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Sorry re posted because I spelled parenting wrong. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now. We have built a life together with our 4 kids. He has 2 boys 6 and 7, I have 2 girls 13 and 15. All of the kids get along. The kids never call us names and are always nice to both parents. The problem you ask then?? I am a laid back parent, he is a more strict parent. I am the type to say get your chores done sometime during the week he wants it done when he asks it to be done. He feel that my daughters never come and ask him for advice, or ask him to do things. We did do blended family counseling but it did not go over well, he disagreed with what their advice was. I think his approach at time is negative and that is why his relationship is not building with the girls. The girls are honor's students, active in activities and have gotten in no trouble at all. He agrees they are good girls but feels they should do more - he feels that they are not respecting him if the don't do what he asks right away. To me disrespect is mouthing him off, being ignorant etc. The other issue we have is on college - my view has always been if they go to school where we live they can live at home for no charge. I want to give them every advantage I can. He disagrees and believes they should contribute to rent - I did change my thought somewhat and agreed they should be responsible for thier entertainment and maybe some of their clothes, etc. He still thinks there is no reason they can't pay for rent - he states they are using our power and eating our food and using our phone. He believes there are many people out there that share the same views as him and that too many of us spend too much time being nice and nurturing and it does not help the kids. Advise please, from the guys and girls, we need it! Just to add the other thing that really bothers by boyfriend is that the girls are so busy with sports and activities and like to hang out with their friends and do sleep overs. He believes we should build more on family time - we share our kids with our exes, one week on and one week off. I think it's unfair to say no to the kids having friend time and some time during our week - also it's busy, we are raising kids they are involved in things - we do things together, we get some time together during the weeks we work it in... ↓
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