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Name: elizaj09
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I have been married to my husband for 5 years and we have been through so much, I thought nothing more could drive us apart. But I am wrong. We recently bought our first home and with our bills and all, we need a double income. Well of course, due to the economy, I have lost my job and am struggling to find a new one. On top of that, I just found out I am pregnant. Scared and excited were my reactions. I know it will be a very big struggle and I wont get my dream of being a stay-at-mom, but I feel there has got to be ways to make it work as a family of three. My husband on the other hand tells me, "I've worked so hard to get where we are and am NOT willing to give it all up for this baby!" First, he began pressuring me into getting an abortion. However, I have stood up for my moral beliefs and put my foot down with a firm, "No!." Now he insists we have to find a family NOW to adopt the child. I am 11 weeks along. Neither one of us has told family or friends about our situation because at first he was so set on an abortion. So I went and talked to a free pregnancy center and the lady gave me a little more hope. I brought home brochures and looked up websites all on negotiating our house payment to WIC or OHP. Unfortunately, my husband makes just a little too much to qualify for these aids. I've tried showing him pictures of what our child looks like to get him more involved or to bond a little, but it all still leads to an argument and him demanding adoption. I just don't know the right words to get through to him how exactly I am feeling and don't understand how he can choose to be so stubborn or show no feelings towards something he had a hand in creating. I love my husband soo much and don't want to break our commitment to one another and I know he feels the same way. I just wish he would take the time to try and see our options financially and the aids that could help, but he feels so hopeless about it all. Even if I am able to find a job, he thinks we cannot afford our child. I am just so overwhelmed with stress and emotion and need advice. Please help me!?!
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