| Name: tina | Date: Mar 1st, 2006 4:02 PM |
| my daughter did the same thing we did nothing but try and deal with the problems that were greater now she is 16 seventeen in may she cuts when she needs the attention of it but I dont give it the power she wants it to have. What I do do is to deal with the actual problems that is giving her the feeling that she needs that attention. the boyfriend she had now is a good one and if or when she does it she gets disaproval from him which helps. It has gotten to be less and less. My daughter started doing the cutting thing when the movie thirteen came out which I believe is the worse thing that a young emotional child could ever watch!!!!!!!! I believe cutting got worse after that in the girls peer group. Right now I am dealing with the bad friend deal. I feel overwhelmed too why is it so hard. As a trouble teen myself I believe that we all get thru it as long as they know that we love them forever. It is the times unfortunatly and we are having a hard time as parents to deal. But someday no matter what they say they will return the loving daughters we once had as long as we stick thru it for them be strong even when you feel like falling apart. ↑ |
| Name: Kristi | Date: Mar 1st, 2006 5:19 PM |
I had a friend who did that once. She hated me, and she was trying to push me out of the group of friends i am in. it was horrible. she was a manipulative cow. i hated her so much. before you start to worry about your daughter, worry about what she is doing to her friends. there were 6 of us, and now we cant even look each other in the eye. the other five failed their GCSES, i got staight A*s, but our teachers were so stressed with them, as we go to a school that it is really high up in the Scotish league table.
she ripped our lives apart, literally. please, just think about it. ↑ |
| Name: chelsea | Date: Mar 2nd, 2006 3:10 AM |
| your daughter is obviously having a hard time. she is doing it for attention. not the kind of attention you would think of but something deeper. whatever it is that is bothering her she is trying to find a different way of showing it. dont get upset with her. dont yell or bitch. respect her and her feelings. ↑ |
| Name: joseph j.Richardson | Date: Mar 7th, 2006 3:51 AM |
| Hi my names joe and im from a town in Colorado. 13 is a vary unpredictable age. To tell you the truth it would even make your doughter unhappier knowing that her mother thinks she need counsling and therepy. Us teenagers these years are vary fed up with life or are looking for love in crazy ways your doughter will be fine i SWARE it. I Know its a crazy thing to witness and see your doughter like that but simply ask her about any recent things that have made her feel notice this 73 % of teenage girls have felt like giveing up in there lifes. Good Luck i will prey for you and your doughter. ↑ |
| Name: Michelle | Date: Mar 8th, 2006 8:10 PM |
| Heyy.. im 13, i started cutting myself, bout 1 moth ago.. i dont do it to get attention or somethin, so dont think yur daughter's doing that.. i would want to give yu 1 advies, dont talk to her.. it would be much harder for her, my mom doesnt know im cutting, nd if she talks to me bout stuff like this, it makes everything worser.. she is in her teenage years, so yu just gotta let her live them.. she will get over it sometime.. it hasta stop, thats what i tell myself, jus like you said, nothing major..when i do it , it isnt deep , i just do it to get over the pain i feel inside.. i know how yur doughter feels, i maybe dont know her, but i do just the same thing.. commant baq ↑ |
| Name: kayla | Date: Mar 12th, 2006 3:40 AM |
| Hey im 13 and since i was 10 i thought about my weight now today im dieng to be thin and im not eating I havent been eating much for 3 days and i lost 5 pounds Im still not happy I look in the mirrior and see a fat discusting frekled face girl. I wish i could just accept who I am what should i do ??? ↑ |
| Name: shemarri | Date: Mar 15th, 2006 4:36 PM |
| u should just lay back on her for a little bit and eventually she will stop just let her do what she wants and then she will think her ligfe is perfect and realize that cutting isnt worth it!!! ↑ |
| Name: dk~~skyla~~ | Date: Mar 15th, 2006 4:47 PM |
| hey wad up yea i used to cut myself and if it fricken hurts so i stopped so i think that u should tell ur daughter to stop and just let her do what she wants cuz that65 will help more then nething i kno stuff like this a lot of my friends used to do it at school and then ppl started to fing out and we got embarssed cuz we couldnt hide it nemore so its just really not worth it ↑ |
| Name: charlene | Date: Mar 18th, 2006 1:18 PM |
| my daughter is 16 and she has been cutting herself also on her arms and inside her legs by her calfs and feet when she gets upset she says it makes her feel better but that is not normal took her to a doctor and right now she is staying with her farther i feel that she is doing this for attention and when she does not get her way, she is also into the gothic stage that all the kids go thru some maybe more than others go and i will not allow her to go, she takes it to far there have been other kids that she had started hanging out with when i noticed a change in her attitude i put a stop to it, she started to smoke ciggs, and then i notice she would come home and go to bed cause she was tired from what i asked and then started putting things together and learned that she was smoking pot, she argues with me about everything even her chores, so she finally admitted that she has a problem and had her step mom, and farther make her an appointment to talk to someone, a part of me feels that she will try to get around this we took her to a psychology center here in florida, and i do hope that this helps and i took everything out of her room that she could cut herself with took all posters down of the walls she had a locked draw in her desk that her farther gave her i broke the lock, i felt that she had no right to lock things up in my house, i had her farther take her for a month to see if that it would help and now all i can do is wait and see what happens, her farther does not know what it is like to have her all the time, he would just have her on the weekends and give her everything she wanted, now he will see what i have been talking about. i hope this will help you, i just know that the little girl that i have raised, she use to be so happy and would make me laugh all the time, no matter what was going on, she would always keep me happy and then now, i am lost without her and it has only been a few days, i feel as though he has taken her from me just like he and his wife had planned. and all i can do is wait to see what happens. my deepest fear is losing my daughter, and i feel so lost, because she won't even talk to me,i am sick to my stomache everyday but i have to be strong for myself, and for her , they call it tough love, so be careful and try to keep your cool for they are our children and they came with no book, for the good lord is with us and hears us cry he is there and in good time he will help us . ↑ |
| Name: allison | Date: Mar 19th, 2006 9:41 PM |
i am also 13 and my parents found out that i was cutting my-self. i went to theropy and that is kind of helping me. The reason i did it was because of my mother but don't get scared....she wasn't letting me see my boyfriend and we always had huge arguments about it and this has been going on for the last year. You need to sit down and talk to your daughter and see what exactly is going on in her life. If you don't help her now this will get worse, she might start cutting deeper and taking pills just to show off and GET ATTENTION at school. That is also why i cut my self. i wanted everyone to worrie about me and try to help me, thats another reason why i did it. THIS IS NOT JUST A PHASE TRUST ME!!!!! develope a relationship with your daughter, meet her close friends and try to ecept them!
befor this gets worse please help your daughter! Also mabey she thinks she is getting more attention by going to outpatient therapy which isn't good. Im not telling you to ignor her problem but in a way try to punish her for it....it worked for me and befor that i was trying to overdose on pills and cutting my self very deep.
help your daughter sandy i no you can =)
sincerly
allison
age-13 ↑ |
| Name: sonia | Date: Mar 20th, 2006 1:41 AM |
| cutting does help relieve emotional pain. when we cut or get hurt endorphins are released in the brain to surpress pain this might be why so many teens say it makes them feel better. They really do need emotional support. They need a better means of pain relief. ↑ |
| Name: KODIAKS 17 | Date: Mar 21st, 2006 10:00 PM |
HI
IM 13 I BEEN CUTING MY ARMS FOR 4 DAYS I HAVE BEEN FEELING
SADDNESS INSIDE MY BODY I CHANGE OVER 3MONTHS
ALL I DID WAS CRY IN MY CLOSET AND WRITING POEMS NOT LISTENING SCHOOL THIS IS NOT A JOKE .
2 ALL OF U WHO CUT THERE ARMS I NO HOW U FEEL INSIDE ↑ |
| Name: amanda | Date: Mar 22nd, 2006 6:56 PM |
| hey i did that at one point send her to a hospital and make her stay there dont allow her to come home it will open her eyes tremendously ↑ |
| Name: Violet | Date: Mar 23rd, 2006 4:53 AM |
| Showing off cuts may be an attention seeking behaviour. Figuring out why she cuts is the most important thing. I cut, burned and participated in other self injurious behaviours for mroe than seven years and My mother never found out. Neither did anyone else. Until I told someone. The only reason I did that was because I want to be a teacher more than an example of how not to coap. the only thing that worked for me was finding a councelor to relate to. He wasnt perfect, had drug issues and had a rough life. but respected me as a person and not as a statistic. She wont stop until she wants to. Your job as a mother is to reinforce that you will love her no matter what she does and try to show her that there are other people worse off and that she is strong enough to work through her problems. I didnt have a mother who could help me because she has to deal with her own stuff. But people with their arms decorated in scars are stereotyped for the rest of her life. Its hard to see into the future when you are thirteen, but it might be the only way to help your daughter. Good luck Sandy. Im pulling for you. And in case you were wondering, I have gone one hundred and seven days without hurting myself and since I decided to quit my addiction, I have only slipped five times. The sooner your daughter gives it up, the easier it will be to stop. ↑ |
| Name: chelsea | Date: Mar 23rd, 2006 8:27 PM |
| Hey i am 13 to and i used to cut but know im left with the horrible scars so please dont. ↑ |
| Name: mykel | Date: Mar 24th, 2006 11:34 PM |
| why would you do that , god will always love you ↑ |
| Name: carrie | Date: Mar 24th, 2006 11:35 PM |
hi my name is carrie and i'm thirteen and i cut myself i still do it
and i take pills even thow i am growing up people r going to see me as a cutter people at school know i cut myself some know i took pills if you ever need to talk to someone sandy [email protected] e-mail me.bye. ↑ |
| Name: fellow cutter | Date: Mar 25th, 2006 2:47 AM |
| i used to cut and im 14 now last year was hard for me since it was the year i told about the 9 years of molestation i expeirenced im not saying your daughters has benn sexually assaulted at all, i just mean that it was hard and when she cuts she cuts to relive the pain on the inside most people dont cut to die so dont think shes extreammly suicidal but dont overlook it and think its just a catscratch cuz it will get deeper if the pain doesnt go away, my cutting go so bad that i passed out once when shes SOUND asleepcheck her arm and make sure theres no pills around, im not trying to paranoy you but just let her know that your there and that you love her every day tuck her into bed at night just let her know ,to many hospitals and therapists are scarry, im in therapy now and i dont even tell him the whole truth because i dont trust him,but any ways "showing off" the cuts is kinda normal they do it to know that people feel sorry for them , you probably want to know how i stopped cutting but it wont help your daughter....,,,, i love my dad to death and i havent seen him for a year and the reason i cut was from not seeing him well i secretly saw him and promised him i would stop and i stoped..... Just let your daughter know she is loved.....~fellow cutter~ ↑ |
| Name: taylor | Date: Mar 26th, 2006 4:32 AM |
Try a pshch hospital were she can't come hme ever night.
Or you could try bootcamp that always works ↑ |
| Name: Been their done that! | Date: Mar 26th, 2006 6:01 PM |
| OK this happend to me.. i was fom a (prep) to (goth) in a matteer of 8 mo!! I just wanted to "fit in " with people that did ont judge me.. U NEED TO GET HER TO SWITCH SCHOOLS!!!!!! i had a new stare where no1 knew me and was able to start over agen.. let her know that u are switching schools weather she likes it or not.. that it is a FRESH start where no 1 knows her and she will be able to be her self... take her shopping get her out of the BLACK CLOTHS... talk to her.. DONT INTRUDE IN HER LIFE... or at least dont do it in a matter where she knows.. talk about how schools is yalk about one of her friends.. EX... So how is mlissa?? is she doing good in school?? .. just start a conversation about life in general.. right now this os her life and she dont see her self in the future..... just do it in a BEST FRIEND way.. not in a mom way she will click with u better this way!! ↑ |
| Name: joanna | Date: Mar 27th, 2006 10:12 PM |
| takl to her tell her why it she doing this ↑ |
| Name: Bre | Date: Mar 28th, 2006 12:37 AM |
| talk to her and ask her whats happening ↑ |
| Name: debbie | Date: Mar 31st, 2006 10:52 PM |
| she probly somthing inside of her like tears and she dont want to let them out and i kno how she feels cause i done that before in my life ↑ |
| Name: cassidy | Date: Apr 2nd, 2006 12:27 AM |
| talk to her and ask her why is she cutting herself ask her is there something going on, if its bad tell her that you love her and that you woudnt want anything to happen to her one day I was watching a movie called "Thirteen". go to the video store and rent it or buy it for her to watch IT WILL REALLY HELP!!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: Taylor | Date: Apr 2nd, 2006 1:48 AM |
| Let her do what she wants. It's her life and she will regret it. She's going to notice what she's doing isn't write and come back for help. Let her live her life the way she wants and let her have some control rather than you having it. Cutters need to feel a sense of control, and we have problems we dont' want to talk about with you so we take some blood. Let her live her life and have some control. It's her life, not yours! ↑ |
| Name: Melissa | Date: Apr 4th, 2006 1:30 AM |
My daughter is 15 and she just started cutting recently. She is in therapy and recently started taking medication. We are close and it hurts me to see her hurt herself. From what I've read, though, the cutting is a way for her to alleviate some of the hurt she feels inside. It's so hard for me to understand that, though. Her psychiatrist says I should take her to the emergency room for evaluation the next time she cuts. She doesn't cut deep enough to need stitches- yet, so I'm not sure the ER is the place for her to be. Anyone have experience or suggestions to share?
Thanks. ↑ |
| Name: shannon | Date: Apr 4th, 2006 8:33 PM |
| well i a goth and so i wear all blck clothes dark make up and i used to be all happy and very girly. i am 12 its a phase all teens want to go throught these days.... try to si down with her and talk... take her out shopping and see whats going on in her life... that usely worls.. ↑ |
| Name: Melissa | Date: Apr 5th, 2006 1:21 AM |
| Shannon...Thanks. Like you, my daughter is into wearing black clothes, black make up, dyed black and red hair. We do go shopping. We do a lot together already. That's why this is hard for me to understand. Why she cuts, I mean. We just found out that her father is remarrying. Do you think that could be part of this? ↑ |
| Name: I Know. | Date: Apr 5th, 2006 10:38 PM |
i relize your scared for your daughter.
im guessing my mom would be scared too.
im 14 and a victim of depression and cutting.
your daughter obviousley finds it something to be proud of.
her classmates probabaly find it as something that is cool.
she is not truely depressed i gaurantee it
dont send her to therapy
let her go through the phase
you cant make her stop she has to want it
she will relize its not a good idea
your a great motehr for caring about her
but all she needs is attention and love
from you not her therapist. ↑ |
| Name: dreamgurl | Date: Apr 7th, 2006 4:15 PM |
| have you ever felt like things is too much ↑ |
| Name: jo | Date: Apr 8th, 2006 10:02 PM |
Sit down talk 2 her but stay calm.Ask her why she did it and if there is anything u can do.If she tells u 2 leave her alone do it.
You may feal bad but at least u tried. ↑ |
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