I need some GOOD advice with this one and if you have experience that would be even better...ok...so I just had my son 3 weeks ago and while in the hospital my one year old had to wean. I'm feeling some guilt about this...lik eI should still be nursing her as well. My question is would you or wouldn't you? My husbands says to give it a try and see what she does but then it's the tandem nursing thing and I'm not sure if my body can handle that with the lack of sleep and whatnot ya know...anyways....any advice would be helpful...thanks.
By the way...I'm the one who posted about breastfeeding while pregnant if that helps. ↓
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| Name: mamaheavener | Date: Nov 29th, 2006 4:07 AM |
| ...and I only have one husband...:-)...typo ↑ |
| Name: rachtwins | Date: Nov 29th, 2006 9:26 AM |
Completley up to you, I personally would put the one year old on cows milk now as they are old enough and concentrate on the new babe. Its would be very demanding your body to feed them both as they would be feeding at different times and you will be exhausted getting up through the night.
Hope this helps ↑ |
| Name: rachtwins | Date: Nov 29th, 2006 9:27 AM |
| By the way you did FANTASTIC feeding that far you deserve a medal ↑ |
| Name: Melissa | Date: Nov 29th, 2006 5:12 PM |
| i personally would just try. you never know she might not even be interested any more. the World Heath Organization recommends nursing for the 1st 2 yrs of life, so i would try. now don't get me wrong i'm not trying to make you feel more guilty for not nursing her now, just telling what i would do. it is just another one of those personal choices. good luck in whatever you do and you should be proud that you breastfed for a year and are starting out your new little one with the best also!!! ↑ |
| Name: jillw | Date: Nov 29th, 2006 6:34 PM |
| I think I would personally put her on cows milk, but there is no law saying that you can't do both right. If she wants to nurse sometimes during the day or for some comfort before bed the I am sure that your body will meet the need. I wouldn't let her nurse during the night though that is just too much and there is no reason for it. She can eat regular food so she should not be hungry and if she just needs a drink then you can always put one of those no leak sippy cups in her room with some water in it. she can grab it if she wakes up in the night. Good lick and congrats for doing it for and entire year. ↑ |
| Name: mamaheavener | Date: Nov 30th, 2006 7:22 PM |
| well yesterday morning I tried and she breastfed but besides the guilt I was feeling that felt even more akward and then my 4 year old comes in and says that I look "rediculous with a one year old on my boob" so.....I'm just pumping b/c of engorgment and giving that to her iwth her bottle in the afternoons like we started when my supply went down. so like someone said on here if she needs it then it's there and I try to spend other time with her and include her as much as a one year old wants to be ya know. :-) thanks for the advice. ↑ |
| Name: jillw | Date: Dec 1st, 2006 8:53 PM |
| mamaheavener-- While I am not an expert my any means (infact I have never even breast fed) I can tell you from experience that children who are not breast fed at age one can and will do great. I know that breast feeding creats a bond between you and your child, but there are so many other things that you can do with your 1yr old to keep that bond strong. At this age they are starting to do so many different things and exploring their world. They are able to get nutrition from food and there is no real reason why they even need a bottle at all. Embrace this new chapter in both of your lives and then you won't feel so bad about not breast feeding. Honestly I am sure that it is harder on you that you have stopped breast feeding then it is on her. It sounds like she is doing great so I wouldn't worry about it so much. Good luck with everything. ↑ |
| Name: Melissa | Date: Dec 2nd, 2006 12:49 AM |
| jillw- if you have never breastfed then why in the world would you be giving out advice about breastfeeding? i'm not trying to be mean here but if you haven't experinced it then how can you give advice. also the advice you did give about not letting a 1yr old nurse at night is crazy! u need to at least do your homework on this subject if you going to answer questions on here. ↑ |
| Name: marija | Date: Dec 2nd, 2006 2:10 AM |
I think she was giving her advice as an experienced bottle feeding mother and how healthy her kids have turned out...could be wrong but thats how i read it...and mamaheavener said she doesnt know how her body could handle the lack of sleep..so.. i wouldnt want to nurse two at night either..you dont get much sleep with one nursing...she was giving her opinion. You can give the alternative (bottlefed) opinions in this forum room, most people asking for advice here usually want to hear the other side.
I think if you want to try Mamaheavener give it a go, if it gets too tiring then stop...either way your child will blossom. You have to be happy and healthy with your choice :-)) ↑ |
| Name: mamaheavener | Date: Dec 2nd, 2006 11:49 PM |
| My one year old doens't nurse at night anyways so that wouldn't be an issue excpet for the lack of sleep in general. anyways...I think that we are just going to keep it as is...giving her a bottle in the afternoon and just nurse the new one. I tried nursing her the other morning and the weirdness of it was worse than the guilt and she acted like she wasn't sur ewhat was going on either so...however if she needs it such as for comfort or what have you then I have no problem with it.....I'm learning to just GO WITH THE FLOW!!!!! and it's hard to do with a type A personality. :-) Thanks so much though....any other stories or advice is welcome especailly from the breastfeeders but I'll take it from either/or. ↑ |
| Name: Melissa | Date: Dec 3rd, 2006 3:06 AM |
| sorry if i came off bitchy with that post, i didn't mean to, but it just gets on my nerves when people that haven't experinced what you've gone through try and give you advice. i guess it's just one of those pet peeves. anyway mamheavener, get used to the going with the flow thing. it is just starting, lol!! good luck and i hope you have an easy time adapting to 2! ↑ |
| Name: mamaheavener | Date: Dec 3rd, 2006 4:59 PM |
| I actually have three now....this third was a hum dinger of a suprise needless to say. :-) ↑ |
| Name: mamaheavener | Date: Dec 3rd, 2006 5:11 PM |
| and no worries here about the pet peeve...I understand and in a snese agree but iwht all the other forums going on these bickering rants I tend to jsut stay nuetral unless I feel very STRONGLY about an issue ya know.....anyways.....thanks for all the two cents out there. :-) ↑ |
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