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Hello everyone, I am new to this site. But I would like opinions on the following situation. My best friend gave birth to a baby girl in december of 2007. My friend was 37 years old at the time. She Had wanted another child for quite some time now (she has an 11 year old son.) Her ex husband (thechildren's father) is 47 years old. He had made it plain and simple from day one that he only wanted one child. She decided to leave him in april 2007 (they are now divorded.) but before she left, she made sure that she was pregnant and told him after they separated. She is my best friend but she is a user and very deceitful. Her ex does not want to be involved in the baby's life. He does pay child support for both kids and spousal support. He is a wonderful man and is now remarried. He says he is too old to start over again and says my friend would just use that baby as a pawn to try to control him (just as she does their 11 year old.) I do agree with him but, I do think he should be involved his his baby's life. The problem is, I am friends with both of them and have grown to really like his new wife. My best friend gets upset with me when she asks my opinion and i tell her that i can see the point of view from both sides. She has never let her ex be a dad, she has always dictated when and where her ex can take their son. She seriously acts like a high school girl. I can't even talk sensible to her anymore. She is obsessed with trying to make her ex miserable even though she is the one who broke up the marriage. Should I distance my self from her slowly or tell her exactly how i feel? (She can not handle anything negative about herself no matter how gentle i am.) Any advice? ↓
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