| Oh, I feel very bad for you! Do you try to talk to your dad about his drinking?? I think you should start! He may not know that you even know. Get angry with him! He doesn't even know he's killing himself. Tell him you want him to be around for you and his grandchildren. You can't make him quit but you need to express how important he is in your life and how you want him around. ↑ |
| Sheila is right.You can't make him quit,all you can do is tell him how it makes you feel and that you would very much like him to quit. You could also check into where A.A. meetings are held in your area and ask him to go to a meeting. You can also talk to another family member like an aunt or uncle and see if they would talk to him about his drinking too. If you wanted to you could also tell him that you didn't want to see him anymore if he's been drinking,that might sober him up. ↑ |
| Tell him how you feel it might schock him into doing something about it! ↑ |
Hi Nicole,
My name is Jannine. I'm an alcoholic like your dad. I haven't had a drink since October 21, 2001. Honey, I don't know how old you are. So, I'm going to try and be as honest but as tactful as I can be: I know that this is hard but your dad has to want to quit. That said, what I think that you need to do is talk to another adult - your mum would probably be the best and explain to him with the other adult there as well that his behaviour is concerning you. He may, like many, feel that he doesn't have a problem. Be prepared that he may express anger, yell, laugh, or weep. NONE OF THESE HAVE ANYTHING WHATSOEVER TO DO WITH YOU. What I need you to remember through whatever lies ahead is that NONE absolutely None of this is your fault or has anything to do with you. However, alcoholics very frequently lash out at their family members and those who care about them. Sweetie, your dad (and I) have a disease that is mean. It hurts us but it makes us afraid to get well. If he admits to having a problem ask him to get well. If he won't do it for himself ask him to do it for you. He might not even be ready to do that yet. And again, it isn't because he doesn't love you. I'm sure he and your mum love you very much. But again, he has to be ready to be sober. If he's ready, ask an adult to get him to a 12 step program such as Alcoholics Anonymous or into rehab. It took me five tries, and yes, my motivation was my son (now 7 and a half years old) to get sober but the program works. AA saved my life - I have faith it will save your dad's too. And, may I also suggest that whatever your dad does that you talk to your mum about maybe getting in touch with ALANON which is another great organization that helps family members of Alcoholics cope with the things about their relative's illness that affect them. Please let me know if I can help in anyway. ↑ |
| What if you been getting drunk and the last three months you have started wetting the bed when your a sleep? ↑ |
