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I didn't know which forum to actually post this question so I am sorry about posting this question in this forum. Have any of you ladies ever experienced your husband not having a sex drive - pregnant or not pregnant? I am expecting. The night I got pregnant was the first time we had made love in 4 months. This year alone we have probably only made love 3 times - if I am remembering correctly. He says he loves me and seems to be genuinally upset and concerned that it affects me so, but nothing ever changes. It's the same conversation over and over. He knows it makes me feel unwanted, undesirable, unattrative, rejected, etc... And He is always sorry, but never changes. Full of promises, but no change. I know he isn't being unfaithful. I know him all too well. He would never do that. I just don't know what to do. Now that I am pregnant and hormonal it is affecting me even more. Please - any comments would be welcomed. Thanks. ↓
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| Name: Tamekia KIlkenny | Date: Jun 13th, 2006 4:51 AM |
| hi my name is tamekia.... my man and i always had sex even when i was preg... our daughter in now 4 months old and the sex just started to go down the dunny....he tells me its coz of the stress we are going through at the moment that is making him none horny, and he is way to tired for it he starts work at 9am and gets home at 630 he is in the car 45mins each day there and back... i know he is not cheating on me ehter but i guess it all comes down to what they are going through that makes them none horny, your man prob thinks that if you have sex that it will hurt the baby..... i had to take my man to the doctors so they could tellhim that it will not hurt the baby... man we are yet to figger them out hope i helped in any way ↑ |
| Name: 3 time nursing mom | Date: Jun 13th, 2006 8:25 AM |
All I would like to say is for those who are interested, my husband and I found the answer to our similar difficulties in reading up on the "Theology of the Body", studying it, and putting it into practice. It is a life long study though, that greatly benefits sexual relationships.
However I understand not everyone will be open to what this is all about. Accepting it requires complete self sacrifice. But really, that is what marriage is really all about. Mutual complete self sacrifice. When marriages fail, it is because one or both parties refuse to sacrifice for the good of their marriage. Often this can be first reflected in the marital act of intimacy.
I am posting it, knowing that there will be those that will be critics of me for doing so. But I feel I must, for everytime I read postings like this, all I can think of is "Man! I am so glad those days are over for us!" and this study is why. We have found complete freedom in it.
So for those that have a heart for it, there it is. May you find as much joy in it as we have!
Any internet search of "Theology of the Body" in quotation marks will send a seeker in the right direction. Although it at first may appear to be directed to one specific group of people, all people will find wisdom in it.
There it is, take it or leave it.
Simply my 2 cents.
I wish you well. ↑ |
| Name: Lynne n | Date: Jun 13th, 2006 7:25 PM |
Have you sat down and talked things through maybe heis a bit depressed that can somretimes affect your sex drive.
I suffer with deperssion and am on meds for it but the meds give me a low sex drive,but luckly my husband understands as his mum suffers as well so when we do have sex we really give it our all! ↑ |
| Name: SpiritMom | Date: Jun 13th, 2006 8:19 PM |
| Well, We have talked. We've talked quite a bit. He knows how it makes me feel. I don't know what else to do. I pray for him. I think I am going to check into this "Theology of the Body" listed in one of the post below. I love him and I'll never leave him, but it's certainly tough dealing with rejection. He's not a sufferer of depression. My mom as well suffers and takes mega doses of medication. My brother suffers as well. But not my husband. I hate to say this, but I don't think he enjoys it like most men do. Usually you hear all about the woman not wanting to give her man as much sex as he wants, but it's the other way around in my house. And there isn't a whole lot of material out there for it. Thanks 3Times Nursing Mom. Think I will check into what you said. I am certainly willing to have an open mind and try anything. I know my husband loves me. He told me again today how much he loves me. I just need more than talk though. I can't help fearing that the conception of this child may have been the last intimate moment we will have shared for a long time. I know prayer changes things and God gives of a grace to deal with situations that otherwise we wouldn't be able to deal with. Thanks for your prayers and your comments. I appreciate them more than you know. I wish you all the best. ↑ |
| Name: molly-may | Date: Aug 25th, 2006 5:05 PM |
| My boyfriend was the same way, we would have sex if I was lucky about once a month. I looked online and I think it has to do with diet. Is your husband eating poorly? Drinking pop? If so maybe he needs to change his eating habits. My boyfriend also had cancer when he was little and I am starting to think that the radation did something to him. I know he wasn't cheating on me, he just didn't like sex. Let me know if your problems got any better. ↑ |
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