This is long but PLEASE READ IT...I'm 18, scared and I have nowhere else to turn. I think my friend has an eating disorder…maybe. We just finished our first year Uni and she started cutting out carbs in March so she wouldn't get fat...that turned into cutting out fat and sugar...and that turned into eating almost nothing. We only ever saw her eat cucumbers and non-sugary drinks for the last month of school. She lied..we know she lied even though she is one of the nicest, most honest people. She always told us things were fine, we should leave her alone, that she ate when she was hungry. We tried to force her to eat one day but that offended her so we stopped.
We got super worried and told a counsellor and they talked to her which at least got her to talk to us and listen..she started eating more and we were so happy to have gotten through. But here's the thing...we are all home now for the summer and I'm not sure what to do. At first she said she was doing well and I was pleased - i know she is being honest now that its all out in the open - but she told me recently she has been trying to purge again occasionally (she used to try and can’t do it). She said some days are normal, some days she eats too much and gets mad and some days she starves herself as punishment. She got a healthy diet from her Dr. and . But I'm worried she still has a problem..she says she wants it to be over and dropped but are those tendencies she had bad? I am afraid she will continue next year..already she has put herself on a diet plan which seems a bit more extreme than a reccomended one – restricted carbs and sugar - I feel like it's starting over but she swears she can control it and just hates being fat but promises to stay healthy.
I'm sorry for this rant but I'm really scared and I don't have anywhere else to turn. Friends don't help, parents I know will tell but it's not serious enough to go to professionals. My big question is "does she have an eating disorder?" I guess this sounds stupid but I don't know...I know there was and is a problem but I don't know whether it is that or not. She isn't skinny...she was always average weight for her height...maybe a little bit more bcuz freshman 15...she went back to average after this and though she lost weight, she is not underweight because of where she started. I'm done rambling, I guess that is it...I just...
PLEASE...PLEASE answer this if you are reading it. My friend rules university – academically awesome, involvement, student gvt, awards, volunteering, and more positions for next year- and I don't want her to lose all that. I don't know what I want to be told but...I needed to get this out and I would love for someone to "listen" and respond.
PLEASE TALK TO ME
-A lonely, worried and distressed friend:( ↓
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