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I would like to breastfeed my son due in April my husband was actually the one to suggest it to me. My Side of the family is against it. I already get poked at about talking about it with them only trying to inform then of the benefits at this point my brother and grandmother get harsh saying that my nephew 7 is very smart and he never got breastfeed I don't know what to do with them. My Grandma informed me that what happens at her house stays at her house she's told me that if i let her babysit she is going to formula feed the baby I don't want to leave her out but i can't have that..........Wishing for a better support team...............Understanding that hubby does not want to be harsh with my family I am afriad i will need to lock my doors to keep people from raising my baby how they want me too. ↓
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| Name: Melissa | Date: Feb 2nd, 2007 5:52 AM |
| first of all it iis you and your hubby's baby and NO one else's!!!!!!!! i have had to go to the extremes of cutting some hurtful people out of my life because of them not supporting my parenting decisions. it is proven that breastmilk is best. yes babies can survive on formula and grow up "just fine" but it isn't the first choice. you should check out www.breastfeeding.com there are forums there and the ladies have helped me out tons!!! they are a great support group and it is a more widely used site. if you ask a question they get back to you way faster than on this one. nothing against the ladies here but it is just another place to go. you need all the support you can get. good luck and i'm on here quite a bit so if you need anything just ask!!! ↑ |
| Name: LindsayK | Date: Feb 2nd, 2007 5:58 AM |
| I'm here too if you need a shoulder to lean on. I'm not a veteran like Melissa, lol. But My daughter's 4 months and we've had next to no problems breastfeeding. If you have any questions just ask. I myself have had to deal with my close friend being against breastfeeding and sometimes giving me unwanted parenting advice. Good Luck ↑ |
| Name: HappyEndings07 | Date: Feb 2nd, 2007 6:07 AM |
| thanks for the support, I am a pretty stubborn person so I know I will breastfeed. I am just in shock that my own family can't support me with it. I hate to leave them out but i don't see much of an alternative. ↑ |
| Name: atomic snowflake | Date: Feb 2nd, 2007 1:47 PM |
Ignore your family - you must do what is best for you and your baby.
Breastfeeding offers too many advantages to both mother and baby to be just ignored.
Research has shown that it prevents Sudden Infant Death Syndrome and can also protect you against breast cancer in later life.
Please give it a try. It takes some practise in the beginning, but it's certainly worth it! ↑ |
| Name: seatrout | Date: Feb 12th, 2007 10:16 PM |
| Lord have mercy, I feel for you! Nosey family members are NO fun and very stressful - you might just have to put your foot down with them and say "THIS is MY CHILD and I WANT THE BEST FOR HER/HIM" and shut the door in their faces until they get it and show some respect and consideration - because honestly, if they are this controlling over this issue, they will likely be this way all the child's life. ↑ |
| Name: HappyEndings07 | Date: Feb 16th, 2007 1:53 AM |
| Thanks for the advice I know your right I hate that it has to be this way though. they are demanding with my brother and his son so i knew it was coming. I wish I could move far away and just send pictures ↑ |
| Name: lizset | Date: Feb 23rd, 2007 3:28 AM |
| hii just stay firm with your decisions and do what both hubby and you think is right. tell your family they can only offer advice but its up to you to decide what to keep and what to let out through the other ear. DONT LET ANYONE DISCOURAGE YOU. some of my friends and family were like that, it was not easy and i almost gave up but my hubby was very supportive thats all you need... i plan on nursing for as long as my baby needs to and it just hurts to hear the closest people to you say oh dont nurse or shes too old to breastfeed just wean!!! its pathetic. so just lean on your hubby and you will do it. youll thank God when you see how healthy you baby will be.Good Luck ↑ |
| Name: lilpaw222 | Date: Feb 26th, 2007 3:17 AM |
Im in college and almost finished my 1st year of Early childhood education.
lol did you know that breatfeeding helps you burn off that extra baby weight that you piled on.?
and it is really a complete diet for your baby. ...... ↑ |
| Name: Mom2Be2007 | Date: Feb 28th, 2007 5:48 AM |
What is the big deal as to whether the baby is breastfed or formula fed? Seriously, if you grandmother is babysitting for you son obviously if she has him during a feeding he would be fed breastmilk in a bottle. It would be completely wrong of any of your family member to feed your son formula considering this is not what you or your husband want for you son.
I am not breastfeeding my daughter but I do pump. Which my mom has a small problem with and personally I still do not understand why. The first time that we handed Kylie to my mom and asked her to feed her she looked at the bottle and said, "You're not going to feed her that?" I was like "Yes we are." She has it in her head that because it milk that it should be white and because it's not white white then there is something wrong with it. On this particular day it was a little yellow because my milk was slowing coming in. And for some odd reason she just finds feeding my daughter breastmilk disgusting. But it's either she feed her the breastmilk that I send along or she doesn't get her. ↑ |
| Name: chantel1 | Date: Mar 8th, 2007 1:49 PM |
| Hi there i was sexually abused as a child and never wanted to breast feed for that reason, as i didn't want to be reminded of that situation when i fed my daughter, but my partner insisted i breast fed, so i gave it a try and i've never stopped! i know what's best for my daughter and that's why i'm still breast feeding!!! they are so wrong to judge you!! this is such a precious moment for you! my sister bottle fed all 3 of her children and i can honestly tell you they don't have the same close bond with thier mum as my baby does with me. she buys them things and they have evry toy under the sun, i buy my baby some things and instead of going into a room and playing she'll come up to me and raech out her arms for me to pick her up for a cuddle, she still plays with her toys but honestly you don't know a bond until you breast feed for the first time. and yes for the first week your nipples will be sore dried and cracked and hur when they latch on the wrong way but don't put moisturiser or crem on them, just squeeze a drop of you milk out and let it dry and they will heel a nurse told me to do that and afr that first week i never had a prob with them hurting or being sore. i think your parner's right breast truely is best!!! and hey if i can do it you can do it!!! good luck:) and stuff your family, if they don't respect your wishes. oh just one other thing my nefue was not breastfed he was fed on formula and he's 5 years old now and can not speak a propper sentance, and the same for my neice who's 4years old, and it's quite sad because they will be in school next year and how are they going to comunicate with the other kids? so sad, well i hope this helps, good luck:) ↑ |
| Name: caityNnecia | Date: Apr 2nd, 2007 1:39 AM |
| hey me n my friend think you should do what you want, we might sound silly sayin it though as we are only 14. anyway we are doing a child studies assignment and thought we would ask the people who have experienced pregnance. we need to no what types of exercises are best for pregnant ladies and what is good and bad about them. thankyou from caitlin n necia best of luck in the future ↑ |
| Name: StTap | Date: Apr 2nd, 2007 1:57 AM |
hi its st tap or steph and tamara, i think that you should do what u feel and if you feel uncomfortable brest feeding then you shouldnt do it but if ur ready for it go for it. out of the matter i was just wondering, did you excercise why you were pregnent and if so did it help or hurt.
love steph and tamara (st tap)
all the best 4 the future X0X0X0X0X0 ↑ |
| Name: HappyEndings07 | Date: Apr 2nd, 2007 9:12 AM |
| I really did not exercise at all I am very lazy !! don't get me wrong I know it's a really good thing but before I got pregnant I was lazy and didn't exercise I do go walking maybe once a week and now since I am in my final day's I walk everyday trying to push it along ↑ |
| Name: mamal | Date: Apr 2nd, 2007 2:15 PM |
RE Exercising
Some studies have shown that exercise can reduce the length of labor, shorten the recovery time, and even help with postpartum weight management. Now I don't know if I personally agree with them but they do exisist. I think the postpartum weight management would be true because you are already in a exercise routine & I would assume it would continue after birth. Exercise is definitely good for both mommy and baby but keep in mind that there are things that are not good. Also if you did not exercise before pregnancy, don't go overboard now. Swimming is probably one of the best ways to exercise while pregnant, being in the water takes the pressure off. ↑ |
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