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Ive been curious, has anyone ever been given reason as to why they may not be able to breast feed? I am 31w4d with my first and I want to breastfeed but my mother told me even though her milk came in she was not able to breast feed and just leaves it at that. I have been worried b.c I am this far along and although they have started to give out colostrum if i squeeze, my breasts have not grown in size at all. This is probably a dumb question, but I am curious and where better to ask but the breastfeeding forum. I also wanna know if anyone was uncomfortable at first with breastfeeding a son? ↓
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| Name: bmes | Date: Feb 16th, 2007 9:28 PM |
| if the milk is there and as long as the latch is done properly you should be able to breastfeed. Also, don't squeeze out your colostrum...your baby needs that when he gets here!! lol....the first few days were torture, but once i got the hang of it and baby got the hang of it and the milk finally really comes in, it's no problem. you just have to get over that initial hump.....and i think that's where most people give up and say "i can't do it!!!" just grin and bear it...it does get easier! :-) ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Feb 16th, 2007 10:01 PM |
| Name: HappyEndings07 | Date: Feb 16th, 2007 10:24 PM |
| Is i more uncomfortable breastfeeding a boy rather than your girl??? ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Feb 16th, 2007 10:34 PM |
| i dono i guess it weirded me out for a bit thinking about the idea of my son breastfeeding. the whole daddy doing it to pleasure and then son doing it to feed, kind of irked me? i dono ↑ |
| Name: bmes | Date: Feb 16th, 2007 10:35 PM |
| oh yeah...about breastfeeding a boy vs. a girl....i only have a girl, but this time i'm having a boy and i'm excited to breastfeed again. It's an amazing way to bond with your baby. I loved breastfeeding Anika...i just wish my milk didn't dry up!! :-( ↑ |
| Name: bmes | Date: Feb 16th, 2007 10:37 PM |
| lol....i thought I was going to feel the same way about it...but it was actually the opposite.....I wouldn't let JAmes touch em anymore...."I said HEY, those are Anika's....lol....that's how I feed my child so back off!!" LOL.... ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Feb 16th, 2007 11:07 PM |
| lol thank you, you make me feel like .. less of a weirdo for feeling or thinking like that. i want to bond, and be able to give the baby the best nutrients, but i guess i worry about everything ↑ |
| Name: bmes | Date: Feb 16th, 2007 11:12 PM |
| ahh..i wouldn't worry about it too much. Once the baby comes, you won't be thinking about all that other stuff...it's the most natural thing to do. women have been doing it for eons!! lol....i thought i was gonna feel weird at first too, but nope....when she came it was like the only thing I could think about was getting her to feed from me...i was so excited to do it...i was like "give me my baby!!! she needs to eat NOW!!! " lol ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Feb 16th, 2007 11:33 PM |
| Name: connie | Date: Feb 18th, 2007 9:32 PM |
hey coart,
you will just have to be patience when it comes time, I was really tired and I got nothing from pumping at first ,and the more and more you do it , it will come. My milk came in last night( Xavier is 4days old) I love breastfeeding so far. ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Feb 19th, 2007 12:08 PM |
| thanks connie :) he is so adorable. i saw the email about him coming home, thats so great!! ↑ |
| Name: jkm0410 | Date: Feb 23rd, 2007 8:25 PM |
| Don't worry about producing milk now. Your body will not produce milk until your placenta is delivered. The placenta produces hormones to inhibit milk production. Your milk will come about 2 to 3 days after your baby is born! ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 8:58 PM |
| thank you :) i just feel like an outcast b.c everyone else even weeks before me have huge breasts now and im still a B and i thought maybe my boobs were defective LOL ..thank you everyone though ↑ |
| Name: Randi | Date: Feb 25th, 2007 4:30 PM |
Hey Coart. I love you.
I don't know if I told you all of this already, but when Kaden was born he was tongue tied. They didn't noticed until day 2, but by then he had shredded my nipples. He was spitting up my blood and I would cry when I had to feed him. It was bad. The nurses made it worse by telling me to "nurse through it" and every shift my new nurse told me a different way to try and latch him. FInally one of my night nurses gave me some formula to feed him and told me to just pump until my nipples healed a bit. I continued to breastfeed for the first 3 weeks, and then they told me he had thrush and that's probably what my pain was. I went on 3 different treatments and it became obvious I never had it. He was in the hospital for a week and I was not allowed to feed him, and when I did I had to bottle feed as they needed to know how many ounces he was getting. I was pumping, but I was so exhausted and not eating well because I was living at the hospital, so I lost some of my supply. At 7 weeks I was about to give up, so I went to a LLL meeting. Actually I went to 3 and left with them telling me I should just bottle feed. He did so much nerve damage that I now have Raynauds disease. My doctor gave me some things to try but it never got better. On top of that Kaden will not open his mouth wide enough and can't bring his tongue far enough forward. Even though they told me to stop I still nursed in the morning and at night. I figured he had already done all the damage and I could just grin and bear it. He weaned himself and now will not take the boob at all...for 3 days now. My milk shoots too fast even though I don't have much there, I think the bottle is a little slower.
If I had to do it again, I would not. I gave it my best shot, but I believe that if it hurts badly enough for you to cry (beyond the first couple days) then it's not fair to you. Even a small amount of breast milk is better than none and there are some great formulas now. The LLL leader I saw told me that the most important thing is for you to enjoy your baby. You can't do that if you dread feeding him, or can't hold him to your chest because it hurts too badly. Don't take anyones critisism too seriously. There will always be someone who thinks you should do it differently. Do what works best for you and your baby. ↑ |
| Name: missmara | Date: Feb 25th, 2007 4:35 PM |
| My mom wasn't able to breastfeed because she has inverted nipples. There are ways to get around it, but that could be a reason that you wouldn't be able to. Also, if you have to take certain medications, that could be a reason. ↑ |
| Name: Emma2 | Date: Feb 25th, 2007 9:34 PM |
coartney - breastfeeding can be really really challenging, but i honestly believe that almost any mother can do it. that is why we have breasts after all :D. i know i'll probably get jumped on up one side and down the other for this, but i believe that some women give up FAR too easily. now, I KNOW that there are plenty of valid reasons for not breastfeeding. i even feel that "because i didn't want to" is a valid enough reason, but i am seriously finding it hard to believe that so many women 'couldn't' breastfeed. (i'm not speaking about anyone in particular, just women in general that i've chatted w/ on a different breastfeeding forum or who i know in real life) it's hard. it's VERY hard sometimes. i don't want to scare you away from it, but i dealt w/ thrush and w/ cracked and bleeding nipples all in the first month of my daughters life, but just like everything else, it passed, we got through it and now it's just a distant memory. i was a mess when it was happening though.
if you are serious about doing it just set yourself little goals (this is how i did it anyway)...say to yourself - "i'll breastfeed for the first week" then when you've made it that far, make it two, etc.. so on and so on. i breastfed exclusively for 6 months and have recently introduced solids and started supplementing w/ formula because i've gone back to work. i also invested in a good breast pump so i have a lot stockpiled in the freezer.
i must tell you that i wouldn't have made it w/out my lactation consultant at my pediatricians office. if your office doesn't have one then contact someone from the Le Leche League. they have a wonderful website too.
i've only got a daughter, but i plan on having more someday and i'll breastfeed if i have boys or girls. i don't think it'll matter to me. i originally was planning to breastfeed because of the nutritional value it has, but it really did turn into an amazing way to bond w/ my little girl. it makes me feel so womanly (that's cheesy, i know) to know that every little dimple and fat roll on her body is because my body made her food for her. i'm sure you'll do great. sorry my response was so long. good luck. ↑ |
| Name: Emma2 | Date: Feb 25th, 2007 9:42 PM |
randi -
i think what you did for your little one is to be commended.
yours is exactly the type of situation that is a case of someone who actually "COULDN"T" breastfeed anymore. ↑ |
| Name: lindee | Date: Mar 17th, 2007 4:50 AM |
| Just about everyone can breastfeed. I come from a long chain of breastfeeding women who swear by its every benefit. Some people give up and are embarassed by it so they just say they couldn't. I've only heard of one person who couldn't and it was because of a breast reduction that closed her glands. Please try I promise you will love it. ↑ |
| Name: rachtwins | Date: Mar 17th, 2007 6:12 AM |
| Coartney you breasts will grow in size when your milk comes in usally three days after the birth. It really hurts to breastfeed for about the first week only when you attach the baby make sure you pack some good nipple cream. After the first week your nipples will toughen up and you'll be set. Just try and get past the first week and things will improve. Goodluck ↑ |
| Name: bebe9281 | Date: Mar 19th, 2007 4:36 PM |
| Let me tell you.. Breastfeeding is the hardest thing I have ever done. I have a 4 1/2 and a 2 1/2 year old. I breastfed them both until they were 14 months. My children, not to brag, have never been on antibiotics but once each. Get yourself to Barnes&Noble and get a book called "So that's what they're for" by Judy Tamara (sp??) It will completely change your mind. I think being "able" to breastfeed is completely psychological. Either you are commited or you are not. I totally understand about the "boy" issue. When my boy who is 2 1/2 was born I thought Jeeeeez I don't know anything about boys, then the mommy thing kicks in. Any way, Nike says JUST DO IT!!!! ↑ |
| Name: Parrot_lady_06 | Date: Mar 19th, 2007 7:11 PM |
| Breastfeeding hurts the heck out of my breast especially the initial latch on and I think it takes way more than a week to go away because my son is one month and they still hurt so that is why I supplement with formula at times to give my breast a break ↑ |
| Name: Emma2 | Date: Apr 15th, 2007 8:56 PM |
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