is against you one this but the best thing to do is grin and nod and continue what you KNOW is the best!!! ↑ |
| Name: mamal | Date: Nov 30th, 2007 8:26 AM |
| I have a speil for alcohol I will post it next but know this you never have to do one or the other. You can drink and continue to breastfeed. You also do NOT have to pump and dump except to keep your supply up. Make sure when you are out that you pump everytime baby would feed and dump that if you are still drunk or drinking. Alcohol leaves breastmilk just like it leaves the bloodstream. It does NOT collect in the milk and stay there. Go enjoy yourself and drink away!!! ↑ |
| Name: mamal | Date: Nov 30th, 2007 8:27 AM |
Dr. Jack Newman, member of the LLLI Health Advisory Council, says this in his handout "More Breastfeeding Myths":
Reasonable alcohol intake should not be discouraged at all. As is the case with most drugs, very little alcohol comes out in the milk. The mother can take some alcohol and continue breastfeeding as she normally does. Prohibiting alcohol is another way we make life unnecessarily restrictive for nursing mothers.
Guidelines
• Current research says that occasional use of alcohol (1-2 drinks) is not harmful to the nursing baby. The American Academy of Pediatrics Committee on Drugs classifies alcohol (ethanol) as a “Maternal Medication Usually Compatible With Breastfeeding.”
• Many experts recommend against drinking more than 1-2 drinks per week.
• It is recommended that nursing moms avoid breastfeeding during and for 2-3 hours after drinking (Hale 2002).
• There is no need to pump & dump milk after drinking alcohol, other than for mom's comfort -- pumping & dumping does not speed the elimination of alcohol from the milk.
IN GENERAL, IF YOU ARE SOBER ENOUGH TO DRIVE, YOU ARE SOBER ENOUGH TO BREASTFEED. LESS THAN 2% OF THE ALCOHOL CONSUMED BY THE MOTHER REACHES HER BLOOD AND MILK. ALCOHOL PEAKS IN MOM'S BLOOD AND MILK APPROXIMATELY 1/2-1 HOUR AFTER DRINKING (BUT THERE IS CONSIDERABLE VARIATION FROM PERSON TO PERSON, DEPENDING UPON HOW MUCH FOOD WAS EATEN IN THE SAME TIME PERIOD, MOM'S BODY WEIGHT AND PERCENTAGE OF BODY FAT, ETC.). ALCOHOL DOES NOT ACCUMULATE IN BREASTMILK, BUT LEAVES THE MILK AS IT LEAVES THE BLOOD; SO WHEN YOUR BLOOD ALCOHOL LEVELS ARE BACK DOWN, SO ARE YOUR MILK ALCOHOL LEVELS.
Always keep in mind the baby's age when considering the effect of alcohol. A newborn has a very immature liver, so minute amounts of alcohol would be more of a burden. Up until around 3 months of age, infants detoxify alcohol at around half the rate of an adult. An older baby or toddler can metabolize the alcohol more quickly.
http://www.kellymom.com/h
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http://www.drspock.com/
faq/0,1511,7254,00.html
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LLL says the same thing. ↑ |
| Name: LindsayK | Date: Nov 30th, 2007 4:48 PM |
| Wow, Vane I feel so bad for you dealing with all that negative pressure. Especially from such close loved ones. I just wanted to say GOOD FOR YOU!!! for sticking it out and still nursing and doing what you know is best for your baby. Although, my family is quite pro breastfeeding, I'm know starting to get looks and comments b/c I'm still nursing my toddler. She's 14 months tomorrow, and up until the age of one my family all thought it was great that I was nursing. But now all a sudden they think she's way too old. What was I supposed to do, "say okay you're one today now more booby"? She's way too attached to nursing right now to stop. And I don't plan on it anytime soon, especially with the support from Mamal, (thanks again, btw!) Anyway, I'm so glad you've hung in there, and good luck! ↑ |
| Name: LindsayK | Date: Nov 30th, 2007 4:49 PM |
I really should learn to proof read my typos before posting :)
I meant no, not now, and now not know, sorry! ↑ |
| Name: vane20 | Date: Dec 1st, 2007 11:00 PM |
| THANK YOU so much ladies...dont have time to get online that much, but i REALLy appreciate your words of encouragement. Mamal, that article puts me more at ease. Mabybe ill just have a few drinks, just enough so i can relax abit. And Lindsay, GOOD JOB girl!! that[s a long time to breastfeed and im glad to hear ur not gonna stop. Hey, the longer the better right? ↑ |
| Name: LindsayK | Date: Dec 5th, 2007 9:57 AM |
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