I have a few questions for you....are you feeling more so like this because the other man contacted you? Why would he contact you if he is married and have you agreed to meet with him? Why did you chose to marry another man if you don't love that person?
You said this other man cheated on you and from that point on you never had sex. Something is certainly wrong with that picture because if he's not getting it from you, he's getting it from someone else. Why was he so willing to cheat on you, are you sure he stopped? It seems like the best thing that happened to you was to get away from him. You seem to have a personal issue as well and that is lack of communication. Perhaps things would have been different if you were open and honest about how you felt. But you kept all that to yourself and allowed him to rule you in some ways.
Now 6 years later, you're married and not even in love with him. Do you talk to him. If you have issues, you need to discuss them and let him do the same. Keep an open mind. This man is the father to your children. You had to have loved him at some point. If you don't have the courage to talk to him, get help. I was in a similar situation with my hubby. I didn't know how to talk to him. We have been married for almost 4 years and our marriage just gets better and better. You have to realize here that it's not about YOU, that changed the day you got married, you have a partner and you need to show him that as well. How is he as a father? None of us are perfect, but if he is a good father and good husband to you, that's a great foundation.
If the love is there deep down, rekindle it, don't let this other man come back into your life just to walk away or cheat on you again. Talk to you husband about your basic needs and what they mean to you. I had to clue my hubby in on that one. If you look close enough, you see the pattern in both relationships that neither men fulfilled your needs. You really need to work out who you are and what you want and find a way to share that.
If you do find you must leave your husband, it can be done. But give yourself some time before moving on to a new relationship. The bottom line is, you are currently married and so is this other man. Being unhappy isn't the green light to have an affair. If you do ever remarry, you want to know that your marriage is safe and secure and loving. YOu don't want to worry that if your husband isn't happy, will he cheat?
Sorry so long. Be strong and think about what is best for you and your children. I hope I haven't stepped on your toes, I don't know your whole situation.
Best wishes. ↑ |
| Well if he is married and unhappy and seeking you out,i think the reason is obvious! He probably wants to know if you are as unhappy in your marriage as he is his and hopes that if you are then maybe you two can rekindle something! I think this ia exactly what he wants! Sounds like your dreams could be comming true afterall!? ↑ |
