| She's feeling resentment of you because he's with you and not her. It's her fault, not yours. They split for various reasons and she can't accept it. Don't blame yourself but he's trying to keep contact with his daughter anyway he can. Yet, when the visits are over, he comes back home to you. It's natural that she doesn't want you a part of the childs life but eventually, she won't be able to stop it. Unless, there is some kind of signed agreement between the two of them. Does he talk about his visits with you, does he show you pictures, etc....? If so, he's trying to include you the best way he can without her trying to cut him out completely of their daughter's life. Over time, I'm sure you will get to meet her and spend time with her too. Especially, if you two are planning to spend the rest of your lives together. Let her blame you all she wants too. It was her mistake, not yours. Don't allow yourself to feel threatened that she is going to steel him back. If left her for various reasons and wants you apart of his life. Let him know how much you love him and be as supportive as you can be for the child's sake. He will learn to appreciate you more for that. Talk with him about his daughter. Stay positive when you talk with him about her. You may have to keep your feelings hide about the other woman but don't let him know just how much it bothers you. You have to try to be as supportive as you can, it will make you the better person that you already are. Not only for his sake but for the child's too. He fell in love with the qualities you have that the other woman couldn't provide. Keep yourself thinking of the qualities he loves about you. Eventually, he will want you to share those qualities with his child once the ex gets over herself. Do they have any legal agreement between the two? If not, he may need to get something done about it. He has every right to spend as much time with his daughter without her hovering over his shoulder. You can be a part of you partner's life by just being the loving caring person you are. Listen to him when he talks about his daughter and try to be up beat when he tells you, no matter how much you hurt inside. This time will pass and should get better. The other woman is the one with the issues not the two of you. I hope this helps and feel free to vent about how you feel anytime on these posts. ↑ |
