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I FOUND OUT ABOUT A WEEK AGO THAT IM PREGNANT. I HAVENT HAD A PERIOD SINCE APRIL. ME AND A BOY HAD SEX THREE TIMES IN MAY AND I HAVNT HAD SEX SINCE THEN SO I KNOW IM LIKE 3 1/2 MONTHS PREGNANT. WHATS WORSE IS THAT MY DAD IS A PASTOR AND MY MOM IS INVOLVED IN CHURCH TO. IT WOULD BE A TERRIBLE SIN TO THEM. I CANT TELL THEM. SOMETIMES I FEEL LIKE DIEING IS THE ONLY WAY OUT OF IT. WHAT DO I DO. IM SCARED TO DEATH
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Name: Jessaca | Date: Sep 2nd, 2005 1:08 AM
Being pregnant at any age is scary. Im 21 and scared. I couldn't Imagine being 13 and going thru this. Ultimately It is your decision. Do You want this baby? As hard as it may be, Or as scared as u are to tell your parents... You really need to sit down and talk with them. Im sure they will be angry, maybe cry or get upset. But you made a grown decision to have sex, So now make the mature decision to talk to your parents. Dont let anyone pressure you into having or not having this baby. Do what is best for you. Do what YOU want. 

Name: erin | Date: Sep 2nd, 2005 2:14 AM
Jessie, don't let this fear you have cause you to think that dying is the only way out. That's exactly what the devil wants you to think. Your parents, being the head of a church, already know that because of Jesus all sins can be forgiven, and being Christians they too will forgive you. Everybody sins and falls short of the glory, now it's up to you to be strong and remember that with GOD All Things Are Possible. Just make sure that the decisions you make now are the decisions that God would want you to make. Death is not one of them. God will make a way and open your parents hearts to understand and deal with this. Just keep your Faith in th Lord. God Bless!!! 

Name: Megan | Date: Sep 2nd, 2005 8:27 AM
Hey there Jessie. just wanted to tell you that God makes no mistakes. If you are pregant its because its a part of his plan. whether you want this baby or not you need prenatel care. go to your local planned parenthood and talk with them. they will listen and give you a lost of options. your parents do not have to be there. Do not think of killing yourself, its is a selfish thing to do when your parents would much rather help you with a baby than not have you at all. being 13 is rough but you have to keep living. what city do you live in? I live in Oklahoma City. if you live close i will help. i am a mother of one and another on the way i know what your going through. i was 17 with my first. what does the boy say? and if you havent had a period since April then you are more like 5 months pregnant.I am here for you keep in touch. 

Name: Carolyn | Date: Sep 2nd, 2005 4:02 PM
Sweetheart....please realize that out of the worst situations come the most wonderful things at times. Its hard to believe this I know, but this pregnancy could be the most important thing you'll ever accomplish.
I know you're scared because you're not even grown up yourself yet!
It's not a terrible sin to your parents as you think....it would be a shock and they may say things that sound judgemental, but I'm positive that they love their little girl (you!) honey. Please try to find someone to talk to that you trust,,okay? 

Name: heather | Date: Sep 2nd, 2005 5:22 PM
a sin to become pregnant? is that like sex b4 marriage? jw...anyways, you just found out? thats odd...you havent outgrown your clothes and got bigger or morning sickness or anything? are you and your bf still together? and how old is he? what does he think about this? theres not much you can do, and i dont think dieing is hardly the answer. if your parents are involved in church then you cant give up the baby im sure, so you have no other choice but to ride it out and take care of what you have done. by the way, i have an aim sn so if you wanna chat....my sn is sekcmix...i am 18 years old and i am 4 months pregnant. i got pregnant in may...good luck and best wishes 

Name: Pam | Date: Sep 2nd, 2005 8:07 PM
Jessie, just remember like someone else said God makes no mistakes and if your dad is a pastor then yes he may be mad at first but like the bible states you are not to judge and also you are to forgive for anger and not forgiving one is a sin as well. Dying is not the answer to your problems because your not only taking your life your taking the life of your child. Everyone makes mistakes, but just remember there's a purpose and a plan for everyone. God will see you through this just ask him to help you. Also if you can't tell them face to face write them a letter before leaving to school and hand it to them then go to school. Thats what a friend of mines daughter did when she found out she was pregnant. 


Name: Ashley | Date: Sep 2nd, 2005 9:20 PM
Jessie, the first thing you really should do is sit down and talk to your parents so that they can help you get the proper care for you and your unborn child. Especially if you are 3 or 5 months or more along. Prenatal care now would be better than not getting any at all for you and your baby weither you keep it or whatever you may choose. I got pregnant at 15 with my first baby. I understand fully how hard it may be to come to reality with the fact you may be pregnant and to tell your parents. I'm now almost 18 and 2 months pregnant with my second baby. If you need anyone to talk to you can email me at [email protected] or i.m me on my aim sn at USCGSurfRbaby or on my yahoo at Lilhottybaby2005. I will help you to the best of my knowledge!!! Good luck with whatever you may choose and may it be for the best for you! 

Name: lupe daniels | Date: Sep 6th, 2005 5:26 PM
hey girl i am seventeen and pregnant and was also hard for me to tell my mom actually was thinking that she was going to quit talking to me but i realized that eventually they were going to find out so i told my sis and she told my mom my mom was mad for a awhile then she got over it.she she told me that she love pregnant or not. 

Name: Jane | Date: Sep 14th, 2005 8:10 PM
I know some people out there are telling you what you were thinking. It dose not matter any more, because their is a baby you have to worry about now. Telling your parents is going to be tough, but rasing a child is hard work. Don't think about death, I am sure your parents will be angry and they still will love you. 

Name: jelisa | Date: Sep 14th, 2005 10:54 PM
if u want to talk my im FlYsUg675 

Name: jesse to shanice | Date: Sep 15th, 2005 1:26 AM
wow. thanks for those words of encouragement. i am probably the only one on this forum who got pregnant unplanned. not. to everyone else thank you for your support. mom and dad know now and we are looking at adoption, if thats ok with you shanice. 

Name: marie | Date: Sep 15th, 2005 2:54 AM
hey jesse i think that is great that you are looking into that. it gives you a chance at an easier life to get your stuff together and the baby a good life with another great family. you dont know how many people are thankful for that. i know what you mean though. im am 19 and trying to go somewhere and i am but its really hard. at first i was worried that id never get anywhere but you cant let that get you down. you have to keep going for yourself and the future. 

Name: Maritza | Date: Sep 16th, 2005 8:35 PM
Please tell your parents, a child is not a sin, I'm sure they will try to understand your situation, be truthfull with your parents, bring your boyfriend with you, there is always a solution and your parents will probably find you a good doctor so you can have your child. If you do not feel that you can take care of the baby, put your baby for adoption, there are many families that will love to have a baby. Be strong and God Bless you always. 

Name: sugarcub | Date: Sep 19th, 2005 7:21 PM
Dieing is not the way out of it. God has a purpose for us all. There are people out there that cant have children, you may be able to help one of these couples that would love nothing more than to be a parent. Your parents are going to love you reguardless of your mistakes in life. Don't be afraid to confide in them. They will be able to help you through this tough time. Of course they will be disappointed, but it's really not the end of the world. God allows things to happen for a reason. This was not a mistake. THERE IS A PURPOSE. Good luck. 

Name: Kristina | Date: Sep 23rd, 2005 8:09 PM
You have to tell them. I'm 17 years old and pregnant. I was extremely scared to tell my parents. It was bad at first but they are completely understanding now. Yes, even my dad. The baby and you need to see a doctor and make sure everything is healthly. It's a very scary time and you shouldn't have to face it alone. Write me any time. ([email protected])
http://www.babycrowd.com/jr/online/loveofbaby/ 

Name: lilly | Date: Oct 4th, 2005 12:25 PM
death is not the answer!be strong .try to talk to your mom at least..so u don't feel so alone and scared.remember a baby is always good news!so please talk to someone! 

Name: heather | Date: Oct 5th, 2005 4:21 AM
hey there little one i know how you feel i was 14 pregnate with my first child i didnt know how to tell my parents either im sure you parents will understnad i know it is very hard to be a young mom i am one i have to lil ones and im only 18 well if you need any help then just let me know i will help the best i can and where are you at??
well my name is heather and i will check ok you need to let your parents know because time is getting close and u need to go seee a docter for the sake of your child hit me back ok 

Name: becki | Date: Oct 8th, 2005 5:01 PM
i got pregnant to wen i was 13 im 15 now and it was scary for me but the easiest way to help your self to get round it is to tell your mum or dad and im sure they will understand my parents did. They wernt very happy with me but they said there glad i told them until it was to late. 

Name: vikki | Date: Oct 10th, 2005 1:49 AM
I know how you feel and with the involvment your parents have with church it must be hard, but your going to have a ababy and there is no hiding that. they may be angry or they may not but at the end of the day its a child of god ion their eyes. talk to them, but try talking to some one outside the direct family that can offer support or some thing. maybe some one within your fathers church can help you, and talk things through. these people are not here to judge you they are here in your life to help you and your un born child. i hope everything goes well and never loose hope in your life. 

Name: Amanda | Date: Oct 10th, 2005 3:01 PM
Well i think that i know where youre coming from but right now im having the same problem...Because my parents and i just talked the other day about what would happen if i was pregnant and then i didnt even know anything about it and now i have to be serious about this and let them know whatz up but im not scared the worse they can do is kick me out sounds bad but i can manage just have faith in yourself 

Name: Stefanie | Date: Oct 12th, 2005 7:39 AM
Jessie...Dont be scared...I was 14 when i got pregnant( 15 now just had her 3 weeks ago) I didnt want to get an abortion i couldnt face to do it...I didnt even tell my mom...She just knew...It real real hard work especially when your young and the father leaves you( once he suspected he left and is in jail now)...but good luck sweetie...Its hard exspecially with adoption i thought about that but just couldnt do it when i sawll her cute face lol 

Name: Shauna | Date: Oct 12th, 2005 11:21 AM
Hi Jessie,
A friend of mine had a baby very young and at first her family was very annoyed but by the time the baby came it had brought them closer together. The baby is now 5 and she is a beautiful confident little girl. Hope this helps. It WILL all be ok, just talk to people and keep talking! X 

Name: snow | Date: Oct 12th, 2005 9:06 PM
you no wot it is kinda stupid ca of youre age but you nowot....its your own flesha nd blood living inside you so dont make a choice your going to regret for the rest of youre life.....just take it all as it comes it will get better trust me x x xthink b4 you act its youre baby and no1 can ever take that away from you 

Name: * | Date: Oct 15th, 2005 2:15 AM
Lurker of this site..... started a new message board for teen parents and to-be teen parents.


http://www.teenparent
spost.greatboard.com

Sig
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up and then just introduce yourself under the Introduction Board. Then you can go to the 1st Trimester board and post. Invite your friends if you have any teen mother friends 

Name: Rochelle | Date: Oct 21st, 2005 5:10 PM
I have no idea who you are personally. But I can relate to the feeling of being scared and not knowing what to do. I am 23 and married and only 9 weeks pregnant and I AM TERRIFIED. However, one thing I do know is God has a purpose and plan for your life. Yes you made the decision to have sex and now the consequences are you are having a baby. The good news the best news to anyone is that God is so in love with you that He looks beyond your faults and He sees your needs. All of them from the need of love to the need of food. Then there is a scripture of hope and encouragement in Philippians 4 where Paul basically says " I push delete (don't condemn youself for the sin--repent and turn to God) and I move forward (there is nothing you can do to change the past or the present condition that you are in, so work with what you have and move on)" For those who may want to condemn you or look down at you, hold your head up and be confident in the love of God. One day you will look back at this and see the hand of God and a testimony of His presence in your life. Be blessed and I'll be praying for you. 

Name: Denee | Date: Oct 24th, 2005 6:21 AM
well i think im going to have a baby because of a whole in the condom wrapper and the condom but i dont know if i am and if so if i should keep it . hr wants me to if i am but how do i nkow that he wont leave me and go get some other grl pregnant? i am so scared for myself because im only 14 and i already think im going to b a bad mother.what should i do??? 

Name: Tiffany to Denee | Date: Oct 24th, 2005 7:44 AM
first of all u should take a pregnancy test, and if its positive then u should tell ur mom about it. and make ur decision from there. if u dont want to keep the baby and u dont want to have an abortion then u should maybe look into adoption. make the right choice for the sake of the baby (if u r pregnant) and the sake of urself. good luck. 

Name: chrissy | Date: Oct 24th, 2005 2:32 PM
your mom and dad are both involved in church sooooo,,,,they know that god would want them to be fair to you and know that no one is perfect yes your to young for this but it happened now you just need to talk to them,,,,about this and let them know how scared you are,,,,there is help out there maybe start with an adult at your school good luck sweetie!!!! 

Name: Jessica | Date: Oct 24th, 2005 7:14 PM
Hey Jessie,
I wanted to tell you I have a best friend who was in your same situation and she was very scared also, she lost her mom when she was 2 and her dad was not in her life. She is now very successful, but it was a struggle for her, I won't deny that. I think your parents will get over it eventually and they will just have to learn that people aren't perfect. However, your decision to keep the baby or not is the question. I know you feel like dying, but your going to get through this - I have seen it happen with my best friend. Good Luck and don't let people influence you to keep or not to keep the baby. 

Name: Brandy | Date: Oct 26th, 2005 1:01 PM
Baby girl, I am not quite as young as you but I am still young. I am eighteen years old, and 4 months pregnant. My mother had me when she was 14. Right now, it seems like the end of the world, but if your parents care about you (which they probably do) they won't be upset forever...this is their grandchild. Plus, there are other options besides keeping the baby. Explore your options and if you still come back to the thought of that precious little angel growing inside of you that you can't live without, then do what you think is right. Good luck!! 

Name: Jessica | Date: Oct 27th, 2005 9:07 PM
Hi my name is Jessica. I know you are scared but if you felt like you were mature enough to have sex then you should tell you parents yea it will be hard but you need to stop thinking of yourself because now even though that baby isnt here yet it needs medical attention as wells as you do. You need vitamins and med attention. What if there was something wrong you wouldn't know. So now is your time to grow up. This baby needs you. I hope you make wright decisions. Good luck! 

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