I don’t know where to start on this.
I am divorced and so with my wife now. I had a challenging relationship with my ex when I was not yet married with my second wife. My ex used to avoid me and even became nasty and impossible to deal with. But she suddenly became friendlier and a lot nicer to me when she learned that I was getting married. I kind of enjoy the change because I thought it would be best for our daughter. I did not put any boundaries between us. She can come to my house anytime. I fixed her car; I go with her in just one car for our daughter’s activity. She calls me anytime for anything. I do a lot of things for her that sometimes, even to the expense of my time with my wife.
This made my wife uncomfortable and left out. I always assured her that I’m not interested with my ex romantically anymore. She says action speaks louder than words. She has a civil relationship with her ex. They talk but only about their children’s concern. Lately, I noticed that she was constantly talking with her ex. When I confronted her about it, she said, she now realized that it’s better to be friends with an ex because they have a common goal for their children.
Her car was broken once and she opted to call her ex other than me. I was very hurt about that. But she just said that she’s not interested with his ex romantically. That I should know since we’re on the same boat. The ex husband came and picked her up (that was the first time since we’re married) for their son’s school activity and it was driving me crazy. I lessened my communication with my ex hoping my wife will do the same but looks like she’s enjoying her ex company now.
What should I do? I’m going nuts soon! ↓
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