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Name: Nikki21
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My daughter now 18 had been dating the same guy since she was 15. He just broke up with her and she is so broken hearted. She constanly calls his cell, sends him emails and harasses him. I don't know what to do to get through to her that it is over and it is time to move on. Any suggestions???
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Name: rain | Date: Jul 29th, 2006 10:54 PM
Try to show her how needy she looks to him now. Show her how she has to move on. When my daughter went through this, we tried to stay busy, watch movies, and go shopping. She called her friends to come over to keep her company. This is a hard sad lesson to watch our girls go through, but a necessary one. She has to hold up her head, become proud, single, and happy. This takes time. Sit with her, and hold her, then tell her its time to move on. 

Name: Lizzi | Date: Jul 30th, 2006 12:09 AM
Man,I've been there myself! I was seeing this guy when I was in highschool for about a year and a half and when he broke up with me,I was devastated! I called him all the time but all that did was make him angry. I couldn't eat,I couldn't sleep,I had anxiety big time. It was so bad that even after not seeing him all summer,I couldn't face being in classes with him when school started back up again which is partly the reason why I dropped out. I just couldn't stand to see him and not be his girlfriend.It took me a long time to get over my heartbreak but eventually I did. What helped me I think was keeping busy as much as I could and being with friends and doing things because it was the times when I was alone that I was hurting the most. 

Name: loveguide | Date: Aug 14th, 2006 6:10 PM
For one, you need to let her know that it is his loss. If he doesn't want her then he doesn't deserve her. This is normal when long term relationships end. I would recommend watching that she doesn't get into another long term relationship within a year. But you need to help her meet new people. She doesn't know guys yet, which is a basis for good relationships. She only knows that one guy. But the best thing to do right now is to be supportive and watch out for her. Make sure to set limits, parents are entitled to do that. But know when to let her do things on her own. She is an adult and needs to learn how to act like one. If you have any more questions visit my website, freewebs.com/loveguides or email me at [email protected]

Name: CutsBruises | Date: Aug 27th, 2006 9:51 AM
Im sorry to hear what shes going through.. the only way to get over a broken heart is to forget about them.. take her shopping.. get her some new clothes.. let her know your their for he.r 

Name: yet_another_tear | Date: Jan 19th, 2007 3:55 PM
LEAVE HER ALONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

Name: chantel1 | Date: Mar 8th, 2007 3:34 PM
when i broke up with my boy friend i didn't want to talk about it and it made me angry when some one tried to talk about it. i was engaged and was with him for 2 1/2 years and was devastated. i think yet another tears right LEAVE HER ALONE!!!!! she will get sick of being alone and the less you try to chear her up the faster she'll recover. go out do things, she'll get intrested and eventually join in, BUT WHEN SHE"S READY!!! 


Name: Amy19UK | Date: Mar 20th, 2007 9:12 PM
Hi, I'm 19 and been with my bf a while and when we broke up last year I just wanted someone there to talk to but I personally couldn't talk to my mum because we aren;t that close but my friends were my rocks and after breaking up I felt I couldnt live without him and they made me see that I can. I dont really know exactly how they did it but they were there for me so maybe ur daughter has a close friend that she confides in that can maybe help her out to see she doesn't need him. Maybe you could have a chat with a couple of her close friends and find out whats going on in her head.
All I can suggest is that u just be there for her when she needs a hug but don't pressure her, she will see that she is too good to be chasing after some boy that doesnt want to know. I know its hard for u to watch her look so desperate but right now she is feeling desperate. she will get over it i promise u that
Hope it works out ok
xxxx 

Name: janwat917 | Date: Jul 25th, 2008 6:33 PM
I'm sorry to hear that ur daughert is dealing with her first broken heart. I ahte to say it , but how she deals withthis one is very important. It will shape her for the rest of her life. As we all here know this is the first but most deffiantly will not be the last. You as her mother need to guide her through this. Let her know that she is still a wonderful person and that he just wasn't the one God has chosen for her. To cry is to heal. let her cry, but take the phone if she continues to call. If he wants to be a A** he can file criminal charges aginst her. and No one wants that. 

Name: janwat917 | Date: Jul 25th, 2008 6:36 PM
Ok so I need help. Is there any adults here that have been in a marriage with cheeting and still made it work after all the heartach healed. If so how did you heal the heartach? 

Name: Saix | Date: Jul 26th, 2008 5:07 PM
hey 

Name: Saix | Date: Jul 26th, 2008 5:08 PM
I lost my love one and she leave me for no reason its so hurt and crazy I cant do forget about her.... 

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Name: swi | Date: Nov 22nd, 2008 7:09 AM
hii,i m a girl nd i m in love with 1 guy we know each other from past 7 yrs nd our relation was very strong his whole family know our relation nd they were agree for our marrige bt in feb he nd his whole family went to usa nd daily he call me nd we talked 1hr bt in 14th aug he told me tht he loves me bt he cant marry me i asked him why u did it bt he told me i dont know nd his family members also very shocked they were also ask him why are you doing with her bt he just keep quit nd now he nd his family come back in india for 3 months nd he daily talk me bt our relation is very much changes nd he told me tht he marry me bt after 2 yr.

plz tell me wht can i do? 

Name: katherin788 | Date: Sep 26th, 2009 10:41 PM
Dear Nikki21,
Let me share my story really quick with you. I am now 20 years old, i just recently broke up with my bf of 5 years. I know how your daughter is feeling and let me tell you that time does heal every pain. In my case we were supposed to get engage this coming spring and well get married of course but he backed up and well its not going to happen. After two weeks i realized so many things and what i deserved and what i didnt. Having someone for so long can be so painful to let go but tell your daughter that it doesnt matter how much she calls him or tries to talk to him, he wont return unless its meant to be. Let her deal with the pain on her own, let her cry as much as she needs to trust me it did me some good. And let her know theres worst thing that could of happened. I know the loss is great and believe me these past two have been an emotional rollercoster me. Let her know everything is going to be ok! 

Name: TBird23 | Date: Sep 30th, 2009 10:08 PM
She has got to get a grip. Be there for her. Take her out to the movies, out to eat, to the mall, etc. Spend time with her. Listen to her. She needs to know this is not the end of the world. This has happened to lots of people. It is so heart breaking to love someone and not be loved back. She needs the love of her family and friends right now. Explain to her that she needs to stop the calls and emails. This is just going to make him hate her. And as cliche as this sounds, "Time will make things better." She needs to box up all of his gifts, letters, pictures etc. and say good bye. This relationship has died. She is only 18. I found my true love at 40 years old, after I had been married for 15 years. I know it hurts you to see her go through this, but this is part of life. 

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