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I finally should start getting my child support again!!! Yeahhhh!! It is 6 weeks behind right now so he has to pay an extra 25.00 a week for 25 weeks.... I am sorry dont want to sound like a bitch or anything but damn, this has been a hard 6 weeks trying to make ends meet. Get Lexi set for school not to mention all my bills. Just had to share my glory!! ↓
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| Name: Coartney | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 7:09 PM |
| Name: Kristy84 | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 7:14 PM |
| woohoo...time for the bastard to pay...how much do you get per month if you dont mind me asking? ↑ |
| Name: mommyagain | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 7:35 PM |
| for both girls I get 480.00 a month for my normal CS and now I get an extra hundred a month till he is caught back up. It isnt squat really but it helps thats for sure. ↑ |
| Name: connie | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 7:35 PM |
| Yeah!!!!! Single mother deserve allot more. ↑ |
| Name: jillw | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 7:44 PM |
| My sons father has never paid a lick of child support. I jsut gave up he has other kids that he ows on too he just gets jobs that pay under table so the money can't be taken out. He has never been around and I have only seen him once since my son was born. I saw him out when my son was 4 yrs old. He had to nerve to say when can I see my son. LOL what a joke. My husband on the other hand pays 200.00 per week for his son. It suck becuse she went down and had it raised even though we pay for everything for him. She didn't ahve a job, but her husband makes good money. as soon as it was raised she got a job as a corrections officer and makes 13.00 per hour. We are going to take her back to have it adjusted after she has been there a year and the baby is born and he has adopten my son. I am sure that she won't be too happy. She used to get 100.00 per week. I think that that is plent for one child when she doesn't have to pay for anything extra. We even pay for his school lunches. ↑ |
| Name: Kristy84 | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 7:45 PM |
| My goodness that's hardly anything...why does he pay so little? My friend gets $1000/mth. and it's not like her ex is well-off my any means. ↑ |
| Name: mommyagain | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 7:55 PM |
| That is actually more than I was getting... I was only getting 400.00 per month. Legal I am entitled to 20% of his NET income... that is where I get screwed so after taxes and insurance and union dues all set in then that is what I get. Which is fine I guess I was really happy when we finally raised it back in June but then 1 month later he quit his job so it was like big deal I dont get it anyway!!!! Since I have learned to make ends meet without it over the last 6 weeks I am going to put 100.00 per week into a x-mas fund so that I can get the girls xmas this year. My finace now... Jay... makes extrememly good money but whats mine is mine and whats his is his, it has always been that way. The nice thing is He pays all bills at the house and I give him 100.00 a week kinda like rent! Other wise I would be trying to make quite a house payment plus utilities on 200.00 a week!! ↑ |
| Name: tylersmom06 | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 7:56 PM |
| Name: jillw | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 8:33 PM |
| kristy you are from texas right maybe the income levels are different there. I am from ohio and I do not know anyone who pays that much or get paid that much each month for just one child. My sister gets 120.00 per week for her 2 children and her exhusband makes well over 20.00 per hour. most of the people that I know pay/recieve between 50 and 100 per week. 1000 per month is alot here even for 2 kids and he only has one. Don't get me wrong I am all for child support, but it seems to me like that people who are involved parents and pay for the extras and follow the rules sometimes get shafted especially if they have a shady money hungry ex like my husband does he had to pay more because she didn't work and her husbands income didn't count as household income WTF, but men like my sons sperm doner get off scott free because they are loosers. I am not 100% sure how they go about figuring out how much needs to be paid, but I know that it goes based on what it takes to raise a child and what percentage you are responsible for and what percentage the other parent is responsible for based on income. For us 800.00 + per month is alot in fact is is more then the childs mothers house payment. I wouldn't be so upset about it if she did what she was supposed to do with it, but we still ahve to buy all of his clothes, haircuts, shoes, supplies meds, dr visits, eye glasses, lunch money for school, firld trips. the list goes on and on. I don't spend 800 + a month on my own child so that should be plent for her to take care of him, but she would rather buy a prada hand bag. Ok sorry I am done venting now. I know I took this a little far and OT ↑ |
| Name: mommyagain | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 8:48 PM |
| I understand what you are saying Jill. I felt the same way about my exstepdaughters mom. What makes me mad is I have never held it against him if he couldnt pay and yet he wouldnt even help me get Lexi's Gym shoes. He does nothing extra for the girls at all so every little bit helps me and my girls. I will also say though that to me if she wantsto buy prada go for it...AS LONG AS the kids are being supported as weel. It doesnt matter to me if she makes 100,000 a year she should still get whatever the state has entitled her to. As sucky as that is I know.. I have been the stepparent before It is the right thing. It is still the noncustodial parents job to help support the children as well. ↑ |
| Name: Kristy84 | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 8:49 PM |
Jill,
This was determined in Florida and she has 2 kids and I think he makes like $16/hr. I lived in Fl. by the way for a year. No I totally agree w/ you that some women get way too much money. My dad only had to pay like $400/mth. for me when I moved to Tx and he lived in Toledo. He stopped paying obviously when I turned 18 in 2002, so I'm sure inflation adjusted he'd be paying around $500/mth. We have some family friends from Michigan and he was paying an outrageous amount to his wife, even though she made good money... ↑ |
| Name: mommyagain | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 9:02 PM |
| I just reread your post closer Jill... Yes that is crap... I would say ohhh Deadbeats go to jail but well I have had the worst time trying to get my child support enforced so I know it isnt as easy as it sounds... but you should try to pursue it eaither way. He can try to do the cash thing all he wants but if it goes to court they will put him in jail for not getting a real job... For me it wa hard because I had to leave everything up to public aid, I couldnt just file myself because the girls have the medical card. As far as the ex I would simply refuse to buy anything else for his son... I know that sounds harsh but maybe that will wake her up and make her start making some of the purchases. ↑ |
| Name: jillw | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 9:02 PM |
| mommyagain. I totally agree with you it is his job to support his son and she can have what ever she wants, but she does not take care of the childs needs at all. She has not bought so much as a sock for him since my husband and I have been together. His son is 8 will be 9 in dec. and we have been together since jsut before he turned 4. I do believe that every woman should get what is allotted to her, but she manulipated the system. Her husband makes very very good money so she didn't work for a year and a half then took my husband back to court for more money. After she was awarded the increase she got a job. To me that is jsut shady. It is both parents job to take care of the child that hey created. We do everything. Also she can use the execuse that she puts a roof over his head and buys food because we ahve him at least 3 nights and days a week and for most of the breaks and the summer. that is not the cisitation sch, but we like having him and she likes getting rid of him. I feel bad for the women who get shafted like my self or others who get very little and the other parent does nothing extra to help, but I also feel bad for parents that are in a situation like my husband he pays out the nose and since there is no way that we would allow one of our children to go with out we being the bigger people make sure that he has everything that he needs even at her house. I mean we buy his snack for him to take to school each day becaue she will not. ↑ |
| Name: jillw | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 9:06 PM |
| mommy we posted at the same time LOL I hate it, but we tried that this school year and she was going to send him in pants that were too short. I jsut wouldn't feel right about doing that because she will not step up. she has three other kids and she lets them look a mess all the time. we always get them bithday and christmas presents we get them clothes and shoes because they have holes in theirs. It is just a sad situation. ↑ |
| Name: mommyagain | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 9:31 PM |
| I hear ya Jill... I remember that situation all too well. Me and my ex went through the same thing. he paid child support but yet we had her all the time and still paid for everything. It isnt only dads that can be deadbeats by all means. All I know is for today I am happy as hell because I have been struggling so hard for the last few months. I have even had to ask Jay for help... Jays mom was the one to buy Lexi's gym shoes and all the while I am working 6 days a week to make end barely meet while he sits back and collects his money. Me and Jay are very modern because after I left Steve(my exhusband) I told myself that no matter what i would never depend on another man financially so to ask him to help out just kills me. ↑ |
| Name: nicole jones1 | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 9:37 PM |
| My ex and I are in a HUGE battle about support and things right now. He is giving up his parental rights as soon as our baby is born - and my soon-to-be second husband is adopting... problem is that until then I think he take some responsibility. During our marriage he's the one that did all the screwing around and now I don't think he should get off scott free just because I "can" pay for it myself. At least he should pay for half the adoption. He thinks that I should pay off all of the bills and take care of the pregnancy bills and my own current stuff by myself because "I'm the one that left." ↑ |
| Name: Lin-Ko | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 9:41 PM |
| single moms deserve money yes, but not when they just go and buy beer with it like my husbands ex :0/ ↑ |
| Name: mommyagain | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 9:42 PM |
| Nicole that is a hard one. In the laws eyes you have made the decision to keep the baby and while it is in your body it is yours not his... even though yep he didnt have any problem making the baby. I highly doubt that he will be ordered to pay for any of the adoption fees since it is your new husband adopting but i dont know for sure, have you talked to your lawyer about it? ↑ |
| Name: mommyagain | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 9:44 PM |
| True Linko but I also believe that If I go and cash my child support check and buy a pack of ciggerettes there is nothing wrong with it as long as my kids are not going hungry... meaning i dont have a seperate bank account for me and one for my girls. ↑ |
| Name: nicole jones1 | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 10:34 PM |
When I filed for divorce I left everything out - the bills, the fees, the baby, everything. I really didn't want to go to court while I'm pregnant and ruin this time for me and Paul. That's why I doubt I'll get anything because it would be all on his own. I'm a paralegal, and I asked a few attorneys and they told me that I could get at least $500 a month in spousal maintnance - but the money just isn't worth the fight. I'm just hoping that he will grow up (fat chance, I know) and start paying the bills he racked up or at least help me out with the adoption attorney fees or pregnancy bills.
It may sound vindictive - but I told him that since he refused to take any type of responsibility at all I wasn't even going to tell him the baby's gender or name or even when I have it. His latest comment was that he wanted to know - but he wanted his money more. So I guess he's okay with finding out when he the adoption papers show up at his door. ↑ |
| Name: mommyagain | Date: Oct 12th, 2006 2:06 PM |
| Nicole... I know this sounds REALLY bad but... technically paternity isnt established yet... right. Cant Paul just sign the Paternity papers in the hospital... And Dave doesnt have to have anything to do with it right? I mean think about how many women out there have affairs dont tell the dad it isnt theirs and the biodad had no idea there ever was a baby. Yes Dave could fight for a paternity test but it doesnt sound like he wants to acknowledge the baby anyways. ↑ |
| Name: nicole jones1 | Date: Oct 12th, 2006 3:20 PM |
| I am starting to come to that conclusion also, actually. Maybe it's just because of my particular career, but I was really dead set on being legally protected from every angle. The only way to do that was adoption. You are probably right because it wouldn't serve him any purpose to go and tell the courts on himself - that would be like signing up for child support. I talked to my ex briefly about that last night and I think that may be what we do since the adoption is so expensive. There is a law - at least in Washington - that the name on a birth certificate cannot be challenged after 2 years. It's there so that women can't go sticking guys with child support for a child they didn't even know about that is already 3 or 4 years old - and so that guys already paying child support wont start testing all their kids and then just dumping them after being their dad for 2 years. So really it would only be a two year period that he could attempt to get visits or challenge the paternity. ↑ |
| Name: jillw | Date: Oct 13th, 2006 1:44 PM |
| nicole- If it is fine with your ex and your nuw hubby then I don't see a problem with it. I am going through an adoption tight now and it is very costly and invasive. My husband is adopting my 9yr old son. It is a bit more complicated since I have no clue where his bio sperm doner is so I can't have him just sign off rights. As I am sure you know they have to do home inspections and finger print my husband. I am not worried about any of this it is just that we have to pay for it all including extra for the lawyer to try and track down the dead beat. After it is all said and done it could be between 6 to 10 thousand dollars. That is just outragious, but we have not other option. I wish I could have had my husband sign the BC and avoided the entire mess too bad I didn't know him back then. ↑ |
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