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I NEED INPUT FROM OTHER GRANDPARENTS RAISNING GRAND KIDS...MY 12 YEAR OLD,IS ADHD AND IS SUFFERING FROM DEPRESSION,IT IS REAL HARD SOMETIMES JUST TO MAKE IT THRU THE DAY WITH SOME OF THE STUFF HE DOES.IF ANYONE HAS ANY ADVISE PLEASE LET ME KNOW ↓
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| Name: jonathanrose | Date: Oct 8th, 2006 8:13 PM |
| Have you tried any of the retraining programs such as a brain make over? These kind of programs are good as they can leave your grandchild symtom free without medication and make your life alot easier! ↑ |
| Name: dick mcquaid | Date: Sep 26th, 2007 9:00 PM |
I too have one of my granchildren, supposedly with ad syndrom
but when you watch at school plays and xmas productions
he puts everyone to shame ,he knows his lines no crib notes or anything its amazing ↑ |
| Name: dick mcquaid | Date: Sep 26th, 2007 9:02 PM |
| get him involved in small plays, where he is the leader, and can do it his way (lots of encouragement ↑ |
| Name: Geneva | Date: Oct 2nd, 2007 2:07 PM |
I AM A GRANDPARENT RAISNING 3 OF MY GRAND KIDS. I HAVE A 9 YEAR OLD THEY SAY HE HAS ADHD BUT HIM AND I SET DOWN AND TALK AND I DO ALOT OF PRAYING FOR HIM.
WE JUST GOT THEM LAST NOV. HIS MOM COULD NOT HANDLE HIM OR HIS SISTERS AT ALL WHEN THEY CAME TO LIVE WITH MY HUSBAND AND I . I SAT DOWN WITH MY GRANDSON AND TOLD HIM THAT I HAVE BAD DAYS ALSO AND HIM AND I HAVE A AGREEMENT THAT IF HE FEELS LIKE HE IS GOING TO DO SOME THING DUM THAN HIM AND I NEED TO SET DOWN AND TALK ABOUT IT BEFORE HE DOSE IT AND IF I AM HAVING A BAD DAY I WOULD GO TO HIM AND HE CAN HELP ME TALK THROW IT AND SO FAR IT IS WORKING .
WE DO HAVE SOME TROUBLE WHEN HE HAS TO GO VISIT HIS MOM BUT IN THE YEAR THAT WE HAVE HAD HIM JUST KNKOWING I WILL TALK TO HIM ABOUT WHAT IS UPSETTING HIM SEEMS TO BE HELPING.
I DON'T KNOW IF YOU HAVE TRIED THAT BUT JUST LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU HAVE PROBLEMS TOO AND IT HELPS TO SET DOWN AND TALK EACH OTHER DOWN FROM A BIG BLOW UP. ALSO WE DO DO ALOT OF PRAYING AND THAT DOSE HELP AWHOLE LOT ALSO HE ENJOYS SETTING DOWN AND JUST READING OUT OF THE BIBLE EVEN IF IT IS JUST ALITTLE IT SEEMS TO COM HIM DOWN. ↑ |
| Name: lynne | Date: Oct 10th, 2007 4:00 PM |
| no magic solution but found the nspcc very helpful when my grandaughter had problems hang on in there know its haed ↑ |
| Name: bharwood | Date: Nov 30th, 2007 9:20 PM |
| hello I am new here. I am raising my four grand children. they r 234&8 ↑ |
| Name: Danny Hayes | Date: Jan 11th, 2008 11:34 AM |
| Name: sue | Date: Jan 12th, 2008 2:54 AM |
| My daughter is not talking to us. We are unable to see our grandson. what are our rights? ↑ |
| Name: getting old | Date: Jan 14th, 2008 1:04 AM |
anyone there that have their daughter, boyfriend and
grandbaby living with them? ↑ |
| Name: Floral | Date: Feb 23rd, 2008 7:32 PM |
| I have my son, his girlfriend and their 6 month old son living with me. My son is addicted to drugs and the babies mother is not doing well as a mom. The baby is being neglected while I am at work and asleep. I afraid to go to DSS because my son was in DSS custody as a child and I'm afraid custody of the baby will be given to foster parents. The baby's mom's family home is not a place where a baby could thrive. Suggestions? ↑ |
| Name: Deanna | Date: Mar 16th, 2008 10:00 PM |
| Have you had the child cliical diagosed? If so are you are uncomfortabe with the meducation have you tried natural choices? ↑ |
| Name: Joyce | Date: Mar 21st, 2008 11:41 PM |
| No, I have no advise, but I do have ears AND a grandson we are raising. So, if you just need someone to lend an ear please let me know - I've never been in this site before so I'm hoping that when I chick 'submit', it will give me the opportunity to leave me email address for you! My prayers are with you! ↑ |
| Name: JJ | Date: Apr 11th, 2008 9:41 PM |
| I am a grandmother raising an infant, I also am looking for answers. It is also depressing to ask for help and have all these idiot answers posted,, those are the people who don't take it serious and the same ones that gave us these unwanted children to care for. Don't take it personal, that is WHY you are raising those little ones. ↑ |
| Name: patricia washington | Date: Apr 26th, 2008 1:06 PM |
| i'm patricia i''m mother of four teens in a grandmother of four one come from the foster home my life been turn up sidedown i'm living in a three bedroom apartment with nine people they social service want me to find a house with more rooms' so i did a places with five bedrooms but now the rent is to much i don't need them to pay the rent just the security. ↑ |
| Name: sue | Date: May 18th, 2008 11:20 AM |
| i have had my grandson going on 8 years he was diagnosed with adhd in 2nd grade. getting thru the day is hard enough but then we are worrying about tomorrow already. advise? love them cry alot love them some more. medicine can help hope you have an accomidating school system. the violent outbursts are the worst im just 55 and sometimes feel 100 i also have a 14 year old granddaughter. so along with her brothers adhd i have a highschooler to worry about. i know this doesnt help u much but i guess it could be worse. i could have more kids to take care of and you could too. i think the best advise i can give is take care of yourself 1st if we get down who will care foe them ↑ |
| Name: mary | Date: May 29th, 2008 12:43 AM |
| Mimi: I also have a grandson that has ADHD. It is rough!!! I have been able to get in touch with a doctor that has prescribed him with 20 mg. of Dexatrime and 10 mg. of straterra. This has been a good mixutre for him. Of course there are days that it seems as if he has not had anything. The nights are worse than the days because he also suffers from night terrors. These are nightmares that become audible and he screams waking everybody in the house. There are days that my patients runs out but I do not blame him for the sleepless nights or the days of stress instead I hold him and tell him that I love him and pray that God give me strength to continue the day. My husband and I have found it helpful to get away even if it is just for an hour. We found a good sitter and she understands the ADHD and we keep in touch while we are out. The one thing that I have also tried to do is to distinguish what is the behavior manifested by the ADHD and what is the behavior manifested by just plain being a kid. This enables us to control what is controlable and work on what we can not control. For instance, jumping on the furniture is not ok and that is behavior displayed by any kid and that needs to be controlled. However, the night terrors are from the ADHD and I wake him up only to tell him to go back to sleep. Waking him up allows him to readjust his environment and realize that it was just a dream. I soothe his back and reasure him that everything is alright. It does take a lot of work but in the end we both appreciate the mutual efforts that we both put into the relationship. I hope this helps and good luck. ↑ |
| Name: j | Date: May 31st, 2008 1:23 AM |
| Name: fin | Date: Jul 25th, 2008 9:17 AM |
| I have a grandchild with heart problems and his mother has mutiple disabilaties. It is like taking care of two children. It gets so hard somtimes, Ipray to give the strengh to handle this. ↑ |
| Name: michael | Date: Aug 8th, 2008 11:06 PM |
| where does one find help, raising my grandsons when your state saids you make to much. for the last year ,I have been tring to keep my son & daughter-in law out of jail. or getting them help for their drugs. ↑ |
| Name: Melodie | Date: Sep 22nd, 2008 6:24 PM |
| If it were me I would have a perfessional that knows how to deal with ADHD. They would also be able to direct you to others grandparents dealing with ADHD children so you don't lose your sanity ↑ |
| Name: Andrea | Date: Sep 24th, 2008 1:58 AM |
hi im a student and im doing a report on the inclusion program i would like anybodys opinion it would help me greatly
-thanks ↑ |
| Name: ella | Date: Oct 15th, 2008 11:38 AM |
| Name: Becky | Date: Oct 20th, 2008 9:01 PM |
I have a dear friend who is 60 years old and raising her 2 year old granddaughter. She is at the end of her rope! Her son (the baby's father) is on drugs, My friends is dealing with helping him, taking care of the baby, has no friend who are dealing with the same thing. She needs a support group who deals with the same thing she is going through, I try to be there for her, but as hard as I try....I'm not walking in her shoes. Any help?
Becky ↑ |
| Name: Ms.B | Date: Nov 18th, 2008 1:50 PM |
| I am new to the chat room ↑ |
| Name: Ms, B | Date: Nov 18th, 2008 1:55 PM |
| you need to get your grandchild to sit and talk to you and get everything on the table, and let them know that they can trust you and give them your word that it will not go any farther then you , and let you decide if you need to contact a family doctor for advice ↑ |
| Name: mary | Date: Dec 20th, 2008 1:45 AM |
HELLO
IM NEW HERE AND WOULD LIKE TO GET SOME ADVICE FROM OTHER PEOPLE ON RAISING GRANDCHILDREN. MY SON GOT AWARDED CUSTODY OF HIS SON LAST YEAR, WE HAD TO MAKE TRIPS TO CALIFORNIA TO COURTS TO GET HIM. HIS GIRLFRIEND WAS ON DRUGS HAD HIS CHILD NOT EVEN 2 DAYS OLD THE STATE TOOK HIM FROM HER, ME AND MY SON GOT HIM AT THE AGE OF 5 MONTHS. WELL SINCE THEN I HAVE RAISED HIM HE IS NOW 15 MONTHS OLD. MY SON HAS NEVER BEEN THERE FOR HIM. I HAVE TAKEN CARE OF HIM. MY SON CANNOT TAKE CARE OF HIMSELF MUCH LESS A CHILD I WANT TO GET GUARDIANSHIP OF HIM DOES ANYONE NO WHAT AND HOW I GO ABOUT DOING THIS. ↑ |
| Name: Neva | Date: Dec 27th, 2008 11:16 PM |
| Mary who wants custody of grandchild. The natural parents have priority rights to their children. However, if you can prove that it is in the best interest of the child that custody be given to you, then you have a case. Otherwise, you will only be able to get visitation. I am no lawyer, just that is my understanding of the law. I would seek legal advice from a professional to help you and get the best advice. I wish you all the luck in the world. ↑ |
| Name: Neva | Date: Dec 27th, 2008 11:26 PM |
My husband and I raised our grandson until recently when he turned 12, and his mother got married and finally moved out at age 29, this past winter. We were supporting both of them. Now the man she married seems to be controlling and we no longer get to see either of them. So I am looking at my rights to visitation with my grandson. We had legal guardianship of him, but signed it over to her, thinking that was the right thing to do at the time, after all he is her son. I regret ever doing that now. I can't afford an attorney so I am going to use paralegal services to produce all the right papers that I need and file them with the courts. I am here for support and encouragement. And hope to make some new friends too along the way. :-)
To be honest, my heart is shattered by all this. My daughter and I had been best of friends until her "man" came into the picture and destroyed family ties. ↑ |
| Name: chrissie1969 | Date: Jan 12th, 2009 9:28 AM |
| Hi everyone, i have my 3 yr old grandson, he has been living with me for the past 3-4 months, his mum doesnt seem to want him around and when he does go to see her he asks to come back to me, there have been several situations that have not been good for this little boy he has seen his dad hit his mum more than once, he has witnessed the screaming matches between them, now dad has gone without a trace, mum has no patience with him and does seem to want to look after him in any way, whenever he goes there for a night he cames home filthy and hungry, there have been situations when i have found him eating from the bin, he has made phone calls to myself and a friend of the family on several occasions when mum has either been in bed or asleep and shes not watching him, evenon more than one occasion where he has opened a tin of paint and spread it around the house while he has been left unattended , i am so worried for my grandsons welfare i have asked her to sign him over and she is more worried about what people will think of her than his welfare. please has anyone got any advise they could give me ↑ |
| Name: rose | Date: Jan 18th, 2009 7:12 AM |
| i was a grandparent raining a 12 year old adhd. Start with your school guidance counselor . There is an evaluation team ,, or has it been done already. Talk to your grandson. You may need to be involved in an activity. You probably know what his sadness is. Maybe you can talk about the sadness and the hope you have that it will change or get better in time. Try to take a deep breath and think of any activities that he will enjoy. Be loving and patient. ↑ |
| Name: rose | Date: Jan 18th, 2009 7:27 AM |
michael
You want to help keep the parents out of jail, but you need to maybe let go of thatand focus on caring for the children. That is within your control. As hard as it is for you to accept, You may need to realize that the adults have to care for themselves. ↑ |
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