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Hi , I am just curious if any of you have had marital problems and have sought help through a counciler? And if so did it work to save your marriage. I have a really bad marriage right now and it seems hopeless like nothing can make it better. Thats why I am curious if going to marriage counciling will help us. ↓
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| Name: Alexandra | Date: Mar 26th, 2006 2:00 AM |
| No. Counciling is not a good resource. At least, it wasn't for me. My father walked out on my mother, brother, sister and I. I am 14 going on 15 and right now, my father is dating another woman who he has spent time with in hotels. Counciling is not easy for me. It is the hardest thing I have ever had to do and it didn't even help me. ↑ |
| Name: sally | Date: Mar 27th, 2006 3:57 AM |
| Yes we found it great. we seperated for a fortnight and started councilling.It helps you see things from each others perspective, we are still going now, it has been 4 months but we only go monthly now. ↑ |
| Name: Sara | Date: Mar 27th, 2006 3:40 PM |
| No disrespect Alexandra but you are only 14 and I dont think you know much about marriage couciling. I was referring my question to someone who was married and was having problems and sought help. Thanks alot Sally, this is my last resort and I really want it to work more than anything. ↑ |
| Name: Sara | Date: Apr 4th, 2006 9:18 PM |
| guess noone else ever needed couciling. ↑ |
| Name: sonia | Date: Apr 4th, 2006 9:54 PM |
| Yes counceling can help it has helped in my marriage. I would just make sure it was a religious councler. sometimes the other kind can be too negative they really don't care if you get a divorce because it will only mean more problems hence more money for them when kids and such need councling to deal with the divorce. In a sociology study it was found that people who get a divoces are no happier outside the marriage than sticking with an unhappy marriage. Moral of the story: it is always worth it to try again to work it out plus if you have to you can always resort to divorce right? My only exception to this thinking is if you are being abused. ↑ |
| Name: iwillsurvive | Date: Apr 7th, 2006 1:24 AM |
| Unfortunately both people have to be open to the idea. My husband was too set in his ways...mentioned divorce and never looked back. As I look at it, if he is willing to go, go for it. What do you have to lose? If you are already saying your marriage is bad....it can only get better? ↑ |
| Name: marie | Date: Apr 24th, 2006 10:00 PM |
| all i can say is what a waste of money, me and my ex went to marraige councling and ended up having a row over how much it cost with him saying it was a waste of money, one thing we did agree on hahah. try sorting it out by either saying ok time for a break or even if possible agree to sit down like adults agreeing not to fight and listen to what each has to say in turn. that way if it works for you then you can either buiild on whats gone wrong for you both or you can choose to go your own ways. but one thing to remember is that no one said a marriage would be easy, you have to work at it even through the rough times (depending on how rough they are though). ↑ |
| Name: Kara | Date: Apr 25th, 2006 12:56 AM |
| I agree Marie but sometimes a third party is needed to help show one another our true faults. ↑ |
| Name: iwa | Date: Apr 27th, 2006 4:50 PM |
| i had and still have problems, i didn't count on counsling, my life thought me "if you know how to count, count on yourself" ↑ |
| Name: S | Date: Apr 27th, 2006 11:05 PM |
YOu guys ever read or audio on Relationship Rescue Or Family First By Dr Phil they are reaaly helpful
Just a thought ↑ |
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