I am having a really hard time with an issue with my husband. This is both of our second marriage and he has children from 2 previous relationships. I live with that, it's been difficult because we do not have children together, and I feel the mom's do what they can to make life difficult for us, but this time, its not the moms. We have 6 in our home 5 of mine from my first marriage and one from my husband. 5 of them were away and the older one, being able to care for himself, left us to an evening to ourselves. I had a very special romantic plan and we were just putting it into motion when we received a call from my stepdaughter who wanted to come over. My husband told me he was going to spend some time with me and then leave to pick her up. I wanted to support his role as father, but I am still feeling let down, because this may be the last weekend we will have like this for a long time. I told him don't worry about it, and to go ahead and go before it got to late, but I am very disappointed. I have always felt like he throws me on the back burner for the children or their mothers, and it almost broke our marriage apart during the 1st year. Things calmed down somewhat, but when things like this happen, I can't help the feelings of hurt that come over me. He apologized for changing our plans, but I am still not truly over it. To top it off, my stepdaughter brought old pictures to share and we ended up talking about his relationship with her mom, and his past with their family all night. He tried to salvage the evening, but the feeling was truly gone.
I do want to be supportive, but I want to be supported also, and right now I am still very much in pain. He always says I am first in his life, but that is words only, never in practice. ↓
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