Ok... this is THE TOUGHEST thing that I have gone through to date. I need some advice or words of experience please.
My son is 7, I had him when I was 19. His biological father was abusive in everyway. Being young I had no clue. When my son was 2 weeks old I decided that he had put his hands on me for the last time. I broke our lease and moved out. I got custody of our son and he was awarded 2hrs a week supervised visits. The father has not supported my son in any way shape or form... which honestly we have done just fine and having him out of our lives is worth more than any child support in my eyes. For the past 4 yrs he has not seen my son or had any kind of contact what so ever because he was incarcerated. Now... after 4 yrs he wants to see my son and be a father. I have heard this song and dance atleast 100 times. Currently my son has a "dad" who has been there for him for 3yrs and loves him like his own. My son know's no other "dad". My struggle now is what to do about the biological father. I know that he has his 2hr supervised weekly visits, that is his "right" being the sperm donor. I just don't know how to approach this with my son. He is a very sensative and happy child. I don't want to damper his loving spirit with this whole situation. I don't know how to go about letting them talk on the phone or seeing each other (most likely at the police station because thats the only place I would feel safe) my main concern is my son. I understand there is a chance later down the line that he may resent me for keeping him away, but being the mother I have to do what I feel is right. Has anyone ever dealt with this? Can anyone give me any advice? I am stressing so bad I am sure of a heart attack in my near future. Thank you! ↓
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