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Name: nyjets24
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My husband says he doesn't love me anymore. Lately he's been acting weird and now I suspect his coworker is fooling with him. What can I do to help make him love me again? How can I get what we used to have?
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Name: Rhonda W | Date: Jan 20th, 2007 11:36 PM
Well you cant make somone love you.They have to want to love you.And if he does not love you anymore and is fooling with his coworker than just let him go. 

Name: Lizzi | Date: Jan 20th, 2007 11:46 PM
Rhonda's exactly right here. Trying to make someone love you is not only alot of work on you but in the end it's a lost cause anyway. Your best bet is to get yourself out of the situation so you can begin to heal your brokenheart. 

Name: Rhonda W | Date: Jan 21st, 2007 12:42 AM
And the sooner the better. 

Name: BR910102 | Date: Jan 21st, 2007 1:52 AM
Seems to always go on at work!! Confront him about your suspicion and think before you ask, about the replys you may get, so you can respond as calmly as you can. As the others have stated you can't make someone love you. Just remember the grass isn't always greener on the other side, unfortunately some spouses have to find that out them selves. Good Luck 

Name: tweetybird4 | Date: Jan 21st, 2007 2:34 AM
Okay, if he says he doesn't love you anymore then has he stated what he plans on doing about your relationship? Is he looking to leave you or is he just hoping you will leave him? I would want more of an explaination from him. When did he start to feel this way? What has caused him to feel this way? Did he come right out and tell you that he's fooling around with his co-worker? Is he planning to move out? Since, he's told you this, why does he expect you to do? Granted, you can't make someone love you like the others have said but why doesn't he love you anymore? Where did things go wrong? Perhaps you can look back on your relationship to see just when things started changing for the both of you. Perhaps he has a lust for this co-worker that boils down to being unable to change his thinking about you. I'm sorry this is happening to you and I'm sure this is something you didn't want to ever happen. However, you need to realize that it might not be you. It could just be him and his lustful desires for someone else. If that's the case, then you will probably be much better off without him. I'm sorry if what I'm saying hurts you. I don't mean too. I just want to you understand that people do change for all the wrong reasons. I do hope you will be able to work things out for your sake but you need to look at things with open eyes and other objectives. Just so you won't get completely crushed down the road. Please respond back if you need to vent. There's alot of here willing to listen and help you through this. 

Name: super | Date: Jan 21st, 2007 3:13 PM
i am not married legally. we were common law married but oneday i got home and looked around and his things were gone. so i called him on his cell and asked him if he was gone he told me no he would be back. so i asked did he just leave me with his unborn child and the responsibilty of this child on my own . he told me he was not gone. he also said that he was not happy, he said he thinks that by him being here was stressing me out. the whole time we were on the phone i never raised my voice and i came across like nothing was wrong like i was not mad or upset. about 4 days after he left was pulling up in my apartments and there he was getting back into his truck i guess he had already been to the dorr but the locks were changed so he said he came over to talk but said nothing. later that night he called again said he wanted to talk but said nothing. so i asked him to leave. i have not heard from him in 3 weeks. it really hurt for like a day or two but everyday i am getting better i am getting over it. we have been together for 5 years. this is our first child he already had one but he wanted this one and now he is gone. he probulary found somebody else but i have to stay strong for myself as bad as it hurts. he said he was not happy anymore. that means somewere i relationship started falling apart the only time i can thing it might have happened was when the doctor told noth of us the i am pregnant. i just keep telling myself HIS LOST 


Name: Lizzi | Date: Jan 21st, 2007 4:05 PM
Sorry to hear that super. god that had to hurt though,i mean geez,after 5 years you think you know someone huh? Wow! I hope you and your baby will be o.k. on your own. Do go after child support though,if not for yourself then do it for the baby. Good luck to you and the little one! :) Come back if you want to talk more anytime! 

Name: super | Date: Jan 21st, 2007 11:11 PM
lizzi
i try to think about it. i even wonder if it ever crosses his mind i wonder if he even thinks about the baby or me. or maybe not enough to call. that is what i keep telling myself friends and family are here. but it is nothing like having the father of your child there with you.i also said we';ll maybe he is not ready to grow up and take responsibilty or he is going through something but all those are excuses i am trying to make up for him which is crazy. 

Name: Lizzi | Date: Jan 22nd, 2007 1:08 AM
Super,I'm sure he thinks about you and the baby no matter if he wants to or not,it's always in the back of his mind I'm sure. As for him not being ready,well,it's a little too late for that I'm afraid! I hope you go for the childsupport, he must take the financial responsibility for his child even if he doesn't want a relationship with you or the baby. 

Name: super | Date: Jan 22nd, 2007 1:19 AM
i am going to put him on child support i also would like to have a order were he has to get the baby at least twice a week and every other weekend. i have still have to finish school. i am upset i sont think it is enough for him just to have to pay and not help out any other way.i want it to bother him were he can not sleep at night or were he calls me i does not bother him that much cause i have not heard from him. i just dont want him to think that he can just move on without any responsibility 

Name: Layne | Date: Jan 22nd, 2007 4:33 AM
so is this where everyone goes to get away from the BS 

Name: JESSE | Date: Jan 22nd, 2007 5:16 AM
i am so sorry to hear that. stay strong. i have to agree with the others, you can't make someone love you. i know it hurts, but you need to do something for yourself. i learned a long time ago that I didn't need a man, then I fell in love, had a baby, and I am learning all over again that I don't need a man. It is harder when you have a child, but you can make it on your own and be happier for it in the long run. If he is fooling around with a coworker, then cut your losses, you deserve better. 

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