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Name: christen
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i understand that myspace is also good to keep in touch with family and friends but to many married folks are using it as a dating lets cheat on our spouses website my hubby included and i have had enough!!!!!!!!!! even if they are just "friends" chatting i think if your in the local area with someone that isnt' friends with your spouse and you are talking ot them then that is wrong. I mean some women get ticked about porn i don't see a problem with porn men are visual but when you are purposely looking up people in your area or in an area you are going to move to then no that is cheatin. so why do men do it. i see that men come to this side of the category so i'm asking.
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Name: christen | Date: Aug 1st, 2006 10:20 PM
come on no one has been through this or has had any out come to share with me? 

Name: Serina | Date: Aug 2nd, 2006 1:50 AM
I think it rotts anyone sharing their life with a stranger and not the spouse is on their way to cheating. Pron the are just looking but when they actually get to know the other person and form a bond with them that is an afair ...they are sharing intamcy...affair... esp when they can meet them in the are... they are on their way or already their.
My space exploits kids and kids sometimes think the are talking with kids and they are not...DANGERIOUS for all.\
Any way I think anything that is shared thagt is private is cheatting!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

Name: Lizzi | Date: Aug 2nd, 2006 10:59 PM
Turn the tables and do it yourself and see how he likes it. I know it will make him mad,and when he wants you to stop it,say "why?,It's not cheating when you do it so it should be o.k. for me to do the same! " And when he gets mad say,"o.k.,how about we BOTH agree to quit?" And see what he says then. 

Name: z8agal | Date: Aug 8th, 2006 1:41 AM
My husband has just told me he wants to call it quites after 13 years and 3 kids (7, 3, and 1). I just found his MySpace account, and his little blonde bimbo that he cheated on me with is one of his "friends". So I am feeling your pain and frustration. 

Name: girly29 | Date: Aug 9th, 2006 3:39 PM
Hello....I've been in a new relationship for 8mths when I met my boyfriend he had already been chatting on msn. As our realtionship grew I found out he had mostly, if not all females as contacts....He once went online in front of me and this little chicky came on spitting out ....come on chicken...hugs hugs...so I was a little taken back, he explained ahhh some girl he met , she's married. This lady sounded like a unhappily married women who's tried to be greasy with him before. According to him he's brushed her off when she was like that..(not sure if we were together yet)....Anyhow I know he goes online but appears offline...This pisses me off! He doesnt want me to know hes online and chatting with his lady freinds..........I also chat online with female and males mostly people I have known physically for years....I have 3 freinds I have met on icq one man and his wife and another young lady.....I have no problem going online with my boyfreind in the room..I do this alot....The thing that gets me all fired up is I have discussed my concerns with my bfriend about him chatting with his girls and he claims no there just friends.....Well my question is. If their just friends than why won't he ever engage in a conversation with them when I'm around?.....Like I do?.....I was there this weekend and I had left to go for breakfast and when I came back and walked in the room I saw he was reading a blog...So me being the out spoken person I am..I said, " reading blogs are we"? he replied ya I read what you wrote in my space...AHHH I thought to myself..no that wasn't my blog I just saw!...and the fact he tried to close his window as quickly as he did, didn't leave me with a good thought....So I'm not sure what to do..I was single for 2yrs prior to meeting him, he's everything I was looking for, He can make me feel so good when I'm with him... And I really want to be with him! I'm not sure what to do?....it gets me so angry, I feel AT TIMES like I'm pyhsically stimulating him but mentally I feel like he turns to these other lady's....Or if it's - Prior to meeting me he use to always play cards and this is were he met most of these people...I'm not sure if he still stuck in the habit?? I don't know!.....Sometimes a little reasurance can go a long way..... 

Name: pj754 | Date: Aug 9th, 2006 5:13 PM
To girly29:
Here's the advice I can share. I knew of a fella, who was 32 at the time, he had a live in steady girlfriend with two kids, he was always browsing the internet chat rooms, cam sites, etc... One day, she found his id/password and came over to my house so we could look up the site. Sure enough, he had his own personal site of himself and was always communicating with other girls. Granted, he told her they were just friends and she bought it. Needless to say, he confided in my ex about all the girls he sees on the side when she isn't around. So, I put it to her delicately that he might not be the person she really thinks he is. Well, they've been on and off several times. I knew perfectly well, he wasn't going to commit to her. As might as I tried to explain without voicing my opinion too much, she had to see for herself. I'm no longer friends with him because he's more friends with my ex and lied in court against me. Yet, I can tell ya, he slept with one on my old friends, who was engaged to be married, in my home. I've always felt he had zero respect for women.

As for my fiance, he was a player for a long time before I met him. He was single and never wanted to get married. He admitted he had no ploblems finding a girl, he just didn't want a commitment until he met me. We've been together 3 years and are getting married August 19th. Ever since, we've been dating, he has cut off all contact with any female friends he's had. He went as far as getting rid of his cell phone because of all the girls that had his number. There has been no sign of any contact with anyone. Plus, when he gets on the internet, they are for brief moments and I'm allowed to watch the sites he views. Also, if I wanted to, I can check history on the computer to see the dates and times of the sites he's viewed. The temporary internet files shows the information, too. However, I used to check on my ex all the time because I discovered he was looking and viewing at things I felt were very offensive to me. At first, he shrugged it off as no big deal and then he got very angry with me when I caught him in the act. Another reason, why I divorced him. He wouldn't stop looking no matter what I said. I felt it was degrading to me. I viewed chatting with other females on the internet while he was married to me was violating our marriage vows to each other. I never did it to him and I'm sure he wouldn't like it if I had done so.

So, my advice is, if your boyfriend is choosing to keep communication with these other girls then you need to reevaluate your relationship with him. Sure, he will probably tell you he will stop doing it but the idea of him doing it behind your back will come to mind. If he honestly and truly loved you, he would only commit to your. Hearing and communicating with other girls is telling me he's not planning to commit to you whole heartedly. Especially, if he's trying to hide it. Why hide it? He knows he's doing wrong and knows how you feel but he's not taking your feelings into consideration. I'm sorry if I sound blunt but I've seen this sort of thing too many times. For five years, I trusted and believed in my husband but he wasn't willing to change. Then, after my divorce, I found out he had been cheating on me during our whole marriage. These are just my experiences and this may not be the case with your relationship. Sit him down and having a serious talk on this issue with him. Don't buy the, "Their just friends story!" I would feel like he's looking for something else better to come along and your just the waiting station. Yet, he could be stuck in a habit and doesn't know how to control it. But if he truly loves you, he will make an effort. I hope this helps and I didn't mean to hurt any of your feelings. 


Name: christen | Date: Aug 16th, 2006 2:44 PM
I hate to keep bringing this subject up but i don't know what to do about it. Things are going really well between me and my hubby at least i think anyways. but he tells me he is only on myspace occasionally but when i look at the site he is on it all the time like everyday that doesn't seem to occasional to me. it sucks because he is lying to me about it which usually means he is up to no good. He is talking to his mom more now and thats scary in itself because she doesn't like me. I have never done anything to this woman she is just a BITCH sorry for the language. but its true she is the typical monster in law. This all wouldn't be so bad if i weren't pregnant because my decision i think would be easy but because i want more for my little girl than what i had (a father figure) i dont' want to keep starting a fight about it. I know he hasn't cheated he doesn't have enough time to he goes to school during the day and i can vouch for this because he is there when i check up on him without him knowing. but still it sucks that he could be talking to other girls and who knows what he says to them i know most of you are probably saying i'm worrying about nothing but dang nothing sucks! 

Name: leftcoastmom | Date: Sep 1st, 2006 9:53 PM
I AGREE WITH YOU THERE. BE CAREFUL ON MYSPACE. I AM ON THERE TOO, BUT I AM NOT MARRIED. I KNOW OF SOME COUPLES WHO ARE ON THERE, AND THE WIFE SAYS HER STATS ARE MARRIED WITH CHILDREN, AND THE HUSBANDS STATS ARE SINGLE/ DON'T WANT KIDS. I SMELL A CHEATING RAT WHEN I SEE THIS. 

Name: fionix | Date: Aug 26th, 2007 2:08 PM
my husband started to stay up all night on the computer in chat rooms to people from his country azerbaijan.he said he needed to talk to ppl of his own kind at first it wasnt a prob but i logged in as him and a very young girl started to call me hunni and love etcetc suddenly she realized i wasnt my husband and asked who i was i told her i was the wife and she went crazy swearing at me .later on i found out he had slept with one of the latvian girls that works for him needless to say we are getting divorced 

Name: CHEAT10 | Date: Oct 10th, 2007 4:40 PM
IF WIFE IS DEFENSIVE ABOUT HER MYSPACE ACCOUNT SHOLD I BE CONCERNED? 

Name: patty | Date: Oct 10th, 2007 4:48 PM
Cheat10/ No you don't necessarily need to be concerned. It turns into a problem when they need all the secrecy and try to hide things. 

Name: nino32 | Date: Oct 16th, 2007 3:37 AM
Well I'm a guy and tonight i found out all kind of things my wife has been doing on myspace behind my back. I noticed she has been distant ever since i got back ( I'm in the navy and just got back from sea last month.) Well tonight i found out she met a guy on there from close to here and was "IN LOVE". I've been married for 13 years and if it's that easy then i need to leave her and move on. She'll call me again after he dumps her and try to come back but I don't need that in my life .I hope she finds what she's looking for on there. 

Name: kay | Date: Oct 22nd, 2007 12:47 AM
i have a boyfriend and i met him a couple of months after he got divorced to his ex wife in 2004 and we have been together 2 and half years and i was pregnant to him and she keeps texting me recently asking me all kinds of questions about him and iv just found out that in 2006 he got back with her and he was with me then he and she are a lot older than me i am 19 and he is 26 and she 27 i just need to no what to do can anybody help me please 

Name: GDR | Date: Nov 11th, 2007 11:38 PM
I agree. Porn is not okay- it's simply a man that cannot control his desires. It's as close to being a glutton that one can be. 

Name: ashie | Date: Nov 26th, 2007 7:25 PM
i want to chat 

Name: ashie | Date: Nov 26th, 2007 7:26 PM
i want to chat. 

Name: CHRIS | Date: Jan 9th, 2008 3:57 AM
hI 

Name: hij | Date: Feb 5th, 2008 4:00 AM
=-0 

Name: Mary | Date: Feb 20th, 2008 10:20 PM
Melva what does that have to do with the topic at hand? Is that why you are cheating on Myspace? 

Name: Merla | Date: Mar 30th, 2008 2:47 PM
I found my bfriend's myspace pass word he occasionally tries to meet some of his attractive myspace friends when he's in their town (he travels a lot). He never tells me about them and has never actually met up with them but knowing the intention is there is just f******* with my head. I haven't told him that I know his passwords because I am ashamed of the fact that I was spying on him. I want to break up with him but I've really grown to care for his son and am afraid of the devestation it would cause him because he also cares for me like a second mommy. But I realize that it has already been written in the cards and that if he really cared about his son he wouldn't treat me this way. I would never do anything like this to him and don't understand this behavior. The thing is if he was honest with me telling me he wanted to see other women I would totally be understanding because then I would know how much of my heart energy to give him. My advice to other women, don't spy on your man. If you sense a lack of intimacy confront that which he allows you to see that will be enough for you to decide what to do. You don't need to know the gory details they can be heartbreaking. 

Name: girli_bird | Date: Mar 31st, 2008 9:29 PM
I found my husbands secret my space. This is the sccond time that I have found it. Both times it says hes single. The first time I confrounted him aobut it, and of course he turned it around on me, becuase I have guys on my myspace page, but they are guys that are friends, that have been friends for years. And my page says married and proud parent, and has tons of pics of all of us. His has none of that. This time I haven't said anything to him. 

Name: laura | Date: Apr 8th, 2008 11:16 PM
hey whachia doin 

Name: Tracey276 | Date: Apr 12th, 2008 11:16 PM
I say you are absolutely 100% correct. My boyfriend was on there and lied to me about it, until I found it. I think its wrong! 

Name: Connie | Date: Jun 8th, 2008 7:57 AM
I completely agree w/your statement. I am currently going through a divorce and it was caused by pretty much the same thing. I'm devastated by this, as my husband has created a monumental amount of debit...even though he is taking his car and most of the credit card debit, the house, which was bought with the idea that we would be together and I could depend on his income is now going to be something I struggle to pay for. I never actually caught him cheating...but the friends he made between here and California (His work route), and the fact that he a) wouldn't put he was married and b) changed the password to the account and wouldn't give it to me was to much for me to deal with. I always told him Porn was fine, as long as it didn't involve webcams...but the MySpace account combined with the fact that we are rarely intimate says it all. He swears he's been loyal...but his actions speak much louder than words.

I dated a guy back in the day of AOL profiles. He ended up sleeping with a 15 year old girl...he was 30. I was young and naive and didn't report it. Then after we broke up, but were working together (he a musician, me a singer) I created another AOL account for him, under the rule that he not use it to communicate with others. Next thing I know, so girl figured out his account was linked to mine and started telling me about the kinky sex they were having. I guess you can say once bitten, twice shy. 

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Name: Christina | Date: Jun 26th, 2009 9:33 PM
How can I divorce my husband who won't give me an address so I can have him served? I found his Myspace page, and messaged him saying here's my address and asked him to serve me, of course he hasn't done so. What can I do? I can't afford a lawyer and I live in California and he's in Las Vegas Nevada?
Sincerely,
Christina 

Name: hope | Date: Jul 13th, 2009 4:21 PM
hi my hope 

Name: noorkhan | Date: Sep 24th, 2009 11:01 PM
love 

Name: poes | Date: Feb 13th, 2010 6:18 PM
need help divorced male in need
of companionship in help 

Name: ebinco | Date: Jul 8th, 2010 11:09 AM
i donot see anything wrong in making friends but specification must have to be drawn to avoid mutual heartbreak. 

Name: kalam | Date: Jul 30th, 2010 11:16 AM
Looking a sexy girl..Want sex..... 

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