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Name: minaforsaken

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I have been married a year now, im 19 my husband is 24.. we just had our first child 6 weeks ago and since then there’s been this weird feeling, im still 30lbs heaver then i was before having my child... and i truly wanted to know if i was still attractive to him... to find out im not... we still have "sex" but he doesnt do much foreplay with me and i feel it is because he does like the way my body looks... normal i have on a long t-shirt in which i normal sleep in and he doesnt even take it off me during sex... i think also it is because of my body. which now i dont mind him not taking it off because he told me my new weight has made me unattractive to him and I don’t even want to take my clothes off…. I dont even like looking at my own body now... my heart feels broken... I even said I would stop eating totally to lose the weight and he said he would help me not eat… just showing how much he really hates the way I look… not only that but me and him talked when we first got together and both of us decided to never watch or masturbate to porn unless the other person was watching it with us and a few days ago he was watching porn and masturbating it to a porn star he really likes and has for a few years... she is very pretty and i guess more his type ... she looks nothing like me... it has gotten so bad i cant even get undressed or dress in front of him because my feels are so hurt.... I think about it 24 7 and it keeps me from enjoying my days…

I would really like some advice… if anyone could give me some that would be great…

can you love someone and not find them attractive?...

will this relationship work... any advice please ↓

Name: irish Amy | Date: Nov 2nd, 2007 10:27 AM

Hi Mina, you have just had his baby for f*** sake , 6 wks ago !!!!! give yourself a break and please dont let him make you feel this way, he sounds sooooooo shallow its unreal, I too was in your position once but it wasnt quite as bad, tell him to get off his perch and give you a break and TIME to lose your baby weight, and also if he felt that way about me I think I would stop sleeping with him as he would'nt make me feel nice enough to want to, I would tell him that his attitude has put me off ( as I think it would to be honest ) good luck and dont worry too much about your weight, it takes 9 mths to make a baby so it wont all go back the way it was after just 6 wks, take care ↑