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Name: lydia
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My daughter always gets hit on by older guys... it's out of my control I know she has one guy working at a store here who told her he was a producer... my daughters a very smart girl and she's been staying away from him, but there have been numerous 26-30 year olds hitting on her, she's 15, she's beautiful.. She's been hanging around with these 19 and 20 year olds from church which im ok with because they're both very nice boys but Im worried that something will happen to my daughter.. people always tell me that if my daughter was their daughter they'd never let her leave the house but I obviously can't do that and can't prevent men hitting on her but im worried about child molesters and rapists...
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Name: * | Date: Dec 23rd, 2005 2:49 AM
Go with her to take a self defense class :) 

Name: bianca | Date: Jan 4th, 2006 4:09 AM
i can imagine the fear that you have. but as long as your daughter has a very good head on her shoulders and can make good judgment she should be fine. just dont give her too much freedom. try putting her in activities especially in the summer so yo wont have to worry about those boy trying to hang around the house 

Name: MARIA | Date: Feb 1st, 2006 2:02 PM
YOU NEED TO QUITE TREATING YOUR DAUGHTER LIKE SHES YOUR FRIEND. FIRST OF ALL BEING SMART HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH LETTING HER HANG OUT WITH THESE OLDER GUYS. YOU ARE THE MOTHER AND SHE IS THE CHIKD. YOU NEED TO PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN AND SHE NEEDS TO BE SUPERVISED ALOT MORE THEN YOU THINK. WHO CARES IF THESE BOYS ARE NICE AND GO TO CHURCH. THEY ARE TO OKD FOR HER. SHE NEEDS TO BE AROUBD KIDS HER OWN AGE. RAPE NOR DATERAPE DOESNT HAVE AN AGE LMIT ON IT. PAY MORE ATTENTION TO YOUR DAUGHTER. 

Name: Nikki | Date: Feb 6th, 2006 11:16 AM
One piece of advice I would give is - don't make her feel ashamed for being physically attractive and mature at an early age. If you blame all the attention on her body, she may grow up with a lot of issues about her body. She may also begin to think that if she is taken advantage of, that it's her own fault. So when you do explain to her that she is mature for her age and that it makes her attractive to older men, please make sure she understands that it's okay for her body to be the way that it is, and not to be ashamed of herself. Make sure she knows that everyone is responsible for their own actions and if a man misbehaves around her, to tell you because it's not her fault.

Also - watch out with those church guys. U had a 25 year old 'nice' church boy stalk me, and no one - even the pastor - took it seriously. He started harrassing the deacon's 17 year old daughter, and no one believed me - until she came forward and asked for help to get him away from her. I don't want to scare you, I just want to make sure you know that some young men use church as a way just to get around young innocent girls, and to fool their parents. Please be aware for your daughter's sake. 

Name: mary | Date: Feb 23rd, 2006 6:20 PM
Kin

It is too big an age difference for a 15 yr old at their stage of development. Emotionally they are not equipped like a 19 or 20 yr old.

Lydia:
Is your daughter agreeable as to what is a healthy relationship for her at 15 vs these older guys hitiing on her? 

Name: amanda | Date: Mar 5th, 2006 5:52 PM
hiya im 15 to and guys hit on me aswell you say your daughter is smart if your daughter doesnt want the attention just keep a watchful eye you cant keep her locked up 


Name: Andrew 40 | Date: Mar 12th, 2006 12:56 PM
dont trust church boys any more than any one else!!!!
I remeber a couple of teen age girls who looked and walked a hole lot older than they were. I knew nothing else about them. reminde her boys always notice a pritty face no mater what age. She should look for boys who notice her positive personalty traits and her brains. Ps god's bussy! 

Name: Fezz | Date: Mar 15th, 2006 2:49 PM
if she is smart she would not do anything to hurt you or herself and sound like the type of girl how would not let older men take advantage of her 

Name: Taylor | Date: Mar 26th, 2006 4:25 AM
I think that if she plans on going out make sure she takes extra money just in case something happens and she needs to get home. I also think that she should go with at lease 2 friends who are responsble. 

Name: Bre | Date: Mar 28th, 2006 1:00 AM
u should keep an eye on her.follow her or hire someone too. 

Name: katie | Date: Mar 31st, 2006 4:01 PM
well thats life i now its hard for u to site back and let this happen and if u are really unhappy talk to her about it and i also agree with midhun may god protect your daughter from any harm 

Name: mercedez | Date: Apr 2nd, 2006 5:59 AM
there are alot of perverted people in the world and its only getting worse.so just make sure you know what people are around your daughter,make sure you are very aware of her surroundings. im not saying treat her like a prisoner but keep a close eye out of her.oh and another thing dont be so passive of the church going boys, they are just like any other boy in the world. 

Name: snowy | Date: May 12th, 2006 10:17 AM
don't worry if she's smart enough she shud b grand but tel her if she eva goes out 2 keep her drink wit her at al times especially if ders fellas flirtin wit her and she turns dem swn cause dey cud spike her. 

Name: bonzo | Date: May 12th, 2006 10:17 AM
she should know better not to hang around with older boys but if you think she is wise enough then i wouldnt worry about it. 

Name: irishchic! | Date: May 12th, 2006 10:20 AM
im 15 too and i kno she needs her freedom but i reali do think these 19 and 20 year olds might be a Bad influence on her! and they are probably going places too old for her! you should just sit down some night and have a chat with her and tell her how worried you are!? my mum worries loads about me too and its good just chatting! hope this helps.. irishchic 

Name: nikki | Date: May 12th, 2006 11:54 PM
don't trap her inside never ever then she'll sneak out you'll then have more problems. talk to her like u are her friend ad not her mother trust me she'll open up 2 u men will rape and kill her she needs to know that there is nothing a girl can do for a man but supply there needs and not hers 

Name: satans bitch | Date: May 17th, 2006 3:47 PM
your daughter sounds like shes got a good instinct so dont worry as long as shes with ppl when she goes out then she will be fine. The boys from your church sound like they'll look after her so keep calm and dont worry. 

Name: 619 | Date: May 21st, 2006 12:00 AM
hey listen you need to keep a closer eye on your child. she doesnt need to be hangin out wit dem 19 and 20 yr olds. they are 2 old for her and they just might hurt her. sure they go to church but that doesnt alwasy mean anything. they could just go to make them look like good people and they could be rapists or molesters so whatch out for your doughter ok protect her better 

Name: Lisa | Date: May 21st, 2006 8:38 PM
I think as long as you have raised your daughter to respect herself and her body as well as your wishes for her,things will be o.k. I know there are alot of creepy men out there too. Maybe it would help if you and your daughter took a self defense class,that way the both of you would know how to respond if a bad situation ever occured. 

Name: durrard | Date: May 23rd, 2006 11:28 PM
hey man listen i would do the same thing but first i would make sure she carry mace with her 

Name: karen | Date: Jul 16th, 2006 3:52 AM
times have changed i was not allowed to date till i was 18 my curfew was 11pm im 21 now and my curfwe is midnight if i come in past my curfew my mother gives me a spanking mom says untill i move out i will get spanked for disobeyance let me tell my moms spanking hurt 

Name: SeXyBeAsT1968 | Date: Jun 22nd, 2007 2:15 AM
YES, YOU THINK THE GUYS AT CHURCH ARE GOOD FOR
YOUR DAUGHTER TO HANG OUT ...LET ME TELL YOU
SOMETHING , WHEN , MY LATE GRANDMOTHER WAS GROWING UP , WHO GOT PREGNANT , OUT OF ALL , OF THE NEIGHBOR GIRLS ..IT WAS THE PREACHERS DAUGHTER ..ALSO , I KNEW THIS ONE GIRL , MET THIS GUY AT CHURCH AND WAS DATE RAPED ..SHE TRUSTED THE GUY..THATS OKAY I WILL STAY HOME AND WORSHIP MY LORD. .CAUSE THE BIGGEST GIMMICKS ARE RIGHT INSIDE OF THE CHURCH AND THEY ARE THE SILENT PEDOPHILES YOU DONT KNOW ABOUT MOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

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