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Name: keaton2007
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I will make this as short as possible! Ex and i divorced 9+ years. Have two teen girls with her. She has never remarried or had a successful relationship.
She is out of control. It is to the point now that my kids won't even talk to me. She constantly undermines me. She will side with them or tells me in front of them that I should have found a better way to handle whatever happened.
My ex is just MEAN. I don't know any other way to describe it. I have taken medicine for depression for quite sometime and she will alway use that against me with the kids that I am crazy etc.
I am one of THE greatest dads in the world. My children are my life even though they live far away from me, I have drove 2 hours one way to pick them up for visits every other weekend for the past nine years and they usually stay extended times with me over the summer. We talk on the phone, IM and talk online all the time.
My kids loved to come see me! Even in their teens they looked forward to it because we would have such a great time.
She loves to argue and used to even admit it. She is just killing my relationship with the kids. She is the one that treats them bad! I yelled at my daughter for something one time and of course my ex had something to say and the next day, she tells me she slapped her in the mouth! She yells at them all of the time! They will defend her! She will even tell them if my child support is a day or two late!
For some reason though, my girls can't see the bad she does to them. They are with her almost all the month and I just get them a couple of weekends. It is like they are being brainwashed by her. They will love me more than anything one minute and then will just suddenly turn against me at the drop of a hat. Sadly, they are starting to remind me of her more and more each day. They manipulate the situation now more and more.
Right now, I have put her on the extinct list. I will not return emails or talk to her on the phone. This drives her insane.
I have not got to see my kids for a couple of weeks. I send short emails here and there telling them that I love them.
I am considering an attorney but I don't know what the hell it would do. Wished I had time to give more specifics. Any help would be appreciated.
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Name: tweetybird4 | Date: Jan 6th, 2007 4:23 AM
Hi Keaton2007---Unfortunately, your ex does sound like a real pill. Although, keep in mind, it's her not you. Just because you are on depression medicine doesn't mean that you are a horrible father. Yes, it sounds like she has done everything possible to influence your children against you but overtime, it will all come around back on her. It's good that your are still trying to keep up the communciation with them. If your ex is not letting you spend time with your kids, then consulting an attorney might be good thing to consider. If all she does is yell and scream at you or degrade you, you have every right not to speak to her unless it pertains to the children. She can make threats to you all she wants but it won't do any good. As long as you are paying your support and following the visitation rules, then she doesn't have a leg to stand on. My guess is the children are defending her because they are afraid of her. If she says and does these nasty things to you, then she's probably doing it to them as well. She sounds like a very controlling individual and at times becomes physical which she needs to seek medical attention but I'm sure that will never happen. Just continue to give your children the loving support you have always given them. There were come a day when they will appreciate you for it. For right now, the influence of their mother is what's clouding their judgments of you. I certainly hope things do get better for you and I'm sorry this is happening. I don't know if anything I've said has helped you but your not alone with this situation. Please, take care and do what's right in your heart. 

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