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So how many of you out there whom are currently in a blended family, divorced, etc. situation, came from one growing up?
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Name: billy22 | Date: Dec 20th, 2006 6:21 PM
My Dad was married 3 times during my growing up years.... 

Name: Lory | Date: Dec 20th, 2006 7:13 PM
My dad is actually my step dad. He adopted me when I was2. So I consider him my father. My real dad? Huh? Who knows? The last time I saw him I was 5. Then after that his daughter found me online. Back in 99. We went to visit him. He wrote awhile, sent Mikaela (our daughter) gifts for awhile. Then, NOTHING. Haven't heard from him since about 2000. Nice, huh? I called his old number to see what was up once. It had been changed. As far as I'm concerned he can you know what to my hind parts! Sorry! 

Name: Lizzi | Date: Dec 20th, 2006 7:23 PM
Interesting topic. I'm not but my husband is. My dad always said not to get involved with someone who comes from a divorced family because if you do you will end up divorced yourself. Well I'm not divorced but we have separated and got back together. My marriage isn't what i'd call normal or happy either. 

Name: Lizzi | Date: Dec 20th, 2006 7:26 PM
My hisbands mom has been married 3 times and his dad was married 5 times before he died. My parents are still married,each of them only once to each other. My brother has been divorced once and is living with a woman now. He has no interest in remarrying. He has one daughter from his first marriage. 

Name: Lory | Date: Dec 20th, 2006 7:52 PM
By the way, this is my 3rd marriage. Got married too, too young. I surley wasn't ready @ 17. But...they say 3rd times a charm. It seems to be true! 

Name: Lizzi | Date: Dec 20th, 2006 11:39 PM
I got 2 to go then yet Lory Lol!!! 


Name: billy22 | Date: Dec 21st, 2006 2:15 AM
Well I am on my second marriage, which is a very happy one I must say. The top 2 things that strain our relationship are the ex and all the garbage that comes along w/ him, and $$. But really, it's nothing we can't handle.
My parents divorced when I was 4 & my brother was 2. They both remarried about a year later. My mother divorced the second after only a year, my dad's second last 8-9 years off & on. Then at the age of 10, my mother dissappeared and my Dad's wife left also. Then there were the numerous girlfriends in and out, but then finally my Dad got involved with his now wife when I was 12. She brought a girl and boy to the relationship and then they had a baby together.....I was the oldest therefore I was the "mother" most of the time. my step-mother was only 24 and my Dad was 36 so they went out a lot. My half brother was my true "first" baby:) I love him so much! They actually didn't get married until about 4 years ago, but they've been together now for 20 years! So maybe the third is a charm, but they're marriage and relationship isn't one I would ever want to have...that has to tone of the MOST disfuntional things I have ever seen in my life! I don't have anything to do with them at all anymore because I have always told myself that I will not expose my children to that type of toxicity1 They are aweful!
Anyway, so the only reason i got divorced was because my ex was unfaithful w/ an under aged girl and went to prison for it. I couldn't deal with his cheating anymore. it wasn't the first time. W ealso got married young and had a baby young, but I wanted to make it last. His parents were together all his life growing up, but after he went to prison, they divorced. They are both remarried and it's their 3rd each too! I went to a parenting class when I was going through my divorce(it's a requirement in my state) and they said statistically that the 3rd IS a charm! Isn't that sad?! 

Name: billy22 | Date: Dec 21st, 2006 2:18 AM
Oh, I forgot to mention the rest of my mother's history.....she found me again when I was 20 and told me she had remarried again(her 3rd). SURPRISE.....it was to a woman. Took me a while to get used to that one, but really they are very happy and have been together now for something like 17 years! I am close to them both and they are the only immediate family that I am in contact with other than my brothers. 

Name: Lory | Date: Dec 21st, 2006 4:01 PM
I agree that it is kinda sad about 3rd time being a charm! But, honestly if I wouldn't have went through some of the things I did. I don't think I would still be in my marriage now. Both my hubby and myself (his 2nd) understood exactly what we wanted and expected from marriage when took our vows. And..we knew we didn't want the cycle to continue with Mikaela. Sometimes you gotta live and learn. Hopefully you learn from your mistakes or bad choices. Even though I continue to make mistakes & sometimes bad choices. I now know the choices I make affects another human being! (that I'm ultimately responsible for) Havin Miks made me grow up big time!! She's been the light of both of our lives! I just wish more parents out there tried to get that! It seems like most people are products of divorce today! I know some don't have a choice in the matter! Sometimes staying makes it worse for the kids! And themselves!

I'm feelin ya on the x and $ strain billy22! That seems like the main poo poo we deal with also! My hubbys a good guy. He's still the typical guy though! But...I never expected perfection, cuz I'm surley not perfect! Raising kids and marriage is the hardest job in the world! (to me anyway) And, wow! I don't know how I would take that one (about mom) myself! As long as their happy together! That is what matters! Anyway, I try to take it a day at a time! Life is too short! Sorry about writin the book! 

Name: Lory | Date: Dec 21st, 2006 5:02 PM
To Lizzi, I know it's cliche to say, but....that which doesn't kill us only makes us stronger! (I think that's how it goes) It takes a very strong woman to endure some of what we do! Keep your head up! Your in my thoughts! 

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