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Name: Dianna

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My ex and I split up 6 months ago and he remarried quickly and my daughter is 7 and she seems so angry she just can't seem to let it out and she doesn't know how to express it. So it comes out that she is angry and doesn't know why she was always a happy child and now she is miserable. I have tried to make everything special and tried to make everything better but I can't get her to open up to me and talk to me. I ask what is wrong and she just cries and tells me nothing. I want to help her but I don't know how. Her behavier is going out of control. from bad to worse. She has a 6 year old step sister at her fathers house and I think that has played a part in the behavior problem because that child isn't made to behave and I won't tolerate the things that her mother will. I know that I cannot stop her from visiting her father but I am about ready to. I feel like such a bad mom. I have not started dating anyone because I don't think she can handle it yet. So here we are both miserable and I can't fix it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! help ↓

Name: marie | Date: Apr 24th, 2006 10:28 PM

hello there, firstly it can be fixed with a little help from her dad. Your little girl is crying out inside for that safe and secure feeling again. she has seen you and her dad split and now her dad is giving another woman attention. so this is where the dad steps in. Expalin her behavour to him and ask if he can take time out with her, just the two of them, say a day out, or go to the park. This way she can feel loved again by her dad and will see that she has not been set to the back seat as you have mentioned there is another child involved. All your girl needs is some undivided attention from her father and then you can maybe arrange a fun meal fro when she gets home and sit and talk about the things she did with daddy in a fun way. Then this way she can see that she has attention from both parents who do love her and do see her as an important member of the family (both families even). Try this and if it doesnot wotk then limit the time spent with dad for awhile, im sure he will understand as its you who is having hard times. but like i say your little girl needs time out with her dad on a one to one basis now and again. Hope this helps and if it works then happy dating. ↑

Name: Dianna to Marie | Date: Apr 25th, 2006 2:54 AM

Thanks for your advice. I am willing to try anything. ↑