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Name: lindzdc
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So i am 19 and my fiance is 21 and we want to have a baby. we have lived with each ohter for 3 years. Do you think i am to young???? i really want to be a MOM
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Name: ..RoSey.. | Date: Aug 8th, 2007 4:25 PM
im 20 and i have a baby..
aslong as you are stable.. have money .. and a safe place for u and ur baby to live.. then go for it............ 

Name: lindzdc | Date: Aug 12th, 2007 2:31 AM
THANKS FOR THE ADVISE BUT THE ONLY THING IS MY PERIODS ARE VERY MESSED UP I HAVE NOT HAD ONE IN LIKE 9 MONTHS. I HOPE I JUST NEED CLEANED OUT. IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN. I GO THE 24TH 

Name: livegreeneasy | Date: Aug 13th, 2007 1:21 AM
As long as you are financially stable more power to you. money is a safety net. I would make sure you have plenty in savings.www.livegreeneasy.com 

Name: real mom | Date: Aug 19th, 2007 2:36 AM
I am 2x your age with children. It is very hard work. It gets lonely and money can get tight. Chill out, you'll have them soon enough. 

Name: kelli1 | Date: Aug 20th, 2007 4:32 AM
i was in your shoes. i was 19 when i got pregant for the 1st time and unfourtantly we lost the baby. a year later i got pregnant with my son. it was easy. my boyfriend (who is now my husband) didn't take the pregnancy too well. he was constantly getting drunk during the nine months, it wasn't until our son was born that he decided that he wanted to be a father. we now have 4 kids and it is 12 yrs later. it wasn't and still isn't easy. for one thing, do you have a good job? i didn't. i am now going back to school to get a degree. we live in a house that my in-laws bought for us that is too small and falling apart. do the 2 of you make enough money? babies are expensive and it gets worse as they get older. i still grow and learn with my son every day. it is not easy being a parent. i would say give yourself time to e young and have fun. sometimes i wish that is what i did. there is nomore going out and having fun, you're life will revolve around that baby and so will all your money. being a mom has its ups and downs. think about what you put your mom through over the years; you will probably experience the same things as a parent yourself. sorry if this is too long, but just know what you are doing before jumping in. a baby is not an accessory that you can discard whenever you want, but it will be around all yor life depending on you. 

Name: lindzdc | Date: Aug 24th, 2007 12:57 PM
thanks kelli1 thats does say alot. i understand all of it. you really helped me a decision 


Name: ButterflyGurl13 | Date: Dec 3rd, 2007 9:09 AM
My mother was a very young mom it seemed to work good for her but she was REALLY mature...Haha...I'm 19 & i'm engaged id like to have kids maybe when i'm out of college..If your in college id wait if your out of college go for it if your married... 

Name: Lizzie Star | Date: Jan 20th, 2008 5:37 PM
No you're not to young! I had my first when I was 17 and I'm about to give birth to twins now any day! I'm 19 and have a fiancé Richard who's 31 

Name: jabeck | Date: Jan 20th, 2008 10:48 PM
Sometimes those maternal feelings hit early.. especially in a good relationship. Being a mom changes everything, I'm sure you've heard that one... But it's true. The most important job in the world is being a mother, so obviously you want the best for your future precious baby. Babies come first and need stable secure home with two loving parents, who know who they are and what they want out of life. It's hard to do that at 30+, let alone at 19, even if you are a mature young person.
First ask yourself why you want a baby now? Is it for yourself, your partner, or because you know that you can provide the best (nurturing-wise) for your child? First step is to settle into marriage (that's not easy either... even though you've been together for quite a while). I could have afforded to be a single mom.... but without a partner to help with all the needs a child? Very hard. And all this is assuming that the baby is healthy!

Please try to spend a week or two minimum with someone with a baby or toddler, 24/7... no hand-offs. That'd be a small taste of what you'd be in for...

You have plenty of time to cherish and nurture a beautiful soul after you are settled into life. 

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