| Name: Mayura | Date: Nov 4th, 2009 4:51 AM |
| I am married for a year.My husband never cares about me.He cares for his brother but not for me.Moreover he accuses me and blames me if anything goes wrong on his side.He wants me to do what he wants to do.He ahd relationships with some girls,about which he never opens up.If I ask him,he goes on up to hitting me.He has hit me twice for that.What should I do,I am very much depressed.I have loving parents and a sister.I can't go back to them,because I dont wanna hurt them,coz they arranged our marraige. ↑ |
| Name: CoCo Candies | Date: Nov 7th, 2009 4:20 AM |
| I have been married for 10 years and I have 1 child who is 5 years old. Honestly our marriage was probably over when I had my child. He is a good person for someone else. We dated for since we were 20 and over the years I have changed so much. He hasn't , he is still an irresponsible guy that thinks he is still in college. I have all the responsibilty in this marriage. I am the breadwinner, I make sure all the bills are paid, I clean the house and do most of the laundry. I buy the food and do the cooking. He is a good father but I have to tell him what to do with our kid, like when it's time for bath or homework. I have to guide him. He just doesn't know what needs to be done. He has it made. And over the years he has enjoyed all his hobbies of fishing and hunting. Well, I am tired of being his mother and want this marriage to be over. If it wasn't for our child it would be over tomorrow. He left for a trip for a week and it was the best time I have had in awhile. I have asked him to leave and he want. He can not pay for our home on his own. I don't want to leave and let the bank take my home. But I just can't take much more of this unhappiness. What should I do? How do I get him to leave? I don't want to be mean to him! He is a good person for someone. ↑ |
| Name: Bethany | Date: Nov 17th, 2009 6:04 PM |
Geez....I only have a bunch of cats, and that in itself is making this very tough.
It's no good for a child to see his parents together if they are only ever fighting and leaving for trial seperations. You two will be his role models for relationships, and he might think this kind of behaviour is 'normal' and grow to find himself in the same kind of relationship. While divorce is still hard on a child too, you have to considar that it will make his time home less abrasive because the two of you won't be at each other like cats and dogs. ↑ |
| Name: Mbumburu | Date: Dec 7th, 2009 3:28 AM |
| For me, that question depends on your personal ethics. What is more important to you -- your child having a dad or you being happy? And your child will still have a dad, of course, even if you get divorced. What's it worth to you to keep the family together? ↑ |
| Name: elle | Date: Dec 20th, 2009 1:28 AM |
This is my second marriage and I'm afraid it's headed in the same direction as my first--the toilet and fast. My second husband is so complacent the only way anything ever gets done is
1. if I do it
or
2. I bitch hard enough and often enough.
This is so frustrating and I just want out. We have one daughter who is four and I recently found out I'm pregnant again. The thought of taking care of three children is too daunting. Please give some advice. ↑ |
| Name: Chris29 | Date: Jan 1st, 2010 8:43 AM |
| Darlin' I am in the process of divorcing my wife of 8 years due to her cheating on me. As bad as I hate to break it to you but that man is and has been cheating on you for the last 3 years.If you have any self of esteem left you have to leave.My ex had me beat down it was hard but you can do it. good luck ↑ |
| Name: sarab | Date: Jan 12th, 2010 11:26 PM |
| hey there!! i understand what you go thru, but you must understand that a child raised with 2 parents who argue all the time is not good either, so at this point figure it out with your hubby,if you want to get divorce and you both agree then you can have joint custody, and everyone will be happy!! but then do not make things difficult for the dad to get joint custody or visitation or whatever you guys decide!!! best luck ↑ |
| Name: meg | Date: Jan 13th, 2010 8:55 AM |
| i know my husband for 10 year. We are married for almost 3 years, we have a 20 month old girl together. I think i still love him, but i cant take the problems we have about his family. They don't like me and always trying to cause problems. He says he can see what they are doing, but does nothing about it. I feel disappointed and let down by him. His family treats me awful,but he still chooses to have them apart of our lives. they also treated him badly and still does. I don't know if i can handle them being apart of my life. I feel like he chooses them over me all the time. We argue about this all the time and i am not starting to resent him when i used to love him so much. Am i overeacting? What should i do? ↑ |
| Name: Marilyn | Date: Feb 7th, 2010 12:03 AM |
| I have stayed in a terrible marriage for over twenty years and I am finally making the move to separate. I stayed for the children and not only cheated myself but set a poor example for my children who now have no idea of what a loving relationship looks like ↑ |
| Name: z1590 | Date: Feb 13th, 2010 5:55 AM |
| I am in a 18 year marriage..I have messed up and she has messed up ..hers is more recently..i forgave her..we are going to counseling..but she keep saying she wants her own space..i don't want to separate from my house. it is a waste of $ i am sleeping on the couch..i love her and want her to work to getting the marriage together. i am scared. ↑ |
| Name: Fedup25 | Date: Mar 11th, 2010 2:23 PM |
I've been married for 3years also & since then it's been argument after argument.. I
m so tired & I know that I was more of myself alone. I'm not myself now. I don't want to do the separation thing b/c lust can come into affect.. I just want it over & done so I can move on with my lfe.. ↑ |
| Name: Fall | Date: Mar 20th, 2010 2:00 AM |
| I know I need a divorce. But I can't bring myself to leave. My child is 11 and is having a lovely life. I don't want to change anything because of her. I also feel that since, I not the one in the wrong I sould stay and my husband should leave. I'm ok with starting over by myself but financial we are destroyed. But I do have a good job. My husband on the other hand runs his own business but just lost his major contract because of negligents. He travels has been unfaithful and has tried to make amends when I found out. After that I found out the extent of his unfaithfulness. I am davastated. He is embarrassed and hides in his apartment that is rented for work (that is what I thought). But now he is cleaning it out to let it go because he can't afford it. I was ok with us working through these problems until I found more damaging evidence. He suggest counseling about 5 moths ago, it never happened. Then he said he would get the separation papers drawn up since I seemed so determined but it hasn't happened. Can someone give me advice on this? Fall ↑ |
| Name: Timber | Date: Mar 22nd, 2010 5:35 PM |
| Divorse doesn't mean your child looses his father, It just means both Mom & dad ar happy. ↑ |
| Name: julia | Date: Apr 10th, 2010 11:14 PM |
| my husband is an alcoholic. we've been married 11 years now & i am so sick of this. we don't have intimate relations at all because we fight everyday. he is never violent & has never raised a hand to me./ he works, pays bills, can fix anything & would actually do anything i asked. i'm just so tired of hearing what a good man he is. i hate the smell of alcohol on his breath, the way he looks, talks & acts stupid when he drinks. im not attracted to that man & he would choose a drink over me anyday. i'm always alone even when he's in the room. decisions, decisions. we have no children together & this is a second marriage for us both. i'm too old to start over but still feel too young to live like this. the youngest child ( mine) will graduate & go to college in june. ↑ |
| Name: John2 | Date: Apr 20th, 2010 3:34 AM |
| Maried since 1976. In 1992 came to US. In 2001 we separated because my wife permanently has been accusing me for sending money abroad to my original family and bsed on that she started work as esthetician, hiding money from me and not seporting home at all. Since 1992 I spend a lot of money for my children education, cars and other goods. I don't know what to do. I'm catholic and don't want a divorce but it looks that finally I'll have to do it. Please advice. Maybe you know a good lawyer. ↑ |
| Name: firewalker | Date: Apr 24th, 2010 3:45 AM |
| It really isn't work staying together just for the kid. I am in sort of the same position as you. Been married 9 years, one child. He drives a truck. It's hard sure, but do you really want your child to grow up thinking that a marriage is aruging, living apart, etc? The only way your child will miss out on having a dad is if you keep him away from the child. ↑ |
| Name: adam | Date: Apr 25th, 2010 4:10 AM |
| my wife i have been with for 10 years, (since I was 17) told me last night that she doesn't want our relationship to work anymore. we have had our issues, but always assumed we were both in it for the long hall. she has changed a lot recently, like she got less settled down. i don't want to have kids and continue a family with someone who is willing to throw away ten years because they want to party more. any feedback ↑ |
| Name: louise | Date: Apr 29th, 2010 2:13 AM |
| my husband comes home after his sunday afternoon golf, had supper ready, ate it and announces after 40 years of marriage that he wants a separation. How do I go on from there? ↑ |
| Name: 1212 | Date: May 1st, 2010 4:44 AM |
If friend you have the law problem of divorce to need to be answered to deliver an E-mail for me
My mail address:[email protected] ↑ |
| Name: jay | Date: May 7th, 2010 2:55 PM |
http://cvict007.blogspot.com/2010/05/betra
yal-and-confusion.html?zx=d7a05c0a9b833259
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| Name: jr666 | Date: May 12th, 2010 1:26 AM |
| Name: PG | Date: May 15th, 2010 5:07 PM |
| i want divoce with my husband .he is very bad and i hate him ↑ |
| Name: Darlene | Date: May 17th, 2010 1:21 AM |
| I feel the same way - I seperated once and I was much happier, but let my husband come back for my two kids. The problem for us is that hs thinks that if he does something with the family then he has earned "free time" and can leave the house at 10:30 at night and go out on the town like a college kid - he is 47 - we've lived like this for years and it is just so draining - he's also been pulled over twice, but never convicted of the actualy DUI so - in his mind he did nothing wrong - give me a breadk - he spent the night in jail both times!!!!! Can a person ever change and grow up? ↑ |
| Name: Rosemary | Date: May 17th, 2010 1:51 PM |
| First, do you love your husband? Why are you considering divorce? ↑ |
| Name: Rosemary | Date: May 17th, 2010 2:09 PM |
| I need a friend at this moment in my life, not a lover, just a friend. ↑ |
| Name: david | Date: May 28th, 2010 2:47 PM |
| you child would sure miss him but do you think your child would be happy seeing you two fight ↑ |
| Name: shanell | Date: Jun 11th, 2010 4:34 AM |
| thinking about divorcing my husband any advice ↑ |
| Name: confused | Date: Jun 19th, 2010 10:34 AM |
| i have been married for 6 yrs now and dated my husband for 5yrs before that. qwe married very young and i have grown a lot since then. over the last yr my mum died and i have began to stand up for myself with my husband. the abuse is not physical but emotional and he keeps putting me down. i need to leave cos this is not the life i know i derserve but where do i start... ↑ |
| Name: ted | Date: Jun 27th, 2010 7:56 PM |
| Name: Betty | Date: Jun 29th, 2010 7:18 PM |
Question: My wife and I have been married for 25 years. Her mother has given us and our three children, money to help us out through the years.
Now that we have filed for divorce, am I enclined to have to pay back half the gift money her mother gave us? She says she has receipts and documents and I have never signed anything referring to a loan, it was strickly gift money to our kids and to our selfs. Do I have to pay half back after 25 years? ↑ |
| Name: Dawn | Date: Jul 21st, 2010 5:52 PM |
| Your children will be much happier if Mom is happy arguing parents are not good for children. Look for what makes you happy and your children will be fine. ↑ |
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