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Name: gronup

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I am negotiating custody with my STBX. In the separation I was primary with STBX every other weekend. STBX pays tuition for private school for my daughter , he does business there) and offers and pays no other support. He wants them from Wed - Mon. every other week for custody. I am not as inclined to change the consistency of the situation the children have, they are doing well in school and know what is expected of them here, and I can afford to give them this consistency. STBX was not a participatory dad until he found he might have to pay support, and has history of underemployment. I don't want him to use the children so he can demand more entitlements under the guise of spending time with his children. So far he has not done homework with them a single weekend in the 18 months we have been separated, somehow using the children's future so he can be "uber dad" seems a little selfish at this point. Anyone have this experience? ↓

Name: child support | Date: Oct 22nd, 2007 7:02 PM

Watch him! He may be trying to get CS out of you. ↑

Name: thankful | Date: Oct 23rd, 2007 2:45 AM

you need to go and get full custody of you children. that does not mean he will not have to do his part but you can call the shots. changeing the children schedule will be very hard stick to your guns. If you really think he is not doing his part get proof recording, reciepts, and take him back to court and show the judge. you will have victory because you are doing what right. But remember as mothers we have to know how to get dirty when required. good luck ↑