| Name: Hope10 | Date: Jan 21st, 2008 6:37 PM |
| my wife and i were thinking of getting seperation, we have been together 13 yrs . my ? is how or when do u know when its time to give up , we do have kids. together and both of us love them dearly i think we are caution about a divorce for the sake of the kids , we believe divorce is to extrem rite now.my wife and i cud get along together but i believe both of us have out grown each other ↑ |
| Name: John | Date: Jan 23rd, 2008 3:27 PM |
| Out grown each other is just a coward way of hiding behind the truth. It is people like U all who have changed society and cause all these ill deeds on each other. Don't U all believe in God and the union of marriage anymore? ↑ |
| Name: Mary | Date: Jan 23rd, 2008 3:28 PM |
| Out grown each other is just a coward way of hiding behind the truth. It is people like U all who have changed society and cause all these ill deeds on each other. Don't U all believe in God and the union of marriage anymore? ↑ |
| Name: charles | Date: Jan 24th, 2008 10:24 AM |
| i have been married for 2 years we have 2 wonderful boys together,i love my wife ,my kids,i provide for them shelter,love.security,etc,i value and respect my family dearly,I love Jesus and I believe that He's Lord,my spiritual life hasn't been the same ever since i got married it went worse,my wife at some stage told me she doesn't love me,she married me because she needed our son to have a father and mother in the same house,now when it comes to intimacy,she is not interested let alone any spontaneousness to initiate intimacy,when i get to bed she rolls the other way on the bed,i spoken to her about all these things,we have been to counseling ,but she wont change and she can be rude at times talking to me ,we hardly even have communication tim,let alone prayer time,i know as a man i have to a priest,i used to invite to pray with me but i could see she wasnt interested,i have gone thru a lot of temptation because of that but I thank God i never had any sexual intimacy with any other woman ↑ |
| Name: charles | Date: Jan 24th, 2008 10:29 AM |
| i don't believe in divorce,that's also not in my plans at all,but she said she wont mind if we divorce,when we got married she influenced to get into a lot of debt and now she wont contribute also towards those debts,i had sell some my business to try and cover my expenses, we both still very young,her parents have divorced,but we broke to generational curses ↑ |
| Name: John | Date: Jan 24th, 2008 1:58 PM |
| Charles, I share your pains as women today does not for one minute believe in marriage anymore. The main thing on most women minds today is....and they blame men. There are more women out there cheating today and society accepts it. Also, you talk about a minister talking to you all I must warn you that there is a high rate of cheating even in the church - so don' t be foul. Pray to God my friend but chances are your wife is cheating. ↑ |
| Name: chuck | Date: Feb 29th, 2008 9:55 AM |
been married 17 years in thattime wife never said about being un happy then she started chattting over internet then she met this guy trying to hide it it was stuff never thought she would say to someother man
then started the phone now she comes out saying she doesn't love me no more
what do I do ↑ |
| Name: david | Date: Feb 29th, 2008 2:44 PM |
| hi this is david,i am in the same as you,but i dont love her any more,i feel the love is gone ,i dont know what to do david ↑ |
| Name: Brad | Date: Feb 29th, 2008 3:22 PM |
Well guys I did'nt have a kid with my first wife but I do have one with my second wife and we are still married and doing ok, I say that but why the hell did I serch up this site?
I believe these girls begain to fill to much like a mom and not like a woman, you tell her shes a great mom a great wife you tell here she looks good so she says thank you but often deep inside she may not fill as secure as we might think, and if you dont love your self it will tare you up from the inside out. at some point she will want a change or a fresh start.
Time appart---This is not in every case but I belive you must spend time appart for your self not to much but a good hour at the gym a day with out the kids will make her fill like a woman and Men should do the same you should always be building your self up better and smarter,,,people love people who are driven and full of life definatly after you have a baby this is important for the men and family to help give the mom the right amount of time to bond and also time to get her self back in order .
For the guys who's wife is gone... Guys keep strong, honest, and take excelent care of your self, remeber if non of her frindes think your somthing they would ever want why would your wife want you. Keep your game strong "keep your pimp hand strong" chicks love mistirias assholes, dont be some sappy mush of a man thats broken and begging for here back, but dont go off screwing everyone ether becouse that wont help anything..... But if you find out she cheeted on you O man you need to get with her friends, sister, mom anyone she would turn to..HHAHAHAH
To sum it up love your self, and people will love you,,,,
Good luck and dont forget to pray for your self and for those who have it worse than you.
Sorry about the spelling ↑ |
| Name: paul | Date: Mar 9th, 2008 11:59 PM |
| this is all very familar, my wife and I separated a year ago she rents i live in family home. son with me and daughter with her but the're teenagers so they're cool with it. then yesterday she told me that she didn't want me in her life,she was having fun and I stifle her but she still loves me. i liked the space i had too but still hoped for a re-union. I feel betrayed by her, I never hit her. cheated on her dont gamble drink smoke wtf is it with women. good guys just get crapped on ↑ |
| Name: Tony | Date: Mar 19th, 2008 11:22 PM |
Words from the broken hearted club.
When someone tells you that they stop loving you, it is a hard blow. I guess there is not a rule that says maybe you should give some warning. There are always reasons as to why you partner is not in love. To be truthful, it does not matter why because the end result is the same. Well let me backtrack a bit. It does not matter if your partner does not want to fix the problem. If you are blessed with a partner that gives you fair warning, I mean they say fix this and this or I am out of here then be thankful. If you don’t fix your issues then you must question your love for them. What I am talking about here is the out of the blue “I don’t love you anymore”. This is has got to be the worst feeling ever. They already have been planning this for a long time and then decided to drop the bomb. You feel powerless and are in denial, you first think that they are just angry or that maybe there is someone else (Keep in mind that theory is always open and in some cases very true). Slowly you go thru the phases but you are always upset wishing that If I we could try one more time. The burner is that your partner has already had their try and went through it in their minds many times and it failed. They are not going to give you that shot,well not now anyway. You might get lucky if they have a change of heart but from what I know those chances are slim. You will read everywhere “just give them space, if they were meant to be with you they will come back if not then move on.” You might read someone saying “They don’t love you, go away”. Once again none of this really helps you. You feel that you needed closer. You feel that you were not given the chance you needed. It sucks. I am going through this problem at this very moment. I decided to write down my words and hope they sooth but I know it takes time. When you have kids it raises the tension another 100%. What about the kids you scream in your head, don’t they deserve for us to give one last attempt to try and work it out? It makes since to you but once again. They already came to a conclusion in their mind. You must put on your game face and deal with the situation especially when you still live in the same house waiting for them to file for divorce. You must wait! In my case I wonder why she has not served the divorce papers yet. I can’t help but to hope but I know the chances are slim to none. The only thing I can say is that probably if you bust your ass and change yourself, Yes change yourself for the better. Even if you think that there is nothing wrong with you a change is happening in your life and you must move on. This moving on process is change. I read that you should not do anything drastic until a year but that is not what I am talking about. I am talking about “Learning to live without your partner”. It sucks it really sucks but no matter how much you say it you are still in this position. If you have a good kids and have a good partner then maybe they will be civil to you. Ha ha ha. Civil, This is hell, All you want to do is touch them and beg for forgiveness but this is not very pretty and I think it will stop them from being cordial. Be strong my friends in the broken hearted club, be strong. I say this to everyone especially myself. I find comfort in the bible and understanding that change happens with or without our permission. To end this utter blabbing, we all know that life moves on but it is hard right now. Keep the faith and be nice, try and smile when you can and make new friends if possible. The only light we have is that time does heal all wounds in time. That Is if you don’t screw up the release process. ↑ |
| Name: CTfemale | Date: Mar 23rd, 2008 2:23 AM |
| David, your not alone. Although you can't make someone love you. Sometimes pushing to be close is actually cause for a bigger divide. Are you really missing her or the fact of having her there? Sometimes the thought of being alone is the driving point for pushing to save a relationship. I am not sure of your relationship and saying that it's not worth saving, although I do know what it's like to be afraid and know you can get past the depression ↑ |
| Name: KRIS | Date: Apr 7th, 2008 6:37 PM |
| So what is going on out there? My wife and I have been together for 5 years, married for four and have a 3 year old little angel. She also does not want to be married to me any more, she says she does not love me and she wants me out. I want the marriage, and want to work things out. She says she is done and is repulsed by me. I tried to talk and talk and be patient, but now after a couple of months I am worn down. It is so sad for my little one. She will suffer, but much like David, she will not hear me either. There is nothing I can do but let her go. She wants a separation until we figure out finances. I am devastated and know all too well... once I let go, there is no going back. So I have nothing left. ↑ |
| Name: Jeremy | Date: Apr 7th, 2008 6:49 PM |
| Commitment. Those leaving their marriages are cowards and are not strong enough to go through the tough times too. Stop trying to change each other, be more accepting of each others quirks. WOMEN AND MEN... honor your commitments! and stop the blame game!!! The only person you can control is yourself!!! Let the other person be!!! ↑ |
| Name: Chris | Date: Apr 7th, 2008 6:54 PM |
My best advice to any guys out there: DO NOT GET MARRIED!! Marriage and love do not exist. There is no true love or acceptance.
Stay AWAY! Forget that a woman will ever do right by you and love you forever. It's all bull. We will never get it ever. Shakespeare had it right. ↑ |
| Name: FairnSquare | Date: Apr 7th, 2008 7:01 PM |
Those of you saying that there is all this cheating going on...
Sure it is going on, but it is not just women, cause the men are cheatin just as much and the cheatin women are going to men to cheat... so add the other half of the equation. We are on a moral downward spiral.
People! Tune into Dr. Laura, read the 10 stupid things books and read the proper care and feeding of husbands. Do it now before it's too late. ↑ |
| Name: karma | Date: Apr 8th, 2008 12:45 PM |
| My wife dosent love me , she just like to be away from me ↑ |
| Name: zach | Date: Apr 21st, 2008 1:52 PM |
| how can i make my girl love me and not have the feeling that she doesn't love me any more ↑ |
| Name: zach | Date: Apr 21st, 2008 1:55 PM |
| sorry didn't mean to send that i mest up on my projet and im have no thing to tell u so don't email me or talk to me bye ↑ |
| Name: Ed | Date: May 7th, 2008 4:22 PM |
| I'm in the same boar as many of you. I found out about two months ago in a first marriage counseling session that she didn't love me after 13 years and wanted a separation (change to a divorce within a week). Complicated by 3 kids and a boatload of debt, we could be stuck being up close with one another for many years and will be parenting the rest of our lives.. I'm not leaving (a judge will have to force me). She says she won't leave and abandon the kids. In the meantime, she's out with friends all weekends partying it up and meeting other men she's talking/texting with and sneaking around in conversations. She's resorted back to a behaving like a selfish contemptuous child. I can't stop her, her family/friends can't stop her, she's gone over that unfortunate edge and Lord Jesus you are the only shepherd that can bring her back...please do! Advice is welcome, but by the posts and what I've read, short of a miracle of divine interaction, she's 'gone' and we're all in for years of grief and pain. (God forgive me for my part in not been more attentive along the way.) ↑ |
| Name: khan | Date: May 11th, 2008 9:46 AM |
| Name: sabreamp | Date: May 11th, 2008 10:03 AM |
i am having trouble with my wife of 9 years at the moment ..she no longer loves me...so i reakin its gotta be another man ...that is what i think mate..i think your wife has found someone else..
sad life ..take care and be happy within.. ↑ |
| Name: Mavey | Date: May 12th, 2008 11:50 AM |
OK. Don't know if this is the right thread or not, but it's the closest I've come to get some opinions from those of you who have been left by their wife.
I have been dating a wonderful man for th past 10 months. He has a 12yo daughter that lives with him and well get on really well together. He was married for 7 years, together for 12.
His wife left him, saying "I don't love you anymore" and moved in with another man (online dating, I suspect) about 18 months ago.
Long story short, he has never really said anything bad about her (although none of his family or close friends have a good word to say about her) and now, things with the new man have ended, I am worried that if she has realised that the grass was not, in fact greener, that she will want him back.
He says that he doesn't love her like that anymore, but needs to keep things amicable for their daughters sake, and I totally get that. I met her (the ex, a couple of weeks ago and it was all very civil.
I guess I am insecure because they have so much more history together, from what he says, she used to wear the pants. I have no reason to believe that she wants him back, but I would like a guys point of view, that if she did, what would you do? ↑ |
| Name: kerline | Date: May 12th, 2008 3:56 PM |
| so way i dont know wat to say ↑ |
| Name: bryan | Date: May 17th, 2008 3:33 AM |
| my wife is basically doing the same thing, we have been together almost 5 years, we have a 15month old son.. but I found out she is emotionally connected to another man, who also has a 4month old son and a wife, Im pretty confused myself, I wish I understood women better.... ↑ |
| Name: Crystal | Date: May 18th, 2008 1:51 AM |
| Me and my husband have been together for five years but have been married for three and I think it's about to end what can I do to stop the nightmare from becoming reality? ↑ |
| Name: joe | Date: May 22nd, 2008 10:07 AM |
| my wife of 15 years and two kids found love on line and late night calls and tells me she has not been in love for years now all along i thought we had a great family.. ↑ |
| My wife and I married 23 years, four children, 8,11,14 and 20. thought I was going to die for over a year after she left, now I miss her, but there is a peace that comes eventually and you will remember the positives and you can go on and will. Be thankful for the good times and look for the new new good times that are coming your way! ↑ |
| Name: singlechristina | Date: May 26th, 2008 3:42 AM |
| thanks everyone here ! You'v changed my life a lot. I think I should share some good things with you all . I just found a very interesting dating site called www.singleparentloving.com ***which you can do a lot of thing there. Such as instant chat , blog, and searching the one you like in you area etc. It's really interesting. I think you would like it !thanks everyone here ! You'v changed my life a lot. I think I should share some good things with you all . I just found a very interesting dating site called www.singleparentloving.com ***which you can do a lot of thing there. Such as instant chat , blog, and searching the one you like in you area etc. It's really interesting. I think you would like it ! ↑ |
| Name: Joe | Date: May 28th, 2008 6:17 PM |
| Exact same situation here. Although Im not married on paper we have been living as husband and wife for 10 years with two children. My wife says she not in love with me anymore and just cant be with me. We have been through alot like many of you weve made it this far. I am a firm believer that Love doesnt leave- people give up. I for one will not. When two people love as deeply as we did it cant just go away. Its anger ,frustration and confusion that cloud the mind, which causes people to do things irrationaly. Sometime people just need somthing different from you, the real question is: Are you willing to change? People are not leapords and do have the ability to change in order to make things better for all parties. My advice to everyone and myself is to look inside yourself and your relationship and see what really made it fall apart( There is more than 1 reason) and take planned steps to really change thoose things, not for a week or a year, but permanently without selling yourself short. In other words make sure you can live with the changes you make and realise they need to happen in order to make life and you relationship better for good. I feel all the pain you all are going through, and I know its not easy to put your own feelings aside. Just remember the way you wouldve done anything to make your spouse happy in the beginning of your courtship, and think like that always. It does make a difference. ↑ |
| Name: diane | Date: Jun 5th, 2008 2:48 AM |
| hi im 19 years old and my parents have been fighting alot latley. my mom gets mad at everything and everyone. It never seems like she is happy.BUt the other day a huge fight with the whole family blew up which included me my younger sister my dad and mom. the fight was all over how my mom always is complaining about everything. Right now my family is having a really tough time with money and managing a buisness. which we ususal survive just fine but it has been extremly slow. BUt my mom is never positive about anything she is always negative and always points out the negative. while we got in this fight my mom expressed to all of us that she no longer loves my father anymore.she said she hasnt been in love with him for over a year and she wants a divorce. hearing this it really hurt but i somewhat always knew. my mom never said i love you back to my dad EVER. also my mom sleeps in a different bed and bedroom because she says my dads snores.which is true but still. Im not saying my dad is absolutly perfect because he is not. he has made some mistakes in this marriage with my mom. which involves lying. but he always says he is sorry. My dad loves my mom so much. i couldnt tell you how many times in a day he says i love you 2 her. he is willing to make this marriage work. but my mom said she can not fall back in love. my dad does not know what to do and either do I. I want may parents together but if my mom is only staying with my dad until my sister gets out of highschool which is in 2 years. I feel that if its going to happen anyway she should just do it now. i dont want my parents living together but not being together. I dont know ,i'm really confussed. my feelings are all mixed up. if you can help me clear my thoughts and give my dad some advice. i would be forever greatful. ↑ |
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